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I say people’s name alot, because I hate generalized chat that purely exists for social construct purposes. "hi how are you" "I am fine" when neither one even has made a true connection with the other. I feel like saying "Hi Joe, what’s new with you today?" is more specific and personal and is more of a real actual attempt to connect with someone. If they choose to just say " oh not much" and walk away then they obviously didn’t get it. But oh well–I am sort of in a people suck mode right now, but I had a better day today than lately. cogge
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"Wmaebe1" <wmae…@aol.comnojunk> wrote > you devil you ;-)
oh, you have *no* idea. you’re married, right? wanna find out? LOL 
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Um, Thanks but I’ll pass. I’ve got enough problems at the moment. I’ll keep you in mind tho for when things start getting dull 
Temptation knocking at my door wrote: >oh, you have *no* idea. you’re married, right? wanna find out? >LOL >;)
pollyanna
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>From: "pheobe" pbtnospam…@hotmail.com >Date: 6/16/2004 1:15 PM Eastern Standard Time >(btw Pheobe isn’t my real name, just an alias)
And a very good alias it is. Has similar mythological roots to Diana. 
) Diana (of the Moon) "I am afraid we are not rid of God because we still have faith in grammar." –Friedrich Nietzsche
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"pheobe" <pbtnospam…@hotmail.com> wrote > I don’t understand why you need to hear your name though?
generally speaking i don’t. as a matter of fact i sometimes find it annoying when certain persons use my name. however, especially within the confines of a romantic relationship i think it’s important to use a partner’s name or "pet name." names are very personal and important. books and courses have been written around this topic and seminars conducted on the importance of a person’s name when conducting business with them or simply maintaining an interpersonal relationship. in my relationship with crystal i didn’t walk around obsessing about this topic; but it’s something that would bother me, usually when i was apart from her and the realization crossed my mind. "she never says my name." it was symptomatic of deeper issues within the relationship. simply put, she was selfish.
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? >maybe her >husband can help her sort it out when she gets home. >~:-P
pollyanna
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"Wmaebe1" <wmae…@aol.comnojunk> wrote > ?
i don’t expect anybody to pay attention to the details of my circus life, but i never hid the fact that crystal was married too — the difference being that her husband had completely abandoned her a couple months before we met. that fact alone should have been my cue to avoid her. would have dodged a great deal of heartache and allowed me to move on to other married women. lol – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >maybe her > >husband can help her sort it out when she gets home. > >~:-P > pollyanna
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you devil you ;-) <wmae…@aol.comnojunk> wrote – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> ? >i don’t expect anybody to pay attention to the details of my circus life, >but i never hid the fact that crystal was married too — the difference >being that her husband had completely abandoned her a couple months before >we met. that fact alone should have been my cue to avoid her. would have >dodged a great deal of heartache and allowed me to move on to other married >women. lol >> >maybe her >> >husband can help her sort it out when she gets home. >> >~:-P >> pollyanna
pollyanna
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Diana wrote: >I’m not sure. I always thought it was customary that the more familiar you
are with someone, the less often you use their name. That’s so true. I had my husbands name officially changed to ‘hon’ ;-) pollyanna
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"Wmaebe1" <wmae…@aol.comnojunk> wrote > That’s so true. > I had my husbands name officially changed to ‘hon’ ;-)
that’s part of the problem i didn’t even go into for the sake of brevity. she didn’t even have a "pet name" for me. she didn’t call me anything. for some reason she called me "woofie" in the very early stages of the relationship, but that soon died after the first couple of dates. regardless, i have a new set of problems now. my new gfriend, whose name happens to be cindy, just left here in a controlled emotional huff. i think she’s dealing with profound guilt issues. i wouldn’t know why. maybe her husband can help her sort it out when she gets home. ~:-P
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"Diana DeLuna" <nakedlightb…@aol.comehither> wrote > Crystal must have paid you a few compliments early on > in the relationship,…
well, now that ya forced me to think about it, she was complimentary of my bed manner, but what the hell is that? otherwise, it was like she had a psychological block against offering compliments on things that people really care about. and what was that name stuff about? i always make an effort to use a person’s name frequently when communicating with them, especially within a romantic relationship. i wasn’t exaggerating. she *never* called me by name. it was always "hey" and "hi" and "how’s it going?" without any use of my name. i wonder what that might signify in psychological terms. LOL or how could you have continued to be attracted to her? Your – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> brain is clouded with lust for the new one now. ;o) > Diana (of the Moon) > "I am afraid we are not rid of God because we still have faith in grammar." > –Friedrich Nietzsche
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>From: "Warlock" witc…@suck.com >Date: 6/7/2004 8:32 PM Eastern Standard Time > i always make an >effort to use a person’s name frequently when communicating with them, >especially within a romantic relationship. i wasn’t exaggerating. she >*never* called me by name. it was always "hey" and "hi" and "how’s it >going?" without any use of my name. i wonder what that might signify in >psychological terms. LOL
I’m not sure. I always thought it was customary that the more familiar you are with someone, the less often you use their name. But then, you’re right–it does sound like you’re taking a tried-and-true person for granted. And I definitely think it’s always nice to hear your partner say your name aloud in bed. Diana (of the Moon) "I am afraid we are not rid of God because we still have faith in grammar." –Friedrich Nietzsche
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new girlfriend. today she told me that i have beautiful eyes and she loves my smile. she also says my name over and over again and then laughs as she explains how much she enjoys saying my name. who cares, right? well, i bring it up for the sake of comparison. during my seven month relationship with crystal, she never paid me a single compliment that i can remember. i also don’t remember my name crossing her lips except when she was talking about me to others. never. she never said my name. wtf? crystal was a fucking b*tch! pardon my expressiveness, but i had a revelation today! LOL
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>From: "Warlock" witc…@suck.com >Date: 6/6/2004 8:42 PM Eastern Standard Time >during my seven month relationship with crystal, she never paid me a single >compliment that i can remember. i also don’t remember my name crossing her >lips except when she was talking about me to others. never. she never said >my name.
Really? Crystal must have paid you a few compliments early on in the relationship, or how could you have continued to be attracted to her? Your brain is clouded with lust for the new one now. ;o) Diana (of the Moon) "I am afraid we are not rid of God because we still have faith in grammar." –Friedrich Nietzsche
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