Looking for Smashing Pumpkins fans
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Hi. I am a 20 year old female student, as lonely as hell. I live near Melbourne and was wondering if there is anyone around my age out there who is lonely like me and would like to chat sometime. Also, the SP concert is on soon and I have no one to go with. p…@hotmail.com
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Tristessa, If it’s not too late, just go for it! Go to the concert by yourself! There will be so many people there doing the same as you and you’ll fit right in. It will feel good to be able and actually go out and do stuff like that on your own. I did it at a U2 concert back in 1987 when I was your age!! The time passes so damn fast! h@shi ><
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OH MY GOD I ADORE THE SMASHING PUMPKINS ! HOW COOL ! I’m 17 years old, speaking of "Adore" i can’t wait for it to come out! I ‘ll chat with you anytime, anyplace about them. I’m also very lonely. W/B! chris
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I’d pay to go see a Smashing Pumpkins concert, even by myself i wouldn’t care! I’d pay all my money wow! I ‘d go with you! but i don’t even know where Melbourne is! Man I’d do anything! You are soooo lucky! I saw them before and had crappy seats! chris
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Hi, everyone. I’m very glad I found this newsgroup, and I’d like to introduce myself to anyone who’s listening. My name’s Matthew, and I’m a 30-year-old Australian living in the UK. Basically, I came over here to be with my British wife, who I met in Sydney eight years ago. She was everything to me. Late last year, she suddenly announced that she’d met someone else and was leaving me. She eventually did just that in January, but only a week later came back and told me she wanted a fresh start. Since then, things haven’t gone well, mainly because she won’t show a little empathy and really talk to me. Currently, she’s staying around the corner at a friend’s house, and I have no idea what will happen. Needless to say, I’m now trying to cope with an awful lot of loneliness, grief and anger, and not always doing very well. I went on Prozac for a while, but I can’t say it did me much good. It’s funny how all the cliches turn out to be true. You just don’t realise it until you’ve had your heart thoroughly broken for the first time. For six months now I’ve been wracking my brain trying to imagine where I went wrong: Was I violent? Was I insensitive? Was I stingy with money? Was I lazy? Did I have a drug or alcohol problem? Was I a selfish or boring lover? The answer to all these questions is no! I left my family and friends behind and travelled halfway around the world to be with this woman. I loved her with my heart, my body and my soul, and I suspect I still do. I know that none of this is exactly uncommon (in fact, it seems that almost everyone I talk to these days has been through the same hell, there’s a plague of unfaithfulness going on out there), but that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with, or any more right. I feel there’s a chance – maybe a good one – that my wife will slowly start to change her mind and come back into our marriage. Certainly the other man is well off the scene. I know that I’m very vulnerable right now, and that I’m taking a hell of a risk, but I don’t really know what else to do. When you love someone, you have to try, even if you’re close to losing all hope. I’m deeply concerned, because I don’t want to wind up unable to love. Any thoughts, anyone? (Anybody e-mailing me back to tell me I’m a complete idiot need not bother, I already know that!) Also, I don’t know if I can offer any useful advice to anyone else, but I’d be delighted to try. I’m a good listener, and a hopeless romantic. mfra…@globalnet.co.uk
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Matthew Frater wrote: > Hi, everyone. > I’m very glad I found this newsgroup, and I’d like to introduce myself to > anyone who’s listening. > My name’s Matthew, and I’m a 30-year-old Australian living in the UK. > Basically, I came over here to be with my British wife, who I met in Sydney > eight years ago. She was everything to me. > Late last year, she suddenly announced that she’d met someone else and was > leaving me. She eventually did just that in January, but only a week later > came back and told me she wanted a fresh start. > Since then, things haven’t gone well, mainly because she won’t show a little > empathy and really talk to me. Currently, she’s staying around the corner at > a friend’s house, and I have no idea what will happen. Needless to say, I’m > now trying to cope with an awful lot of loneliness, grief and anger, and not > always doing very well. I went on Prozac for a while, but I can’t say it did > me much good. > It’s funny how all the cliches turn out to be true. You just don’t realise > it until you’ve had your heart thoroughly broken for the first time. For six > months now I’ve been wracking my brain trying to imagine where I went wrong: > Was I violent? Was I insensitive? Was I stingy with money? Was I lazy? Did I > have a drug or alcohol problem? Was I a selfish or boring lover? The answer > to all these questions is no! I left my family and friends behind and > travelled halfway around the world to be with this woman. I loved her with > my heart, my body and my soul, and I suspect I still do. > I know that none of this is exactly uncommon (in fact, it seems that almost > everyone I talk to these days has been through the same hell, there’s a > plague of unfaithfulness going on out there), but that doesn’t make it any > easier to deal with, or any more right. > I feel there’s a chance – maybe a good one – that my wife will slowly start > to change her mind and come back into our marriage. Certainly the other man > is well off the scene. I know that I’m very vulnerable right now, and that > I’m taking a hell of a risk, but I don’t really know what else to do. When > you love someone, you have to try, even if you’re close to losing all hope. > I’m deeply concerned, because I don’t want to wind up unable to love. > Any thoughts, anyone? (Anybody e-mailing me back to tell me I’m a complete > idiot need not bother, I already know that!) Also, I don’t know if I can > offer any useful advice to anyone else, but I’d be delighted to try. I’m a > good listener, and a hopeless romantic. > mfra…@globalnet.co.uk
Welcome, Matthew. If you are a fool, you join the army of many. <smile> There are many of us who have beaten our heads against the same wall. I think we go from WC Field’s, "If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again. Then give up, because there’s no point in being a damn fool about the whole thing." to, "I have to try, just one more time." You will need to find out from *her*, why she did what she did. For if you are to try again, it must be known. Whatever her reason for betraying your trust, you need to be aware that, once done, easier done the next. I know there are others here that have gone through and are going through the same thing. You will be able to help, and in turn may find help. We will care and help as we can, according to our individual experiences and in our individual ways, but with a "group" feeling of caring that shall enfold you and comfort you. : ) J — May I Always Live Where The Sky Is Open Fences Are Not, And The Spirit Walks. A Sioux Perspective
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Hi Matthew, There is one thing I have learned in some of the counsiling I have been through and the thing that we do here is communicate. Communication is a must when you have things to deal with. Instead of asking youself all thise questions you should try to ask her in a way that doesn’t demand an answer. Instead gives you both a topic to discuss. If you don’t get the answer you are looking for listen to the answer she gives you without over-anylizing it. If you still don’t quite understand her answer put it in the back burner and move on to the next question. I don’t know how she reacts to questions like that but if she refuses to talk about it. I don’t know about you but I think it really is terrible to have someone right there and still be lonely. Communication man. That’s the key. An open mind doesn’t hurt either. If you really love her and you sound like you really do. It can’t hurt to try to use you communication skills. Tell her how you feel. Talk about the things that you don’t understand make her aware that you want to listen to her and you need her to listen to you. And BE HONEST with her. If you try head games you will surely ruin everything you are trying to accomplish. That’s just my two cents. Maybe I’m wrong. Good Luck Matthew I will be hoping for you. Peace Cobra – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Matthew Frater wrote in message <6jner4$or…@heliodor.xara.net>… >Hi, everyone. >I’m very glad I found this newsgroup, and I’d like to introduce myself to >anyone who’s listening. >My name’s Matthew, and I’m a 30-year-old Australian living in the UK. >Basically, I came over here to be with my British wife, who I met in Sydney >eight years ago. She was everything to me. >Late last year, she suddenly announced that she’d met someone else and was >leaving me. She eventually did just that in January, but only a week later >came back and told me she wanted a fresh start. >Since then, things haven’t gone well, mainly because she won’t show a little >empathy and really talk to me. Currently, she’s staying around the corner at >a friend’s house, and I have no idea what will happen. Needless to say, I’m >now trying to cope with an awful lot of loneliness, grief and anger, and not >always doing very well. I went on Prozac for a while, but I can’t say it did >me much good. >It’s funny how all the cliches turn out to be true. You just don’t realise >it until you’ve had your heart thoroughly broken for the first time. For six >months now I’ve been wracking my brain trying to imagine where I went wrong: >Was I violent? Was I insensitive? Was I stingy with money? Was I lazy? Did I >have a drug or alcohol problem? Was I a selfish or boring lover? The answer >to all these questions is no! I left my family and friends behind and >travelled halfway around the world to be with this woman. I loved her with >my heart, my body and my soul, and I suspect I still do. >I know that none of this is exactly uncommon (in fact, it seems that almost >everyone I talk to these days has been through the same hell, there’s a >plague of unfaithfulness going on out there), but that doesn’t make it any >easier to deal with, or any more right. >I feel there’s a chance – maybe a good one – that my wife will slowly start >to change her mind and come back into our marriage. Certainly the other man >is well off the scene. I know that I’m very vulnerable right now, and that >I’m taking a hell of a risk, but I don’t really know what else to do. When >you love someone, you have to try, even if you’re close to losing all hope. >I’m deeply concerned, because I don’t want to wind up unable to love. >Any thoughts, anyone? (Anybody e-mailing me back to tell me I’m a complete >idiot need not bother, I already know that!) Also, I don’t know if I can >offer any useful advice to anyone else, but I’d be delighted to try. I’m a >good listener, and a hopeless romantic. >mfra…@globalnet.co.uk
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Hey I’m a fan too. I’m Laura, I’m 18. I don’t live anywhere near Melbourne either, but I wish I did, cause If I did I’d probably have seen Jeff Buckley perform live before he passed away, and that , right now, seems like the one thing I would do if I had one wish. Laura My poetry can be found at http://www.angelfire.com/al/poetryetc
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my husband hasn’t left me, but we have both been wronged in the same way as you, he was married at the time. mine was just a fiance. sean’s ex-wife is still with the guy….. i think some people just don’t know when they have a good thing. i don’t want to take sides, so i will keep this short. my guy was seeing someone on the side-when i left it took me awhile to get back in the swing o things, but i was young and resiliant. my husband loved being married, she just wanted more. some people are immature. i have no answers, except that the hurt will eventually fade to a dull whimper. and that i would’ve melted if someone from another country would’ve followed me to be married. get a dog to replace her until all the feelings/relationship is figured out, it might make ya feel better- having another around you instead of being alone. i am about to get a dog, so that i will have someone to go walking with me while my husband works this summer(my friends are moving, and i haven’t gotten any new ones yet-it’s hard!) beh…@mailexcite.com "Matthew Frater" <mfra…@globalnet.co.uk> wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi, everyone. > I’m very glad I found this newsgroup, and I’d like to introduce myself to > anyone who’s listening. > My name’s Matthew, and I’m a 30-year-old Australian living in the UK. > Basically, I came over here to be with my British wife, who I met in Sydney > eight years ago. She was everything to me. > Late last year, she suddenly announced that she’d met someone else and was > leaving me. She eventually did just that in January, but only a week later > came back and told me she wanted a fresh start. > Since then, things haven’t gone well, mainly because she won’t show a little > empathy and really talk to me. Currently, she’s staying around the corner at > a friend’s house, and I have no idea what will happen. Needless to say, I’m > now trying to cope with an awful lot of loneliness, grief and anger, and not > always doing very well. I went on Prozac for a while, but I can’t say it did > me much good. > It’s funny how all the cliches turn out to be true. You just don’t realise > it until you’ve had your heart thoroughly broken for the first time. For six > months now I’ve been wracking my brain trying to imagine where I went wrong: > Was I violent? Was I insensitive? Was I stingy with money? Was I lazy? Did I > have a drug or alcohol problem? Was I a selfish or boring lover? The answer > to all these questions is no! I left my family and friends behind and > travelled halfway around the world to be with this woman. I loved her with > my heart, my body and my soul, and I suspect I still do. > I know that none of this is exactly uncommon (in fact, it seems that almost > everyone I talk to these days has been through the same hell, there’s a > plague of unfaithfulness going on out there), but that doesn’t make it any > easier to deal with, or any more right. > I feel there’s a chance – maybe a good one – that my wife will slowly start > to change her mind and come back into our marriage. Certainly the other man > is well off the scene. I know that I’m very vulnerable right now, and that > I’m taking a hell of a risk, but I don’t really know what else to do. When > you love someone, you have to try, even if you’re close to losing all hope. > I’m deeply concerned, because I don’t want to wind up unable to love. > Any thoughts, anyone? (Anybody e-mailing me back to tell me I’m a complete > idiot need not bother, I already know that!) Also, I don’t know if I can > offer any useful advice to anyone else, but I’d be delighted to try. I’m a > good listener, and a hopeless romantic. > mfra…@globalnet.co.uk
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In article <1998051615215300.LAA13…@ladder03.news.aol.com>, HashiRoan <hashir…@aol.com> writes >Tristessa, >If it’s not too late, just go for it! Go to the concert by yourself! There will >be so many people there doing the same as you and you’ll fit right in. It will >feel good to be able and actually go out and do stuff like that on your own. I >did it at a U2 concert back in 1987 when I was your age!! The time passes so >damn fast! >h@shi > ><
I missed the initial post, but presumably Tristessa wants to see the Smashing Pumpkins but doesn’t know anyone to go with. All I will say is that I generally go to concerts alone, and it doesn’t bother me at all. I was 18 when I saw my first live band (the Cure) because prior to that I had the same concern, but then I realised that if I waited for someone to turn up and escort I’d wait forever – my other favourites were the Smiths and I missed them completely. What if the Smashing Pumpkins split up tomorrow and you never got to see them? You’d kick yourself forever. So just go… if you can get a ticket that is. I wanted to see them this Saturday but it sold out the same morning as the tickets went on sale… — T ason / /itcher – jaso…@writeme.com U V V Or liven up my working day – j.witc…@ahvg.maff.gov.uk OR…. ICQ# 12092317 WHAT A CLEAN CITY.I FEEL KINDA SLEEP EE.CALL AN AMBULANCE. IF YOURE NOT IN CONTROL.WHO IS.
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Thanks. Its the thought that counts. Celebok <cele…@earthlink.net> wrote in article – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Well, if I lived near Melbourne, and if I were a Smashing Pumpkins fan, > and if I were just a little closer to your age, I’d offer to go with > you. (Only now do I realize the pointlessness of this reply.) > –Cmdr. Celebok
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Tristessa wrote: > Hi. > I am a 20 year old female student, as lonely as hell. I live near > Melbourne and was wondering if there is anyone around my age out there who > is lonely like me and would like to chat sometime. > Also, the SP concert is on soon and I have no one to go with. > p…@hotmail.com
Well, if I lived near Melbourne, and if I were a Smashing Pumpkins fan, and if I were just a little closer to your age, I’d offer to go with you. (Only now do I realize the pointlessness of this reply.) –Cmdr. Celebok
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