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Hi there, it’s nice to hear that your trying to be as supportive as possible and yes it does help. The problem is far more severe than you could imagine and she obviously needs to see a pdoc. or a therapist. Because I suffer from depression and my mum does as well I can (to a certain degree) understand what she is going through. Even having this knowlege I couldn’t help her when she was at her lowest. Talking helps and reasurance helps but in my case mum knows that I really do understand what’s going on with her. She is now in a nursing home and getting the treatment that she should have had several months ago. I’m so sorry that I can’t help you with any other advice but at least you know that your not alone and I’m thinking of you. Best wishes from Diana. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi everyone, this is my first post and I need some advice as I am not sure how to handle my current situation. My girlfriend suffers from major depression and anorexia, this has affected her sleeping patterns, and she needs to take sleeping tablets, since we have been together she has tried to commit suicide. I love her very much, but I can’t seem to be able to help her, I have tried reading some of the literature on the subject and I try to be as supportive as I can but I don’t seem to have much success in getting through to her. What I find difficult deal the fact her mood sort of fluctuate sometimes I get to see a glimpse of the wonderful person she is, and then she will go into some of the darkest moods I’ve seen. I see my future with her and she feels the same, but a lot of the time she questions what is the point of it "all", work, life, etc. All of this makes want to help her even more to get better or at least cheer her up somewhat, I know it not always possible and maybe not the best thing either, but I don’t know what to do. I struggle relating to the way she feels, as I am told that since I can’t because I have never suffered from depression and one cannot imagine what someone that does goes through and as hard as I try I find it difficult to communicate with her in terms how she feels. I would appreciate some input from someone, because I really not sure on what I can do to help her, I don’t want to lose her. Thanks Green Guy
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Hi everyone, this is my first post and I need some advice as I am not sure how to handle my current situation. My girlfriend suffers from major depression and anorexia, this has affected her sleeping patterns, and she needs to take sleeping tablets, since we have been together she has tried to commit suicide. I love her very much, but I can’t seem to be able to help her, I have tried reading some of the literature on the subject and I try to be as supportive as I can but I don’t seem to have much success in getting through to her. What I find difficult deal the fact her mood sort of fluctuate sometimes I get to see a glimpse of the wonderful person she is, and then she will go into some of the darkest moods I’ve seen. I see my future with her and she feels the same, but a lot of the time she questions what is the point of it "all", work, life, etc. All of this makes want to help her even more to get better or at least cheer her up somewhat, I know it not always possible and maybe not the best thing either, but I don’t know what to do. I struggle relating to the way she feels, as I am told that since I can’t because I have never suffered from depression and one cannot imagine what someone that does goes through and as hard as I try I find it difficult to communicate with her in terms how she feels. I would appreciate some input from someone, because I really not sure on what I can do to help her, I don’t want to lose her. Thanks Green Guy
Well, it seem youre taking the steps in the right direction, being there for her, trying to understand the situation. Remember now she has to want to help herself, is she in therepy? anything? Sounds like she needs to be. Stand by her, she will need some support when she does decide she needs help. Candy you can feel my anger you can feel my pain you can feel my torment driving me insane I can’t fight these feelings they bring only pain you can take away make me whole again
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Well, for one thing, Diana is right. Is she seeing a doc? She seems in a rather dangerous position. Lack of food, lack of sleep, lack of positive thoughts…. Di’s got the point, your girlfriend might need some pro help. Other than that….. well, I am a depressive girlfriend, okay. I do see a doc, though, and I do have a whole asd if I need a shoulder to sry on – which is important. Well, every once in a while I do question the purpose of Life the Universe and Everything, but in thise moment, what I need most is reassurance and care, and somebody’s presence, Somebody I trust, which is a very few. I have lows, but they pass. It’s like bridging the gaps, if someone’s here with me, it’s easier. Hold her, tell her you love her, that you’re with her. That’s she’s important to you. It sounds very ordinary, but this is a lot of us needs to hear when we’re in pain. How does she feel about touch? Hug her a lot, Hold her tightly (tightly is important), she needs this more than any other ordinary girl. Another point. She might be afraid to scare you away. It is easy to imagine. Come on, a couple of lows when I’m unable to utter a word, or a Take me home. Please. in the middle of a party, and here comes the end of the relationship. I’m afraid. There was a time when I didn’t care. I was too bad. It worked, surprisingly. It worked with my boyfiend, who stood by me. I think she appreciates so much the fact that you decide to stick around, that you probably cannot imagine that. Another thing is to bring her over here. Here, in the group, she would be free to talk about what’s troubling her, especially so, since we are like ly to understand. Good luck. DG
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Hi everyone, this is my first post and I need some advice as I am not sure how to handle my current situation. My girlfriend suffers from major depression and anorexia, this has affected her sleeping patterns, and she needs to take sleeping tablets, since we have been together she has tried to commit suicide. I love her very much, but I can’t seem to be able to help her, I have tried reading some of the literature on the subject and I try to be as supportive as I can but I don’t seem to have much success in getting through to her. What I find difficult deal the fact her mood sort of fluctuate sometimes I get to see a glimpse of the wonderful person she is, and then she will go into some of the darkest moods I’ve seen. I see my future with her and she feels the same, but a lot of the time she questions what is the point of it "all", work, life, etc. All of this makes want to help her even more to get better or at least cheer her up somewhat, I know it not always possible and maybe not the best thing either, but I don’t know what to do. I struggle relating to the way she feels, as I am told that since I can’t because I have never suffered from depression and one cannot imagine what someone that does goes through and as hard as I try I find it difficult to communicate with her in terms how she feels. I would appreciate some input from someone, because I really not sure on what I can do to help her, I don’t want to lose her. Thanks Green Guy
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi everyone, this is my first post and I need some advice as I am not sure how to handle my current situation. My girlfriend suffers from major depression and anorexia, this has affected her sleeping patterns, and she needs to take sleeping tablets, since we have been together she has tried to commit suicide. I love her very much, but I can’t seem to be able to help her, I have tried reading some of the literature on the subject and I try to be as supportive as I can but I don’t seem to have much success in getting through to her. What I find difficult deal the fact her mood sort of fluctuate sometimes I get to see a glimpse of the wonderful person she is, and then she will go into some of the darkest moods I’ve seen. I see my future with her and she feels the same, but a lot of the time she questions what is the point of it "all", work, life, etc. All of this makes want to help her even more to get better or at least cheer her up somewhat, I know it not always possible and maybe not the best thing either, but I don’t know what to do. I struggle relating to the way she feels, as I am told that since I can’t because I have never suffered from depression and one cannot imagine what someone that does goes through and as hard as I try I find it difficult to communicate with her in terms how she feels. I would appreciate some input from someone, because I really not sure on what I can do to help her, I don’t want to lose her.
For a person who’s never suffered from depression, you’re certainly far more patient and compassionate than many others in your situation. You’re to be commended. As for your SO, the bottom line at this point is that you can’t do anything to solve her problem _by_yourself_. That is, you’ve tried and tried to help her, and it hasn’t worked. She needs professional care, as soon as she can get it. The big stumbling block is that, as long as she feels help is pointless (or even that she doesn’t need it), she won’t go, and you won’t be able to convince her. This is where a mediation might be necessary. You, her family and friends (whoever of them is willing) and a counselor, preferably one trained in mediations, meet with your girlfriend, and try to convey to her how much she needs help, how worried you all are about her, and how she needs to accept that she can’t deal with this problem without professional help. (The mediator will help you beforehand with how to convey this to her.) Talk to a local counseling group and ask if they have anyone on staff that could provide this service for you. Best of luck to you both. LC stay well for the holidays
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My name is Olivia. I’ve been so depressed lately. I don’t know what to do. I’ve looked alot of places for help. But don’t want to be locked in any hospital. I have three small kids and no med. coverage. Some times I do some stupid things. And I wonder if it is because in the back of my mind I want to be dead.
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Olivia, I can relate to you, I have been depressed for a long time. and I have been in the hospital and I dont blame you for not wanting to go there….Is there any clinics around where you are that can help you with your meds? I can’t afford mine, but I go to a womens clinic and the psy that I see there gives me samples, when I can’t find another way to get them…Just a thought…
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My name is Olivia. I’ve been so depressed lately. I don’t know what to do . I’ve looked alot of places for help. But don’t want to be locked in any hospital. I have three small kids and no med. coverage. Some times I do some stupid things. And I wonder if it is because in the back of my mind I want to be dead.
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There’s this emptiness inside of me and I can’t seem to figure out what it is and why I feel that way. I feel like no one can hear me.
I hear you…and I know your pain…sometimes it gets so intense…I don’t know what to do… if you need to talk…i’m here…you can email me if you want… punk You got no one you can count on baby, not even your own brother, so if someone comes along and gonna give you some love and affection, I say get it while you can…get it while you can, don’t you turn your back on love.. – Janis
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hey there i am really depressed too and believe me i have alot of problems you are young go out and live it will and does get better believe me please contact me if you want to
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Hi, I wrote here before, but my post has disspeared, so I decided to re-write my first post.
Kanashimi, I just saw your first post; it didn’t disappear. I think it just took a while to show up. Feel free to email me if you’d like. I know what it’s like to feel empty inside and isolated from everyone. Your name sounds Japanese to me (I’m Asian American, by the way). -poc Do You Yahoo!? — For info about this service, see http://www.twwells.com/anon/ or e-mail:
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Hi, I wrote here before, but my post has disspeared, so I decided to re-write my first post.
I’m glad you did, but it would help if you’d not post in html. I have been feeling awful lately. For the past 5 days I have been crying on and off, sometimes I’d even cry in bed at night before I fell asleep. I can’t stand this pain anymore. My life feels so empty, I feel like I’m stuck in a prison, even when I go outside ( Which is rare, I mostly sit in my house and watch TV or get online ) There’s this emptiness inside of me and I can’t seem to figure out what it is and why I feel that way. I feel like no one can hear me. I’m scared about my future, I have no idea what I’m going to do. I’m 18 and have no plans. I live day by day worrying more and more as my 19th birthday gets close. I don’t really have anyone to talk to. The only person I can talk to is an online friend, but yesterday when I told him I was down and told him my troubles he started acting goofy. It scared me because he wasn’t acting like the person I thought I knew. That really scared me.
Sorry about that, but maybe he was acting goofy because he was a little scared and didn’t know how to respond. I know it is disappointing when people we hope can support us aren’t available, but please don’t think that your other friends or family might not be. You know best who you feel you can ask for help from, but I know in my case, when I’m feeling like you, I have a hard time focusing on who I might reach out to. So now I’m on my own, alone with these thoughts in my mind. I don’t want to cry anymore and I don’t want to feel this loneliness. Life feels so empty to me, I’m just so tired of everything. Please help me.
One thing at a time, okay? The future ain’t here yet, so instead of thinking about that, try to focus on ways to take care of yourself right now. I hope that, by posting here, you are considering the possibility that you may be experiencing depression. Here are some ideas where you can find help: o If you are at college, go or call to the campus clinic. o Open the telephone book. Many of them have listings at the front of the book. Look under mental health and crisis intervention or community services. You don’t have to be in a crisis to say, "I need some help." o Call a religious leader at your church or temple. o Call your doctor. Call a hospital. It might take a little time and even some red tape. You might get referred here and there a bit. Be patient, though. You’ve started the ball rolling. If you have been feeling bad for a long time, you might have moments or days of feeling better. I hope you do. I also hope that you don’t talk yourself out of following through with a consultation with a professional who can help you, like I used to do. I’m not a doctor and I should not have been making medical decisions about myself. It is okay to say to him or her, "I’m feeling pretty good today, but for the last XX days, I’ve had a rough ride." — Gary
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I need some help.
You have a right to grieve and be sad when bad things happen to you. Let out the grief and the anger and then maybe some healing will come to you. Jay H UPDATED Web page at http://dspace.dial.pipex.com/town/close/xhq10/mem.htm I’ve been Jay H, Canarybird, Empty Cage, Serin, Phoenix, even Crow. Let’s see if I can stick with this one for a while.
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I need some help. I don’t know what to do. My fiancee left me 2 months ago for another guy. I thought we had the most incredible relationship. we did everything together. I loved her with everything, I built my life around her. Then she left me and told me that she had been seeing someone for a while. I was crushed. I have been unable to do anything, I can’t eat, sleep, or do anything without being so thoroughly depressed. I just want to die. I want to forget about everything. I hate myself, I hate life. I wake up from 8 hours of restless sleep tired as anything. She goes to my church, she used to constantly email me until I asked to to stop, and now she gets all of her friends to tell me about how she and her boyfriend go out a lot and have great times and party. I don’t know what to do. A couple weeks ago I was scared about what was happening to me, but now I just want everything to be over. I am so sick of hurting, of people that like other people hurting. Can someone help? Matt
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