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Tom, I’m sure I am one of the people you are referring to as a "foe" on this news group. I know we started off on the wrong foot and butted heads like two rams for a reason I still don’t quite understand. As one of the recipients of your less than tender, sympathetic, compassionate and caring posts, I just wanted to say….. even though you really pissed me off at the time, I am willing to publicly make amends with you. I have read a few of your posts since our blow-up and I can see you really do have a caring side. I have actually agreed with quite a few things you have written, but I didn’t respond to them because I didn’t want to provoke you if you were still angry at me. I realize now that you are suffering like the rest of us. I am a big girl and I am willing to let bygones be bygones if you are. Peace? Ida >>george Luby wrote in message
<9535-37050278…@newsd-281.iap.bryant.webtv.net>… dear Mary, If your message was for me, Tom Luby, I thank you very much. If its for another Tom, than i feel like an idiot. Whats bothering me? Only the last 25 years of an hell on earth existence. But, other than that, nothing. Are you saying my replies to posters havent been as nice and compassionate as you are used to? I am not sure what you are trying to communicate. As i wrote to Trevor once, I still have alot of unresolved anger in me due to a very abusive upbringing, and this severe OCD, GAD and depression I have been in for 25 years now. I apologize if some of my posts are less than tender, sympathetic, compassionate and caring. I dont deny my ability to get very angry over some posts, but i also have shown a compassionate and supportive side as well. I am really trying to find a middle ground when replying to others. Sometimes i succeed and sometimes i fail. I thank you for your kind words of caring and support. Even with an above average amount of anger, i feel i have made both friends and foes alike, on this website, just as i do in my regular life. Add to the above description, great depression, loneliness, isolation, self-hatred, zero self-esteem, and just the constant pain from this illness, and its not always easy to be Mother Teresa. Thanks for caring (if it was for me), Tom Luby
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Tom, You are a very kind and supportive person. I wish you wouldn’t be so hard on yourself. It’s OK to be angry sometimes. You are human!!! Be nice to you….
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Dear Ida, thank you for your very nice and consillatory post. I really respect you for the courage, decency and character you showed in posting to me publicly and extending the "olive branch" out to me. Thank you, again. It shows you’re a better or more secure person than i am. I want to apologize to you for any mean, harsh and disparaging posts or comments i made to you, many weeks or months ago. Like you, i cant even remember what we were fighting about. So, typical of petty squabbles. But, i wil take FULL blame for starting the antagonistic feelings between us. I know or remember that much. I was in "attack mode" back then, new to the group, and came on way too strong. I am 100% sure I did "piss you off" and have always felt badly about that. If you read any of my posts to Trevor, under the post heading, "TO KBETH—PLEASE READ", you would have seen i was admitting as much to him about my anger, why i have it, some guilt about it, and my desire to be more moderate in my replies. Not mean and attacking, nor meek and self-deprecating. One passage went as follows:
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