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Question:

Will the next survey ask for phone numbers? One should use extreme CAUTION in revealing too much personal info over the net / The person asking may well be attempting to garner info for "science", or may have a HIDDEN agenda / Asking personal questions about someone in an open forum is exposing certain criteria that may be used by any number of "LURKING EYES" / Be SMART, as the truth is, not ALL people walk in the same moral code as others / RED FLAGS should go up when ever anyone asks INTIMATE questions in an open forum / Loneliness can sometimes cause us to put ourselves in positions to be exploited / Have fun, but be safe! "LONELINESS IS ONE OF LIFE’S MOST HURTFUL CONDITIONS, BUT IT ALSO BREEDS ART AND CULTURE"                                 woody guthrie

Response:

I said they "should."  I’m aware people use it in determining a partner.  Too me the more walls you put up the less options you have. I think it would be just as rational to say "You open you egg from the top!  Your not the one for me!" > > Too many religious questions which should not be relevant. > so you think !!! > —

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Response:

In general to the whole concept, not you.. just feeling internal agitation at myself over the holiday thingies.. tired of feeling like a hamster on a spinning wheel. reality checked in of how I don’t even feel comfortable going out now alone, more self entrapment I guess and it checked in kinda hard internally like a kick in the gut. I kick me pretty hard when I’m down too, isn’t anyone else to do this to me but myself actually. Pamela "dan, dhrm77" <___none…@hotmail.com> wrote in message

news:3a516db0@muntnews.marshall.edu… > > I’m sorry.. but I’m kinda bitter right now too.. > You mean towards me ? or in general ?

<sniped a whole bunch> – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> — > Until next time, > Dan

Response:

<ericwi…@my-deja.com> wrote in message news:92srhl$vuj$1@nnrp1.deja.com… > I said they "should."  I’m aware people use it in determining a > partner.  Too me the more walls you put up the less options you have.

This "survey" wasn’t about how to make a selection, but rather : – what means you choose to meet people – how do you behave with people. – and how do you use the knowledge of who know better than yourself…. … > I think it would be just as rational to say "You open you egg from the > top!  Your not the one for me!"

Obviously you choose to ridicule a very important issue. I believe that being on the same wavelength on a religious level is very important if not THE most important criterium. If you are not, and your relationship with God is important to you, it can lead to a pretty bad relationship later on. I can see it around me, and I broke a relationship specifically because there wasn’t compatibility at this level. As hurtfull as it was, I knew I had to do it because it could have become a nightmare 10 years later. > > > Too many religious questions which should not be relevant. > > so you think !!! > > — > Sent via Deja.com > http://www.deja.com/

Dan

Response:

Because one of you was "completely right" and were unwilling to see things from other prospectives.  Or at least unable to accept them in others.  I guess I just see religion as anti-logic.  Does not mean I would not be accepting towards someone reguardless. > wasn’t compatibility at this level. As hurtfull as it was, I knew I had to > do it because it could have become a nightmare 10 years later. > > > > Too many religious questions which should not be relevant. > > > so you think !!!

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Response:

In article <3a4d3eb3.11176…@news.charter.net>,   dea…@my-deja.com (Nuts/CE) wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> OK, so I’ve been thinking about the whole dating ritual and the > beliefs men and women have about making the first move, whether that > is asking the person on a date or if it is making a physical advance. > In my opinion, men and women are in a quandary. While the women’s > movement has changed a lot of attitudes toward dating,  I know that I > still feel uncomfortable asking someone on a date and even more > uncomfortable making the first move physically, and I don’t think I’m > alone in this. On the other side of the coin, I think men might be a > little more hesitant to advance too far with a woman. > Those are only my feelings though, and I’m wondering how other people > feel.  I’ve decided to research this by distributing a survey.  I may > write a magazine or journal article out of this, or I might not.  I’ll > see what kind of response I get.  Your responses will be considered > anonymously, and your name will go no further than my inbox.  If you > want to respond without a real name, that’s fine too. > For the purposes of this survey, I’m defining physical advances as > being any first time physical contact with a person that would advance > beyond friendship.  This could be holding hands, kissing, intimate > hugging, or even just placing a hand on another person’s arm or leg > for an extended amount of time.  I’m defining sexual advances as > touching under the clothes or in a "private" area above clothes.  By > sex I mean intercourse or oral sex, (or discussions of such in the > case of phone or Internet relations) > I’m trying to reach a wide population of people, so this applies to > people who are no longer dating as well.  Just change the "are’s" to > "were’s".  If you are not heterosexual, I’d still be interested in > some of your attitudes and practices regarding dating, just apply the > proper sex to the question. > Any help in distributing this survey to friends would be greatly > appreciated. > datingsurvey2…@yahoo.com > Gender

female > Age

17 > Marital status

single > Sexuality (heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual)

unsure > Country

USA > Are you from a rural or urban environment?

rural > What decade did you start dating?(1930s, 1950s, 1980s?, 1990s?)

1990’s – but i’ve never really dated and i’ve only had one boyfriend > Have you dated within the past 10 years?

not really > If you are currently dating (within the last year), have you dated > consistently since you first began dating? > a)Yes > b)No, did not date for several years > c)No, had a committed relationship for several years

no but did have a turbulent relationship for several months. > Have you ever experienced a sexually traumatic event (rape, abuse, > etc)? > If you answered yes on the above question, did the event occur on a > date? > How has your religion influenced your dating, if at all? > For men

yes.  i decided not to kill him because i was afraid of burning in hell. > Where do you usually meet your dates (bars, parties, Internet, dating > services, work, mutual friends)?

12-step meetings > What sort of dating activities do you engage in on the first few dates > (parties, bars, concerts, coffee, movies, videos?)

i would hate any places where there were other people. > Do you believe it is ok for a woman to ask a man on a date? > a)yes > b)no

no > If you answered yes to the above question, do you like it or prefer > for a woman to ask you on a date? > a)yes > b)no > Do you believe it is ok for a woman to make the first physical > advance? > a)yes > b)no

no > Does the same apply for sexual advances? > a)yes > b)no

yes > Do you like it or prefer for a woman to make the first physical > advance? > a)yes > b)no

not unless she looks like christina applegate. > Does the same apply for sexual advances? > a)yes > b)no

yes. > If a woman asks you on a date, do you think that the woman wants to > become physical with you? > a)yes > b)no

yes. > Does the number of dates influence whether or not you will make a > physical advance? > a)yes > b)no

it shouldn’t.  chemistry is chemistry. > Does the same apply for sexual advances? > a)yes > b)no

yes.  same difference. > When you make a physical advance, what is it based on?  (her advance, > body language, verbal messages, number of dates)?

if a guy makes an advance on me i would assume it would be based on chemistry. > When making a physical advance how do you start (hand holding. > Kissing, etc)?

my ex boyfriend grabbed me by the throat and gave me a really nice kiss. > At what point will you make a sexual advance (touching under clothes, > oral sex, intercourse)?

not sure. > Do you ever ask your date if it is OK to proceed physically? > a)yes > b)no

no. > Do you ever fear being rejected when making a physical advance? > a)yes > b)no

no because i don’t make them. > Does the same apply for sexual advances? > a)yes > b)no

yes. > Do you ever fear being accused of date rape when making a sexual > advance on a woman? > a)yes > b)no

n/a > Are your dating practices ever influenced by drugs or alcohol?  If so, > how frequently?

yes.  this wasn’t a very good idea. > Are your dating practices regarding making the first move different > than when you first started dating?

oh, i just realized i answered the questions for men.  sorry.  please disregard. > For Women > What sort of dating activities do you engage in on the first few dates > (parties, bars, concerts, coffee, movies, videos?)

nothing with other people.  maybe a pint of rum and a game of chess. > Where do you usually meet your dates (bars, parties, Internet, dating > services, work, mutual friends)

12-step meetings. > Do you believe it is ok for a woman to ask a man on a date > a)yes > b)no

no > Have you or do you feel comfortable asking a man on a date > a)yes > b)no

no, i’d feel like a dumbass. > On a date do you believe it is ok to make the first physical advances? > a)yes > b)no

i would prefer not to.  makes it harder to gauge what’s going on with him if i’m busy making advances. > Does the same apply for sexual advances? > a)yes > b)no

yes. > Have you or do you feel comfortable making the first physical advances > on a date > a)yes > b)no

no. > Does the same apply for sexual advances? > a)yes > b)no

yes.  didn’t i already answer this question? > Does the number of dates you’ve been on influence how far you will go > physically? > a)yes > b)no

no > Does the number of dates influence whether or not you will make a > physical advance? > a)yes > b)no

no. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->    If you answered yes to the above question, how do you make the > physical advances

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