Too Weak
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"Kali" <ka…@REMOVEhotpop.com> wrote in message <news:v6fmhjbovd37e8@corp.supernews.com>… > "Adrianna" <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote in message > news:a8e522b5.0303061445.272b3897@posting.google.com… > > Yeah, cool. I just ordered caller I.D. I have already practiced all of > > shit I hate about him and that i will be telling him. I want to drop > > the bomb which he would never expect from me. But, I will feel > > victorious when I tell his ass off and say, "Fuck Off"!!! Do you think > > thats the way to go about it????? > Given that you’re feeling weak, you take a risk of him trying to talk you > out of ending things. Don’t talk to him unless you’re 100% certain that > you can stand your ground without allowing him to manipulate you. I’d > also advise keeping busy to keep your mind off him.
Yeah true. I know, he has done that before. Do you the best thing would be to be strong a never call him again, or tell him all the shit that is wrong in the relationship and drop him, then so he knows.
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On 6 Mar 2003 14:52:12 -0800, malibudo…@yahoo.com (Adrianna) wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->"Silent Observer <sul…@SPAMBLOCKhgea.net>" <sul…@hgea01.hgea.org> wrote in message <news:Pine.SOL.3.95.1030305191602.29935B-100000@hgea01.hgea.org>… >> On Thu, 6 Mar 2003, William P wrote: >> |"Adrianna" wrote in Message ID <a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a412 >> |…@posting.google.com> : >> | >> |> Hello. I have a problem. I have been seeing this guy for a year and a >> |> half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, >> |> never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he >> |> lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends >> |> and I haven’t said anything to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids >> *Why* haven’t you called him on that? >> |> and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I >> |> want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel too weak, >> |> powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that >> |> someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him >> |> but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. >> |> What should I do?? >> | >> |I’d say lose him, but then I can’t help you out with the part about it >> |being difficult to get your mind to win. Just that if you tell him it’s >> |not working, and bail out, I’m pretty sure in a week or a month in >> |retrospect you will realize that it was the right thing to do with no >> |doubts. >> I’m of different mind that William… Ad, call or see him like I asked >> above to give him one last chance. Ask him if he is busy with real life >> and too preoccupied to sustain your relationship, and depending on the >> answer then corner him with "do you still love me?" >> I am pretty sure that you suffer from loneliness and shyness, and not >> anything major with him. If he says he loves you, tell him you need more >> out of the relationship because you are lonely. If he wants to break it >> off, then you are free to see a doctor about what ails you. >> Look at it this way: would you want to be married to this man? He can’t >> /won’t give you what you want when the two of you are playing the dating >> game… >I think he recognizes my vulnerability of not being straight forward >and beating around the bush and plays on it. I just want to know to >screw his ass, be effective at it and feel like I won. 2 wrongs don’t >make a right, but in my case it does, ya know. So what can I do??
Teh problem is you can’t screw over someone who doesn’t care. If you freak out he may get a kick out of it that he was able to make you so mad.
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Adrianna <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote: : Hotep <nospamdavepfs…@spamBigfooTspammyspam.com> wrote in message <news:b47cpn$m54$2@news.hawaii.edu>… :> Adrianna <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote:
:> : Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a :> : half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, :> : never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he :> : lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends :> : and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids :> : and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I :> : want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, :> : powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that :> : someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him :> : but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. :> : What should I do?? :> :> :> Go with your mind. Unless, you’re all right with desperation having :> the better of you. :> :> I had to kick someone out of my life earlier this year. I’m so fuckin’ :> lonely now. I mean, oh man, am I lonely. But damn, did she suck. :> I won’t allow myself to be disrespected just because the alternative :> is being alone. It would just make me feel worse about myself. : Yeah you are right. For the first and only time!
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"Adrianna" <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:a8e522b5.0303061821.23893ba2@posting.google.com… > "Kali" <ka…@REMOVEhotpop.com> wrote in message
<news:v6fmhjbovd37e8@corp.supernews.com>… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > "Adrianna" <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote in message > > news:a8e522b5.0303061445.272b3897@posting.google.com… > > > Yeah, cool. I just ordered caller I.D. I have already practiced all of > > > shit I hate about him and that i will be telling him. I want to drop > > > the bomb which he would never expect from me. But, I will feel > > > victorious when I tell his ass off and say, "Fuck Off"!!! Do you think > > > thats the way to go about it????? > > Given that you’re feeling weak, you take a risk of him trying to talk you > > out of ending things. Don’t talk to him unless you’re 100% certain that > > you can stand your ground without allowing him to manipulate you. I’d > > also advise keeping busy to keep your mind off him. > Yeah true. I know, he has done that before. Do you the best thing > would be to be strong a never call him again, or tell him all the shit > that is wrong in the relationship and drop him, then so he knows.
It’s not like he doesn’t know exactly what’s wrong already. If it were me, I wouldn’t communicate with him at all ever again. If you do, then you need to keep it extremely short. Tell him it’s over and hang up. Don’t debate it or he’s just going to make you doubt yourself.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Hotep <nospamdavepfs…@spamBigfooTspammyspam.com> wrote in message <news:b47cpn$m54$2@news.hawaii.edu>… > Adrianna <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote: > : Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a > : half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, > : never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he > : lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends > : and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids > : and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I > : want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, > : powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that > : someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him > : but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. > : What should I do?? > Go with your mind. Unless, you’re all right with desperation having > the better of you. > I had to kick someone out of my life earlier this year. I’m so fuckin’ > lonely now. I mean, oh man, am I lonely. But damn, did she suck. > I won’t allow myself to be disrespected just because the alternative > is being alone. It would just make me feel worse about myself.
Yeah you are right.
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"Silent Observer <sul…@SPAMBLOCKhgea.net>" <sul…@hgea01.hgea.org> wrote in message <news:Pine.SOL.3.95.1030305191602.29935B-100000@hgea01.hgea.org>… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> On Thu, 6 Mar 2003, William P wrote: > |"Adrianna" wrote in Message ID <a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a412 > |…@posting.google.com> : > | > |> Hello. I have a problem. I have been seeing this guy for a year and a > |> half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, > |> never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he > |> lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends > |> and I haven’t said anything to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids > *Why* haven’t you called him on that? > |> and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I > |> want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel too weak, > |> powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that > |> someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him > |> but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. > |> What should I do?? > | > |I’d say lose him, but then I can’t help you out with the part about it > |being difficult to get your mind to win. Just that if you tell him it’s > |not working, and bail out, I’m pretty sure in a week or a month in > |retrospect you will realize that it was the right thing to do with no > |doubts. > I’m of different mind that William… Ad, call or see him like I asked > above to give him one last chance. Ask him if he is busy with real life > and too preoccupied to sustain your relationship, and depending on the > answer then corner him with "do you still love me?" > I am pretty sure that you suffer from loneliness and shyness, and not > anything major with him. If he says he loves you, tell him you need more > out of the relationship because you are lonely. If he wants to break it > off, then you are free to see a doctor about what ails you. > Look at it this way: would you want to be married to this man? He can’t > /won’t give you what you want when the two of you are playing the dating > game…
I think he recognizes my vulnerability of not being straight forward and beating around the bush and plays on it. I just want to know to screw his ass, be effective at it and feel like I won. 2 wrongs don’t make a right, but in my case it does, ya know. So what can I do??
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On 6 Mar 2003 09:28:03 -0800, poppy…@yahoo.com (poppytar) wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->There are two roads you can go by: >1) Hire a voodoo priestess. Have her cast the Michael Jackson curse. >Be ready for the man in your life to have delusions of grandeur, much >smaller genitals, and confiding to chimpanzees about your love life. >2) You said that he had money, yes? Well, get him to take you on a sea >cruise, preferably from New York to Athens, Greece. Hopefully, there >will be a math conference on board. The attendees at the conference >include a Putnam fellow from Northern California, a professor of >mathematics with impressive tennis skills, but most interesting of >all, there is a handsome, renegade mathematician by the name of >William Parker. During the New Year’s Eve party in the main dining >room, you see him sitting at the Captain’s table. He has just proposed >a toast to Galois representations. In the meantime, a young Canadian >girl with dyed red hair is singing "The Morning After" on a raised >platform near the front of the room. Everyone is in high spirits. But >little does anyone know that due to an over-zealous owner, the ship is >top heavy. Just after New Year’s, a tidal wave capsizes the ship, >turning it completely over. Those who escape death are few, but >William Parker is among the living, and he correctly surmises that the >only way to escape is through the propeller shaft. Your small group of >survivors navigates its way through the upside-down ship and makes it >out alive. Oh, and the guy you are dating gets crushed by a Steinway >piano, but his death sounds like chord C-E flat-G-C-G, a keyboard span >only rivaled by Rachmaninoff.
Excelletn suscribe!!!
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poppy…@yahoo.com (poppytar) wrote in news:cacf9a1e.0303060826.426e32c1 @posting.google.com: > There are two roads you can go by: > 1) Hire a voodoo priestess. Have her cast the Michael Jackson curse. > Be ready for the man in your life to have delusions of grandeur, much > smaller genitals, and confiding to chimpanzees about your love life.
Or just date me for the same effect. (Oh wait…) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> 2) You said that he had money, yes? Well, get him to take you on a sea > cruise, preferably from New York to Athens, Greece. Hopefully, there > will be a math conference on board. The attendees at the conference > include a Putnam fellow from Northern California, a professor of > mathematics with impressive tennis skills, but most interesting of > all, there is a handsome, renegade mathematician by the name of > William Parker. During the New Year’s Eve party in the main dining > room, you see him sitting at the Captain’s table. He has just proposed > a toast to Galois representations. In the meantime, a young Canadian > girl with dyed red hair is singing "The Morning After" on a raised > platform near the front of the room. Everyone is in high spirits. But > little does anyone know that due to an over-zealous owner, the ship is > top heavy. Just after New Year’s, a tidal wave capsizes the ship, > turning it completely over. Those who escape death are few, but > William Parker is among the living, and he correctly surmises that the > only way to escape is through the propeller shaft. Your small group of > survivors navigates its way through the upside-down ship and makes it > out alive. Oh, and the guy you are dating gets crushed by a Steinway > piano, but his death sounds like chord C-E flat-G-C-G, a keyboard span > only rivaled by Rachmaninoff.
What a way to go! I have small hands though, anything bigger than an octave is pretty much beyond me.
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"Adrianna" <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:a8e522b5.0303061445.272b3897@posting.google.com… > Yeah, cool. I just ordered caller I.D. I have already practiced all of > shit I hate about him and that i will be telling him. I want to drop > the bomb which he would never expect from me. But, I will feel > victorious when I tell his ass off and say, "Fuck Off"!!! Do you think > thats the way to go about it?????
Given that you’re feeling weak, you take a risk of him trying to talk you out of ending things. Don’t talk to him unless you’re 100% certain that you can stand your ground without allowing him to manipulate you. I’d also advise keeping busy to keep your mind off him.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -"Kali" <ka…@hotpop.com_REMOVE> wrote in message <news:v6en6d5dqscqf0@corp.supernews.com>… > "Adrianna" <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote in message > news:a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a412@posting.google.com… > > Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a > > half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, > > never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he > > lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends > > and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids > > and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I > > want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, > > powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that > > someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him > > but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. > > What should I do?? > > Adrianna > Dump him. Given some of what you said, I’d wonder if he even is divorced. > He might very likely still be married which is why he doesn’t take you > anywhere (has to keep you a secret), calls every other week and never on > weekends (busy with his wife and kids). Depending on just how much courage > you can muster, there are several ways you can get rid of him. The best > approach is to flat out tell him that you won’t see him anymore and then cut > things off completely. Alternatively, you could get caller id and simply > stop ever answering his calls. This would be cruel if the guy really cared, > but it doesn’t sound like he does in the slightest. All it sounds like he > wants is someone on the side who’s convenient and there at his beck and > call. You don’t want to be in that role.
Yeah, cool. I just ordered caller I.D. I have already practiced all of shit I hate about him and that i will be telling him. I want to drop the bomb which he would never expect from me. But, I will feel victorious when I tell his ass off and say, "Fuck Off"!!! Do you think thats the way to go about it?????
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Adrianna said >Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a >half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, >never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he >lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends >and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids >and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I >want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, >powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that >someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him >but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. >What should I do??
I’m not an expert, but I say dump his ass. What’s the point of being jerked around? — Hana no Kaitou http://animeg.blogspot.com/ <–yet another shitty blog. http://members.fortunecity.com/animeg3282/ <—Fancy Lala Club! http://groups.yahoo.com/group/fancy_lala <mailing list for Lala fans
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On 6 Mar 2003 09:28:03 -0800, poppy…@yahoo.com (poppytar) wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->There are two roads you can go by: >1) Hire a voodoo priestess. Have her cast the Michael Jackson curse. >Be ready for the man in your life to have delusions of grandeur, much >smaller genitals, and confiding to chimpanzees about your love life. >2) You said that he had money, yes? Well, get him to take you on a sea >cruise, preferably from New York to Athens, Greece. Hopefully, there >will be a math conference on board. The attendees at the conference >include a Putnam fellow from Northern California, a professor of >mathematics with impressive tennis skills, but most interesting of >all, there is a handsome, renegade mathematician by the name of >William Parker. During the New Year’s Eve party in the main dining >room, you see him sitting at the Captain’s table. He has just proposed >a toast to Galois representations. In the meantime, a young Canadian >girl with dyed red hair is singing "The Morning After" on a raised >platform near the front of the room. Everyone is in high spirits. But >little does anyone know that due to an over-zealous owner, the ship is >top heavy. Just after New Year’s, a tidal wave capsizes the ship, >turning it completely over. Those who escape death are few, but >William Parker is among the living, and he correctly surmises that the >only way to escape is through the propeller shaft. Your small group of >survivors navigates its way through the upside-down ship and makes it >out alive. Oh, and the guy you are dating gets crushed by a Steinway >piano, but his death sounds like chord C-E flat-G-C-G, a keyboard span >only rivaled by Rachmaninoff.
THIS is absolutely brilliant. Why didn’t I think of it? Solitary Soul -> http://users3.ev1.net/~solitarysoul/ —————————————————– Nothing is certain, and anything is possible - Solitary Soul
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"Adrianna" <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote: > powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that > someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him > but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. > What should I do??
You’re an idiot. If you stay with this guy you get what you deserve. Your heart is an idiot. It only knows how to pump blood. Trust your mind.
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Adrianna <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote:
: Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a : half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, : never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he : lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends : and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids : and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I : want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, : powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that : someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him : but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. : What should I do?? Go with your mind. Unless, you’re all right with desperation having the better of you. I had to kick someone out of my life earlier this year. I’m so fuckin’ lonely now. I mean, oh man, am I lonely. But damn, did she suck. I won’t allow myself to be disrespected just because the alternative is being alone. It would just make me feel worse about myself.
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On 5 Mar 2003 09:14:19 -0800, malibudo…@yahoo.com (Adrianna) wrote: >Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a >half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, >never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he >lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends >and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids >and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I >want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, >powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that >someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him >but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. >What should I do?? >Adrianna
Are you having sex with him? In relationships, always listen to you mind and not your heart. Heart is the la la land stuff that makes you are crazed irrational being when in love. Also about love. Love has to be a 2 way street for it to really be love. One sided love is a real bummer. If he really cared about you as much as you care about him, he would not behave this way. Ask yourself, is the way he behaves really the way a true loving person behaves? If you had a daughter who had a guy who treated her this way, what would you tell her? Pretending this is someone elses situation enables you to see it raitionally. Since he only calls a couple times a month, it may be fairly easy to just stop seeing him.
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"Adrianna" <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a412@posting.google.com… > Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a > half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, > never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he > lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends > and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids > and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I > want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, > powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that > someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him > but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. > What should I do?? > Adrianna
Dump him. Given some of what you said, I’d wonder if he even is divorced. He might very likely still be married which is why he doesn’t take you anywhere (has to keep you a secret), calls every other week and never on weekends (busy with his wife and kids). Depending on just how much courage you can muster, there are several ways you can get rid of him. The best approach is to flat out tell him that you won’t see him anymore and then cut things off completely. Alternatively, you could get caller id and simply stop ever answering his calls. This would be cruel if the guy really cared, but it doesn’t sound like he does in the slightest. All it sounds like he wants is someone on the side who’s convenient and there at his beck and call. You don’t want to be in that role.
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"Silent Observer <sul…@SPAMBLOCKhgea.net>" <sul…@hgea01.hgea.org> wrote in message news:Pine.SOL.3.95.1030305191602.29935B-100000@hgea01.hgea.org… > I’m of different mind that William… Ad, call or see him like I asked > above to give him one last chance. Ask him if he is busy with real life > and too preoccupied to sustain your relationship, and depending on the > answer then corner him with "do you still love me?"
She might also ask if he ever loved her to begin with. Doesn’t sound like he does.
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There are two roads you can go by: 1) Hire a voodoo priestess. Have her cast the Michael Jackson curse. Be ready for the man in your life to have delusions of grandeur, much smaller genitals, and confiding to chimpanzees about your love life. 2) You said that he had money, yes? Well, get him to take you on a sea cruise, preferably from New York to Athens, Greece. Hopefully, there will be a math conference on board. The attendees at the conference include a Putnam fellow from Northern California, a professor of mathematics with impressive tennis skills, but most interesting of all, there is a handsome, renegade mathematician by the name of William Parker. During the New Year’s Eve party in the main dining room, you see him sitting at the Captain’s table. He has just proposed a toast to Galois representations. In the meantime, a young Canadian girl with dyed red hair is singing "The Morning After" on a raised platform near the front of the room. Everyone is in high spirits. But little does anyone know that due to an over-zealous owner, the ship is top heavy. Just after New Year’s, a tidal wave capsizes the ship, turning it completely over. Those who escape death are few, but William Parker is among the living, and he correctly surmises that the only way to escape is through the propeller shaft. Your small group of survivors navigates its way through the upside-down ship and makes it out alive. Oh, and the guy you are dating gets crushed by a Steinway piano, but his death sounds like chord C-E flat-G-C-G, a keyboard span only rivaled by Rachmaninoff.
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"Adrianna" <malibudo…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a412@posting.google.com… > Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a > half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, > never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he > lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends > and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids > and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I > want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, > powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that > someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him > but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. > What should I do??
The way I see it you’ve got two options: 1.) Get rid of him. 2.) Learn to like being unhappy, unloved, unacknowledged. The best way to get rid of a bad habit is simply to drop it.
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On Thu, 6 Mar 2003, William P wrote:
|"Adrianna" wrote in Message ID <a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a412 |…@posting.google.com> : | |> Hello. I have a problem. I have been seeing this guy for a year and a |> half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, |> never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he |> lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends |> and I haven’t said anything to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids *Why* haven’t you called him on that? |> and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I |> want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel too weak, |> powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that |> someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him |> but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. |> What should I do?? | |I’d say lose him, but then I can’t help you out with the part about it |being difficult to get your mind to win. Just that if you tell him it’s |not working, and bail out, I’m pretty sure in a week or a month in |retrospect you will realize that it was the right thing to do with no |doubts. I’m of different mind that William… Ad, call or see him like I asked above to give him one last chance. Ask him if he is busy with real life and too preoccupied to sustain your relationship, and depending on the answer then corner him with "do you still love me?" I am pretty sure that you suffer from loneliness and shyness, and not anything major with him. If he says he loves you, tell him you need more out of the relationship because you are lonely. If he wants to break it off, then you are free to see a doctor about what ails you. Look at it this way: would you want to be married to this man? He can’t /won’t give you what you want when the two of you are playing the dating game… — S.O., playing shrink "Why is it that in your singular person you always try to create the effect of a majority?" -Intruder
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Subject: Too Weak >From: malibudo…@yahoo.com (Adrianna) >Date: 3/5/03 10:14 AM Mountain Standard Time >Message-id: <a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a…@posting.google.com> >Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a >half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, >never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he >lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends >and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids >and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I >want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, >powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that >someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him >but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. >What should I do?? >Adrianna
Get rid of him. 
Next time he calls tell him, it isnt working. Dont feel sorry and say lets be friends bla-bla…over means over.
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malibudo…@yahoo.com (Adrianna) wrote in news:a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a412 @posting.google.com: > Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a > half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, > never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he > lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends > and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids > and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I > want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, > powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that > someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him > but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. > What should I do??
I’d say lose him, but then I can’t help you out with the part about it being difficult to get your mind to win. Just that if you tell him it’s not working, and bail out, I’m pretty sure in a week or a month in retrospect you will realize that it was the right thing to do with no doubts.
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Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year and a half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every other week, never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be acknowledged), he lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has called me on the weekends and I haven’t said anyhthing to him about it. I know he has got 2 kids and is divorced, he owns his own business and has a lot of money. I want to kick him to the curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, powerless and lonely to do so and when he does call I feel happy that someone called. This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him but my mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. What should I do?? Adrianna
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malibudo…@yahoo.com (Adrianna) wrote in message
<news:a8e522b5.0303050914.2ac0a412@posting.google.com>… > Hello. I have a problem.I have been seeing this guy for a year > and a half that doesn’t treat me right. He only calls me every > other week, never takes me anywhere (not that I care but to be > acknowledged), he lies a lot for the dumbest things, never has > called me on the weekends and I haven’t said anyhthing to him > about it. I know he has got 2 kids and is divorced, he owns his > own business and has a lot of money. I want to kick him to the > curb but I don’t know how. I feel to weak, powerless and lonely > to do so and when he does call I feel happy that someone called. > This is a difficult dilemma because my heart wants him but my > mind says I am stupid. It is a battle between heart and mind. > What should I do??
Well, if this isn’t a troll post, you might want to read a few of the following posts so you’ll understand what’s behind some of the flames that you’ll probably get —-> http://groups.google.com/groups?as_epq=nice+guys But seriously, I would imagine that Kali, Zoe, Teh Philosophy of My Pants, and LIS (= Lisa) might have some useful advice. Virgo Cluster "[10 Holy Relics] (#8) The body of the Welsh saint, Teilo, was at one time miraculously housed in three different locations." << Karl Shaw, "The Mammoth Book of Tasteless Lists", Carroll & Graf Publishers, 1998, p. 255 >>
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