Lonely Loneliness

My goals for the week

Question:

nikki, i am so glad to hear that you are going to check out anad and oa meetings. know that initial anxiety is normal.  i love my meetings and i am sure you will find them helpful. shell

Response:

- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Ok, I am going to set some goals for once, and if I dont meet them, I wont beat myself up about them. 1) Call my primary care doctor and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist (for depression, anxiety and bulimia…and to get my meds situated) 2) Find an ANAD or OA group in my area. 3) THINK about the reasons WHY I binge/purge, and TRY to write these feelings down when I feel like I am on the verge of a bp episode. 4) not to let things people say upset me so (this one is hard!!!!!!)

Something my therapist taught me was to not try to "deny" emotions, because it’s almost impossible to do.  They just happen and then we try and deal with them by submerging them in other things.  he suggested that rather than telling ourselves that it was "wrong" to feel a certain way, it was more productive to try to pinpoint the emotion (anger, fear, loneliness, whatever), then accept that we feel like it, FEEL the hurt, think about why we feel like that, and write it down (or say it out loud in a private place where no-one can hear you).  Have a good cry, maybe, just try accepting the feeling and letting go of it so that it can’t hurt you any more. Once the raw emotion is released, it’s also easier to think about things more rationally and put them into their perspective – for instance if someone was  thoughtlessly rude or said something without realising that upset you, then you could think about ways of telling them that what they said upset you – and even if you didn’t actually say it to them (that’s a whole other story!), it’s a sort of practice for when you do feel able to do that. looks like you’ve made really positive plans for taking care of you – just take it one little bit at a time, ok.  Even if you get to the end of the week having achieved one of your goals, that’s one more goal achieved along the path to recovery.  Good luck! Fi – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -There…thats all for now….I have to start small. I have to admit, I am nervous about going to any ANAD or OA meetings….its as if I dont feel I "belong" there. But I will try. Love Nikki "… lost in the darkness of my own circumstance, criticizing echoes leaving me awake in the night… the barrier and blockades that keep me safe and in control while I pretend that I am okay… "

Response:

Ok, I am going to set some goals for once, and if I dont meet them, I wont beat myself up about them. 1) Call my primary care doctor and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist (for depression, anxiety and bulimia…and to get my meds situated) 2) Find an ANAD or OA group in my area. 3) THINK about the reasons WHY I binge/purge, and TRY to write these feelings down when I feel like I am on the verge of a bp episode. 4) not to let things people say upset me so (this one is hard!!!!!!) There…thats all for now….I have to start small. I have to admit, I am nervous about going to any ANAD or OA meetings….its as if I dont feel I "belong" there. But I will try. Love Nikki "… lost in the darkness of my own circumstance, criticizing echoes leaving me awake in the night… the barrier and blockades that keep me safe and in control while I pretend that I am okay… "

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