Lonely Loneliness

does anyone IRC?

Question:

Lu, I’m sorry I didn’t respond to your earlier post.  I don’t IRC, because I don’t really like it for some reason.  But, I live in Chicago, to answer your earlier question.  Very few people here seem to live where I do, and none of the ones who post regularly, I don’t think. Angela — "Everything ends badly…If it didn’t, it wouldn’t end" <wordsareg…@my-deja.com> wrote in message

news:8c612a$k3o$1@nnrp1.deja.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Since my inquiry about where everybody lives was such a rousing > failure, I figured I’d have another try at "reaching out" to anyone who > is interested in actual communication, actual conversation, actual > contact with another real live being of the human variety. > I admit I am starting to suspect that readers of this forum who fit > that criteria are probably in the distinct minority, considering that > precious few responded at all to my question as to geographic location. > I admit, too, that this perplexed me, given how many msgs are posted > here in which the author claims to be desperately lonely and desperate > for friendship. But then I realized that maybe the lack of response > simply means that not many people are comfortable letting others quite > THAT close just yet. Maybe they’re not up to ‘real life’ encounters, > especially if they’re already shy to begin with or self-conscious about > (lack of?) socialization skills, etc. > Then one of those cartoon lightbulbs went off over my pointy little > head and I thought — Hey! Why not ask whether anyone is interested in > an IRC chat online?! It’s so crazy, it just might work! > (Or, everyone will roundly ignore this msg, too, and continue posting > sad poetry and complaining about how they have nobody to talk to….. ) > Trying, and what else can I do — > -Lu > Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ > Before you buy.

Response:

I use ICQ on occasion, but I’ve never used IRC. BTW, in response to your earlier post on where we are from, I’m living in Ontario, Canada, but I’m originally from my mothers womb. _________________________________________________ If I had a life, I wouldn’t know what to feed it.

Response:

Hi Jeremy — To get what you need for setting up IRC, go here: http://www.mirc.com It’s very easy, honest. If you have any trouble getting the program loaded and set up, just holler here or via email and once you’re squared away we can figure out the when/where by choosing an IRC channel and time to meet. Good luck, and thanks for the response… looking forward to talking to you. -Lu Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ Before you buy.

Response:

Daysleeper — I don’t even have ICQ loaded on my machine anymore. When I did have it I used it only a handful of times… I don’t care for instant messaging and didn’t like their real-time chat interface very much though I realize it may have changed by now, as it’s been probably 2 years since I tried it. I don’t do much online chatting at all these days. Like alot of people, when I first got online (and for me this was almost 10 years ago, pre-Web) I couldn’t get enough of it! But the novelty wore off and I got tired of sifting through tons of stuff (and people) I had no interest in for the few rare exceptions, especially when my free time started to be less and less, so I just lost interest eventually. Now my forays into chat-land are much fewer and farther in between and my method not nearly as haphazard. Anyway, if you’d like to try the IRC chat thing, see my msg to Jeremy… there are several programs that will run IRC, the one I use is called "MIRC" and can be found at mirc.com …. the more the merrier, so by all means feel free. -Lu Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ Before you buy.

Response:

- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -On Sun, 02 Apr 2000 01:22:39 GMT, wordsareg…@my-deja.com wrote: >Daysleeper — >I don’t even have ICQ loaded on my machine anymore. When I did have it >I used it only a handful of times… I don’t care for instant messaging >and didn’t like their real-time chat interface very much though I >realize it may have changed by now, as it’s been probably 2 years since >I tried it. I don’t do much online chatting at all these days. Like >alot of people, when I first got online (and for me this was almost 10 >years ago, pre-Web) I couldn’t get enough of it! >But the novelty wore off and I got tired of sifting through tons of >stuff (and people) I had no interest in for the few rare exceptions, >especially when my free time started to be less and less, so I just >lost interest eventually. Now my forays into chat-land are much fewer >and farther in between and my method not nearly as haphazard. >Anyway, if you’d like to try the IRC chat thing, see my msg to >Jeremy… there are several programs that will run IRC, the one I use >is called "MIRC" and can be found at mirc.com …. the more the >merrier, so by all means feel free. >-Lu >Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ >Before you buy.

ICQ has an IRC style chat feature built in.  It also works in realtime. i.e. you see the letters as they are typed and backspaced. _________________________________________________ If I had a life, I wouldn’t know what to feed it.

Response:

Hi, Lu.  A lot of people are a little leery of posting personal info.  There is a guy who stops in here sometimes who, rightly or wrongly, has been accused of upsetting some people IRL.  See the link below. (If he’s lurking, watch what happens to me for posting this link…) Disraeli http://x33.deja.com/getdoc.xp?AN=598359777 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -wordsareg…@my-deja.com wrote: > Since my inquiry about where everybody lives was such a rousing > failure, I figured I’d have another try at "reaching out" to anyone who > is interested in actual communication, actual conversation, actual > contact with another real live being of the human variety.

Response:

I live on a different planet, also I am not fully a corporeal being, so I can’t easily make contact with folks. OTS – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -wordsareg…@my-deja.com wrote in message <8c612a$k3…@nnrp1.deja.com>… >Since my inquiry about where everybody lives was such a rousing >failure, I figured I’d have another try at "reaching out" to anyone who >is interested in actual communication, actual conversation, actual >contact with another real live being of the human variety. >I admit I am starting to suspect that readers of this forum who fit >that criteria are probably in the distinct minority, considering that >precious few responded at all to my question as to geographic location. >I admit, too, that this perplexed me, given how many msgs are posted >here in which the author claims to be desperately lonely and desperate >for friendship. But then I realized that maybe the lack of response >simply means that not many people are comfortable letting others quite >THAT close just yet. Maybe they’re not up to ‘real life’ encounters, >especially if they’re already shy to begin with or self-conscious about >(lack of?) socialization skills, etc. >Then one of those cartoon lightbulbs went off over my pointy little >head and I thought — Hey! Why not ask whether anyone is interested in >an IRC chat online?! It’s so crazy, it just might work! >(Or, everyone will roundly ignore this msg, too, and continue posting >sad poetry and complaining about how they have nobody to talk to….. ) >Trying, and what else can I do — >-Lu >Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ >Before you buy.

Response:

Hello Disraeli — > Hi, Lu. A lot of people are a little leery of posting personal > info. There is a guy who stops in here sometimes who, rightly or > wrongly, has been accused of upsetting some people IRL. See the > link below.

I followed the link(s), thanks for passing along the information. I hadn’t seen any reference to this particular thing before, although I have seen other posts which make it clear there is a lot of "history" between some of the group members but haven’t been too interested in looking up old msgs to try and untangle the various threads to figure out who’s telling the straightest story. I’m just not interested in that kind of unnecessary drama, it’s not why I’m here. Besides, dishonest or creepy people tend to show their true colors, if one pays attention and practices common sense. I can understand the reluctance some might feel though, after following those links. Thanks again for the information. -Lu Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ Before you buy.

Response:

Daysleeper: > ICQ has an IRC style chat feature built in. It also works in > realtime. i.e. you see the letters as they are typed and backspaced.

Right, I remember this. But another advantage IRC has is that it doesn’t require registration.. since this makes it possible to be more anonymous, I thought it might make some more willing to give it a try. Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ Before you buy.

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        I have a private channel on my website, loneliness and depression tis called. I’m an ICQer though, can’t handle busy chat rooms. Bill – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -wordsareg…@my-deja.com wrote: > Since my inquiry about where everybody lives was such a rousing > failure, I figured I’d have another try at "reaching out" to anyone who > is interested in actual communication, actual conversation, actual > contact with another real live being of the human variety. > I admit I am starting to suspect that readers of this forum who fit > that criteria are probably in the distinct minority, considering that > precious few responded at all to my question as to geographic location. > I admit, too, that this perplexed me, given how many msgs are posted > here in which the author claims to be desperately lonely and desperate > for friendship. But then I realized that maybe the lack of response > simply means that not many people are comfortable letting others quite > THAT close just yet. Maybe they’re not up to ‘real life’ encounters, > especially if they’re already shy to begin with or self-conscious about > (lack of?) socialization skills, etc. > Then one of those cartoon lightbulbs went off over my pointy little > head and I thought — Hey! Why not ask whether anyone is interested in > an IRC chat online?! It’s so crazy, it just might work! > (Or, everyone will roundly ignore this msg, too, and continue posting > sad poetry and complaining about how they have nobody to talk to….. ) > Trying, and what else can I do — > -Lu > Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ > Before you buy.

– http://www.crosswinds.net/~loneliness/loneliness.html http://www.crosswinds.net/~loneliness/poetry.html

Response:

I think just the thought of any conversation, in text or in the physical world, might be too scary for some reading or posting here… consider than there are (speaking from experience over time here) more people reading than there are posting and many are not posting because they are finding no words to write for various reasons… the pressure to come up with immediate responses in conversation is more than the pressure of responding at leisure here… and apparently (again, speaking from my experience in this group over the years of trying to encourage more interaction) most who post here have become comfortable with the low-pressure newsgroup format… I’ve even had angry resistance to some of my attempts to draw more out of people in this group at times… I feel it is an individual choice and if someone doesn’t wish more contact than an occasional connection in a newsgoup then it’s not for me make any sort of value judgment on that decision… for me, it would be foolish allow myself to feel satisfied with newsgroups as my only form of communication because I crave more… but for others it may be all they seek in reality… and for some, fear wins out over any chance of sharing more… that is the saddest loneliness I think, for it’s the simplest (not easiest) to remedy – IRC or ICQ or Yahoo or any chat room is a big step in that direction… and in person meetings are the next step… I’ve been invited to many but most are too far to get to (one’s coming up this month about 800 miles from here… but I suddenly have to find a new place to live as soon as possible so that’s out)… I’ve been sending emails to local groups and to listing on various connection websites www.friendfinder.com and www.sharerent.com to name two… I also have a listing on www.oneandonly.com … I’ve met several people already who’ve called in respond to my reaching out… in fact, I found my current roommate and will probably find my next roommate this way… my primary focus is offline these days… I posted my phone number here years ago and it’s still posted on the web on my pages and I welcome calls when I’m around to answer anyway, these are the thoughts your words inspired in me… as for getting to the IRC chat room… I don’t have the hard drive space on this laptop right now… I rarely open ICQ due to the drive space… chats of any kind would crash the system in mid-stream… but I support the idea and encourage you to keep asking and don’t get discouraged if you don’t get a lot of responses… if just a few people – if just one in the next month connects that way – it’s a great idea honest love, ric attitude isn’t everything, but it changes perception… perception isn’t everything, it just changes everything, from one point of view… wordsareg…@my-deja.com wrote in message

<8c612a$k3…@nnrp1.deja.com>… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Since my inquiry about where everybody lives was such a rousing >failure, I figured I’d have another try at "reaching out" to anyone who >is interested in actual communication, actual conversation, actual >contact with another real live being of the human variety. >I admit I am starting to suspect that readers of this forum who fit >that criteria are probably in the distinct minority, considering that >precious few responded at all to my question as to geographic location. >I admit, too, that this perplexed me, given how many msgs are posted >here in which the author claims to be desperately lonely and desperate >for friendship. But then I realized that maybe the lack of response >simply means that not many people are comfortable letting others quite >THAT close just yet. Maybe they’re not up to ‘real life’ encounters, >especially if they’re already shy to begin with or self-conscious about >(lack of?) socialization skills, etc. >Then one of those cartoon lightbulbs went off over my pointy little >head and I thought — Hey! Why not ask whether anyone is interested in >an IRC chat online?! It’s so crazy, it just might work! >(Or, everyone will roundly ignore this msg, too, and continue posting >sad poetry and complaining about how they have nobody to talk to….. ) >Trying, and what else can I do — >-Lu >Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ >Before you buy.

Response:

Since my inquiry about where everybody lives was such a rousing failure, I figured I’d have another try at "reaching out" to anyone who is interested in actual communication, actual conversation, actual contact with another real live being of the human variety. I admit I am starting to suspect that readers of this forum who fit that criteria are probably in the distinct minority, considering that precious few responded at all to my question as to geographic location. I admit, too, that this perplexed me, given how many msgs are posted here in which the author claims to be desperately lonely and desperate for friendship. But then I realized that maybe the lack of response simply means that not many people are comfortable letting others quite THAT close just yet. Maybe they’re not up to ‘real life’ encounters, especially if they’re already shy to begin with or self-conscious about (lack of?) socialization skills, etc. Then one of those cartoon lightbulbs went off over my pointy little head and I thought — Hey! Why not ask whether anyone is interested in an IRC chat online?! It’s so crazy, it just might work! (Or, everyone will roundly ignore this msg, too, and continue posting sad poetry and complaining about how they have nobody to talk to….. ) Trying, and what else can I do — -Lu Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ Before you buy.

Response:

sounds good to me.  i don’t have irc though. i’m definitely interested so please send me some info. on how to set everything up. thanks. great idea         jeremy — Please visit In August and Everything After: http://homes.arealcity.com/everythingafter/ {****For all the things I’m losing, I might as well resign myself to try and make a change.                          –  Adam Duritz  ****} <wordsareg…@my-deja.com> wrote in message

news:8c612a$k3o$1@nnrp1.deja.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Since my inquiry about where everybody lives was such a rousing > failure, I figured I’d have another try at "reaching out" to anyone who > is interested in actual communication, actual conversation, actual > contact with another real live being of the human variety. > I admit I am starting to suspect that readers of this forum who fit > that criteria are probably in the distinct minority, considering that > precious few responded at all to my question as to geographic location. > I admit, too, that this perplexed me, given how many msgs are posted > here in which the author claims to be desperately lonely and desperate > for friendship. But then I realized that maybe the lack of response > simply means that not many people are comfortable letting others quite > THAT close just yet. Maybe they’re not up to ‘real life’ encounters, > especially if they’re already shy to begin with or self-conscious about > (lack of?) socialization skills, etc. > Then one of those cartoon lightbulbs went off over my pointy little > head and I thought — Hey! Why not ask whether anyone is interested in > an IRC chat online?! It’s so crazy, it just might work! > (Or, everyone will roundly ignore this msg, too, and continue posting > sad poetry and complaining about how they have nobody to talk to….. ) > Trying, and what else can I do — > -Lu > Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ > Before you buy.

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