Lonely Loneliness

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Dun work for me either and like Bill, I also use OE, but I usually call it Look Out.  :) Courtney – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Whatever it is, it ain’t workin too well. Working just fine for me, Bill. Tracey I’m using OE.   Maybe you’re using something else.   Either that, or you have to click folders within folders to get to it.

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Check your posting settings.  Still ain’t working right.   Maybe it’s because you’re using MIME.    Whatever it is, it ain’t workin too well.

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 Whatever it is, it ain’t workin too well. Working just fine for me, Bill. Tracey

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Whatever it is, it ain’t workin too well. Working just fine for me, Bill. Tracey

I’m using OE.   Maybe you’re using something else.   Either that, or you have to click folders within folders to get to it.

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burro5944 said for all posterity… Lauri: I have just read your post. I am in week 4 of a divorce proceeding after a 35 year marriage and the loneliness is about unbearable. It seems as there is no one on this group that has had long marriages and has become one with there mate  I am 62 and what does the future hold for me?  It is a combination of great fear coupled with the enormity of an unyielding loneliness.

I think fear is a big problem for a lot of people.  What exactly are you afraid of?  This may not be an easy question to answer. I understand the loneliness part, although it’s only been 4 weeks for you.   I have no idea where you live or what your situation is like, but the best advice anyone can give you is to get yourself out of the house and find reasons (or excuses) to be around other people.   Hobbies, volunteer work, classes, or even some jobs at least give you some social time with others.   I’m only 48 (okay guys, hold the snickers at the "only" part) but I really had to work at getting myself out of the house and slowly meeting people, some of whom turned out to have similar stories.   At this point, I’ve been divorced for just under two years.  I sleep alone at night (yeah, bummer), but I do have a number of friends and I rather like my life at this point. Casey I drive way too fast to worry about cholesterol.

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Re: The Lonelyness ever go away Lauri: I have just read your post. I am in week 4 of a divorce proceeding after a 35 year marriage and the loneliness is about unbearable. It seems as there is no one on this group that has had long marriages and has become one with there mate  I am 62 and what does the future hold for me?  It is a combination of great fear coupled with the enormity of an unyielding loneliness. Sorry to vent on this but just needed to tell someone. Thanks for listening. Barry – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – *Enjoy* being alone, don’t avoid it – counter-intuitive but it works (eventually). Bogart, I appreciate that idea, but what if one is always alone, working alone, sleeping alone, eating alone, etc. Go even farther into it? Maybe that really is the key. I dunno about that.  Humans are social creatures.  How about this:  If people are lonley, seek out other people.  There is a whole range of life between abject lonliness (as Sid says, working alone, sleeping alone, eating alone) and having a mate.  Finding others to socialize with in places like church, work, the bookstore, etc,  can do a lot towards helping with lonliness.  I really dislike the idea that is promoted here, that people who are lonely must somehow not love themselves, and should force themselves to be alone until they can somehow learn to bear it. This weekend has been a very lonely one for me.  I thought I might actually cry this afternoon, and then I went to my mothers house and visited with her and my 7-year-old nephew.  Nothing like a visit with a bright little first grader to make things a whole lot better.  :) Lauri in WA I like my email spamless

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