Selfish me
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Ryan: I wish i HAD the History channel. Will hopefully get it when I move. IronicMn
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>Yes, I often got caught (and sometimes still do..) in the "at least I >have food and shelter, some people are starving on the streets" guilt >trap.
How about the, sixty years ago your people were put itno gas chanbers adn YOUR COMPLAINING? Trap? Took a while tog et over that one. Other than taht your points are very well taken Ryan IronicMn
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Hi Paul! > I just wanted to say "Hi". I don’t know why. Most of you folks seem to be > very kind people. A lot of you are lonely, a lot of you have real problems. > I can’t really say that I am lonely. I guess a small part of me is but the > rest is mostly well dead I guess. My job is OK, my life is OK. I look after > an elderly mother which is OK. In general things are OK.
It took me a while to realize that things can be NOT OK even if circumstances seem to be ok. I can’t stand it anymore when people are trying to tell me to be objective about my life because I believe that I am more objective than these advisors. I know that things are OBJECTIVELY ok in my life, but SUBJECTIVELY, they are not. I believe, now, that the subjective part of it might have more real significance than I thought before. So, I think it is all right if you don’t feel content with your situation. Partyman
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Hi IronicMn, > How about the, sixty years ago your people were put itno gas chanbers adn YOUR > COMPLAINING? Trap?
Even though I’m not Jewish, I still get caught into the "Holocaust" trap as well. Just a couple days ago, in fact, I was lumped under the covers on my comfortable bed, depressed, and the thought suddenly hit me: "you pathetically sit here loafing and wishing for more.. what would it be like to have lived in a concentration camp during WWII, you selfish little boy?!" And, since I frequently watch "The History Channel," I’ve been painted a pretty gruesome picture of the horrors that occured in Hitler’s concentration camps. This guilt isn’t limited to Jewish people, sadly. > Other than taht your points are very well taken Ryan
Thanks IronicMn. Ryan — Here’s what is real (Dandy Warhols–"Cool as Kim Deal") Hey-dee-ho-dee-ho-dee-ho- dee-hi-day-ho-day-hi-aye- ho-dee-dah-aye (Survivor–"Theme Song") Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ Before you buy.
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Everyone slows down at a car accident.. few stop to help the victims.. Pamela "IronicMn" <ironi…@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20001012210143.21109.00001835@ng-ce1.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I gotta say here that you ahve taken the expression if life hands you lemons > then make lemonsaide to a new lever. EVERYBODY slows down to look at a car > accident > Happy Birthday adn welcome to the group. > .>Where women are concerned I am as attractive as a road > >accident
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I gotta say here that you ahve taken the expression if life hands you lemons then make lemonsaide to a new lever. EVERYBODY slows down to look at a car accident Happy Birthday adn welcome to the group. .>Where women are concerned I am as attractive as a road – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->accident
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Hi Paul, > I wouldn’t say I am new to this group but I rarely post and quite often mail > is patchy so following threads isn’t always easy. > I just wanted to say "Hi". I don’t know why. Most of you folks seem to be > very kind people. A lot of you are lonely, a lot of you have real problems. > I can’t really say that I am lonely. I guess a small part of me is but the > rest is mostly well dead I guess. My job is OK, my life is OK. I look after > an elderly mother which is OK. In general things are OK.
That’s alright, the loneliness here varies in degree. I’ve only been lonely for two years (ever since I moved to this miserable college..) so I sometimes consider my pain insignificant in the face of what others have endured. However, all degrees of loneliness are welcome, even if it’s just a teensy bit! > I don’t really have any friends at the moment so I just wanted to say "hi" > to you. It’s my birthday today so I decided to take the day off and do > things that I normally don’t do. You know to cheer myself up and do things I > want to do. I know selfish but one day a year isn’t really bad I
hope. Hum.. doing things you enjoy only one day a year is far from selfish.. it practically makes you a saint, really! If I only indulged myself once a year I’d crack like an egg in a blender. > It is 3:18am on my birthday so I guess I should get some sleep before the > big day. Well it is big for me. > At 35 there is one thing I have learned. If you can’t find happiness; make > it so I try.Where women are concerned I am as attractive as a road accident > and when your luck is as bad as your looks then romance is nothing more that > a section of your video library on a Friday night but saying that: a bottle > of wine and a good meal is better that nothing and I consider myself lucky. > Many people have real problems.
Yes, I often got caught (and sometimes still do..) in the "at least I have food and shelter, some people are starving on the streets" guilt trap. I felt guilty for not being happy with what I’ve got.. and it was QUITE stressful, to say the least. It took me several years to shed that instinctive "food and shelter" guilt. I’ve discovered that it’s still possible to feel genuine empathy for the starving, etc. while simultaneously believing that I deserve more out of life, too. It took me a fair amount of time to balance both of these beliefs, though! > Anyway. I hope you don’t mind me sharing my thoughts with you. Forgive me. I > had no-one else.
That’s why we’re all here, for the most part.. please don’t feel bad about it. Ryan — Here’s what is real (Dandy Warhols–"Cool as Kim Deal") Hey-dee-ho-dee-ho-dee-ho- dee-hi-day-ho-day-hi-aye- ho-dee-dah-aye (Survivor–"Theme Song") Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ Before you buy.
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Happy Birthday to You.. Happy Birthday to you.. Happy Birthday Dear Paul Happy Birthday to you <maybe off key and not pleasant to everyone’s ear.. but twas sung for you today> And the word loneliness means the feeling that you are alone in the world.. as well as inside your head.. taking care of your mother is not an easy task.. you are a special man.. scroll please.. tis simply best for me to reply to your thoughts in your head "Paul" <pdev…@globalnet.co.uk> wrote in message
news:8s37m2$sh8$1@gxsn.com… > Hello everyone
<extending hand.. names Pamela> > I wouldn’t say I am new to this group but I rarely post and quite often mail > is patchy so following threads isn’t always easy.
Who follows threads.. <grin> I follow my imagination born of the words of another’s thoughts quite often.. and threads do not always reflect content .. and perhaps I am one who is most guilty of this.. I talk alot in text cause their is none to talk to in my *real* > I just wanted to say "Hi". I don’t know why. Most of you folks seem to be > very kind people. A lot of you are lonely, a lot of you have real problems. > I can’t really say that I am lonely. I guess a small part of me is but the > rest is mostly well dead I guess. My job is OK, my life is OK. I look after > an elderly mother which is OK. In general things are OK.
Glad you reached.. and the problems are quite varied.. perhaps those with the most.. don’t share them till they are ready to release in a sense.. I am glad your not thinking your lonely.. for me it is acceptable.. and quite normal.. kinda like your born alone, you die alone.. your a singular identity in the world.. and in reality.. most all human’s experience loneliness in their life.. If parts of you are dead.. then perhaps that empty spot .. no matter what it feels like is what drew you to loneliness.. and thus.. you are now welcomed to ASL in reality.. OK is OK.. however.. what would be the feeling of wow.. wonderment.. glourious.. heavensent.. and so on.. and so on and so on or etc., etc, etc.. as the King of Siam would say > I don’t really have any friends at the moment so I just wanted to say "hi" > to you. It’s my birthday today so I decided to take the day off and do > things that I normally don’t do. You know to cheer myself up and do things I > want to do. I know selfish but one day a year isn’t really bad I hope.
Hey.. that’s excellent.. for many would just say.. gee.. I have nothing to do.. instead.. you say.. I’m going for it baby.. and your going to make a difference inside of you.. differentiate this day from any other.. Tis not selfish, hugs.. tis an internal reach.. and give yourself credit for pushing "Send" > It is 3:18am on my birthday so I guess I should get some sleep before the > big day. Well it is big for me. > At 35 there is one thing I have learned. If you can’t find happiness; make > it so I try.Where women are concerned I am as attractive as a road accident > and when your luck is as bad as your looks then romance is nothing more that > a section of your video library on a Friday night but saying that: a bottle > of wine and a good meal is better that nothing and I consider myself lucky. > Many people have real problems.
Me thinks you have some internal issues yet to.. and your keeping your chin up and I know this feeling even when the world is encapsulating you and your fighting the darkness internally.. seek the possitive.. and.. your problems have value too.. so keep posting.. Pretty Please? > Anyway. I hope you don’t mind me sharing my thoughts with you. Forgive me. I > had no-one else.
Nope, no forgiveness required.. you reached.. and thus.. Welcome to ASL.. your part of us now.. stick around.. > All the best for now
and to you also.. for it is your birthday.. and though you are 35.. you may have just not seen or looked for the rainbow that is in reality.. life Pamela
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Hello everyone I wouldn’t say I am new to this group but I rarely post and quite often mail is patchy so following threads isn’t always easy. I just wanted to say "Hi". I don’t know why. Most of you folks seem to be very kind people. A lot of you are lonely, a lot of you have real problems. I can’t really say that I am lonely. I guess a small part of me is but the rest is mostly well dead I guess. My job is OK, my life is OK. I look after an elderly mother which is OK. In general things are OK. I don’t really have any friends at the moment so I just wanted to say "hi" to you. It’s my birthday today so I decided to take the day off and do things that I normally don’t do. You know to cheer myself up and do things I want to do. I know selfish but one day a year isn’t really bad I hope. It is 3:18am on my birthday so I guess I should get some sleep before the big day. Well it is big for me. At 35 there is one thing I have learned. If you can’t find happiness; make it so I try.Where women are concerned I am as attractive as a road accident and when your luck is as bad as your looks then romance is nothing more that a section of your video library on a Friday night but saying that: a bottle of wine and a good meal is better that nothing and I consider myself lucky. Many people have real problems. Anyway. I hope you don’t mind me sharing my thoughts with you. Forgive me. I had no-one else. All the best for now
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Paul <pdev…@globalnet.co.uk> wrote in message
news:8s37m2$sh8$1@gxsn.com… > Hello everyone
Hello > I wouldn’t say I am new to this group but I rarely post and quite often mail > is patchy so following threads isn’t always easy. > I just wanted to say "Hi". I don’t know why. Most of you folks seem to be > very kind people. A lot of you are lonely, a lot of you have real problems. > I can’t really say that I am lonely. I guess a small part of me is but the > rest is mostly well dead I guess. My job is OK, my life is OK. I look after > an elderly mother which is OK. In general things are OK.
Hello again. It sounds like you have alot to deal with, though, looking after your mother. Sometimes, that can really take more toll than you think. > I don’t really have any friends at the moment so I just wanted to say "hi" > to you. It’s my birthday today so I decided to take the day off and do > things that I normally don’t do. You know to cheer myself up and do things I > want to do. I know selfish but one day a year isn’t really bad I hope.
Happy birthday! I hope it’s good, and you come back and tell everyone all the things you did. > It is 3:18am on my birthday so I guess I should get some sleep before the > big day. Well it is big for me. > At 35 there is one thing I have learned. If you can’t find happiness; make > it so I try.Where women are concerned I am as attractive as a road accident > and when your luck is as bad as your looks then romance is nothing more that > a section of your video library on a Friday night but saying that: a bottle > of wine and a good meal is better that nothing and I consider myself lucky. > Many people have real problems.
You seem to have a pretty positive attitude. That’s an important thing. You’re lucky to have that. I’m sure you’re not quite the way you describe, though. WE’re always our own harshest critics. > Anyway. I hope you don’t mind me sharing my thoughts with you. Forgive me. I > had no-one else.
Hey, no problem. again, Happy Birthday.
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