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Do you really want this person in your future? — Gentleman Jim A Country Boy and Southern Gentleman God created me in His image and gave His son that my sins would be forgiven. Please don’t think that you can create a better me than God did, or that you should be any less forgiving. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of divorce, I will feel no loneliness: for I am with me. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hello divorcers, Guess what : Someone else is involved, since 4 months !!! I’ve asked her in 45 different ways to be honest with me, she kept lying with a straight pokerface. How did I find out ? She was working late (wich was true), but stayed away a bi too long. I phoned her on her cellular phone and got no reply, bu she must have pushed her bag, just for the reply button to be pushed. I heard a male voice, and afterwards some moaning like, more , ah , ah , more. How did that feel ? Worse than a knife through my heart… but I remained calm, went to her new house to be, and saw them just coming out of the front door. I asked her who he was, she didn’t even want to answer. With a smile she said, come into the house , I’ll explain. She quickly pulled a story out of her sleeve, and denied everything. I told her about the phone and finally she admitted. I have already forgiven her … but can not just forget it in a few days. Much of m hope about her coming back vanished. Now I’m somewhat more relaxed, because again she is very sweet to me, and I try to pu my hopes up again that she might come back. When I think about the guy I saw, my hopes become higher : he’s not good looking, he’s married and he has a kid of his own. Life is beautifull, no ? Some supporting comments would be very much appreciated now.
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I love her so much, and I love my children so much, that nothing can change my mind about wanting her back Is this weird ? If it is, I feel good about being weird
She is cheating on you. She a dirty doormat other men wipe their feet you and when they are done, it is your turn. That’s what you want, that’s what you get, that’s what you deserve. Just don’t come here crying about it, deal with the consequences of your actions.
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So leave her. OK? What is there to think about? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hello divorcers, Guess what : Someone else is involved, since 4 months !!! I’ve asked her in 45 different ways to be honest with me, she kept lying with a straight pokerface. How did I find out ? She was working late (wich was true), but stayed away a bi too long. I phoned her on her cellular phone and got no reply, bu she must have pushed her bag, just for the reply button to be pushed. I heard a male voice, and afterwards some moaning like, more , ah , ah , more. How did that feel ? Worse than a knife through my heart… but I remained calm, went to her new house to be, and saw them just coming out of the front door. I asked her who he was, she didn’t even want to answer. With a smile she said, come into the house , I’ll explain. She quickly pulled a story out of her sleeve, and denied everything. I told her about the phone and finally she admitted. I have already forgiven her … but can not just forget it in a few days. Much of m hope about her coming back vanished. Now I’m somewhat more relaxed, because again she is very sweet to me, and I try to pu my hopes up again that she might come back. When I think about the guy I saw, my hopes become higher : he’s not good looking, he’s married and he has a kid of his own. Life is beautifull, no ? Some supporting comments would be very much appreciated now.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hello divorcers, Guess what : Someone else is involved, since 4 months !!! I’ve asked her in 45 different ways to be honest with me, she kept lying with a straight pokerface. How did I find out ? She was working late (wich was true), but stayed away a bi too long. I phoned her on her cellular phone and got no reply, bu she must have pushed her bag, just for the reply button to be pushed. I heard a male voice, and afterwards some moaning like, more , ah , ah , more. How did that feel ? Worse than a knife through my heart… but I remained calm, went to her new house to be, and saw them just coming out of the front door. I asked her who he was, she didn’t even want to answer. With a smile she said, come into the house , I’ll explain. She quickly pulled a story out of her sleeve, and denied everything. I told her about the phone and finally she admitted. I have already forgiven her … but can not just forget it in a few days. Much of m hope about her coming back vanished. Now I’m somewhat more relaxed, because again she is very sweet to me, and I try to pu my hopes up again that she might come back. When I think about the guy I saw, my hopes become higher : he’s not good looking, he’s married and he has a kid of his own. Life is beautifull, no ? Some supporting comments would be very much appreciated now.
Well, that depends on how you define " supportive ", doesn’t it ? Given what you tell us, I would counsel that you get very far away from this women. Consider that she thinks it’s fine to fuck another ( who is also married, BTW, so we also know what shge thinks of the sanctitiy of maggiage, and the meaning of being faithful within a marriage ), and lie to you about that. People who cheat are very sorry about it… when they are caught. Which means zip about their remorse. They’re not sorry for what they did, only for having been caught at it. So, with that, what about her is attractive to you ? I frankly, don’t care if she looks as good as Shania Twain, the life form within sounds pretty unattractive to me. Good relationships start with love, and have to have compassion, and trust. It sure doesn’t sound as her fucking a married man is much of a display of either of those, when it comes to you ( or, the man’s wife, either ), does it ? Andre — " The noblest achievement of the imagination is to make time run some other way, and terminate in beauty and forgivness " David Gelernter, " 1939 "
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Ilya, While it is true that Faithless should be careful what he wishes for because he might get it. I don’t know that it is true that he deserves to get it. It is very hard to give up the hope of getting back the person you love. It is a long hard process for some of us. Your advice is not bad, just a bit harsh. Robert 99% of all statistics are meaningless.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I love her so much, and I love my children so much, that nothing can change my mind about wanting her back Is this weird ? If it is, I feel good about being weird She is cheating on you. She a dirty doormat other men wipe their feet you and when they are done, it is your turn. That’s what you want, that’s what you get, that’s what you deserve. Just don’t come here crying about it, deal with the consequences of your actions.
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Can you say co-dependant? /// Kick her to the curb, you will feel much better
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I don’t have much room to talk, since I have a lifetime experience in being someone else’s emotional-doormat. But, I’ll post my .02 cents. I’ve asked her in 45 different ways to be honest with me, she kept lying with a straight pokerface.
This seems to me to be an indication that the one doing the lying is without concious. If she can lie to you without remorse, how can you possibly trust her in the future. Without trust, you can’t have a healthy relationship. How did I find out ? She was working late (wich was true), but stayed away a bi too long. I phoned her on her cellular phone and got no reply, bu she must have pushed her bag, just for the reply button to be pushed. I heard a male voice, and afterwards some moaning like, more , ah , ah , more. How did that feel ? Worse than a knife through my heart… but I remained calm, went to her new
You are not allowing yourself the *right* to be angry/hurt over this. She did you a terrible wrong and you *should* be upset. house to be, and saw them just coming out of the front door. I asked her who he was, she didn’t even want to answer. With a smile she said, come into the house , I’ll explain.
Smiling? No remorse there. She quickly pulled a story out of her sleeve, and denied everything. I told her about the phone and finally she admitted. I have already forgiven her … but can not just forget it in a few days. Much of m hope about her coming back vanished. Now I’m somewhat more relaxed, because again she is very sweet to me, and I try to pu my hopes up again that she might come back.
You may not like what I’m going to say….but you need to get some counseling for *yourself*. You deserve to be treated better and *you* don’t act like you think *you* deserve it. That’s a problem. When I think about the guy I saw, my hopes become higher : he’s not good looking, he’s married and he has a kid of his own.
She is lacking in some morals here. I would say the only hope you have is t o get both of you into counseling and figure out what’s underneath the lying and deceit. Life is beautifull, no ? Some supporting comments would be very much appreciated now.
I cannot be supportive of someone *letting* themself be treated so badly. Everyone has choices and you *do* have a right to be treated better than this. I hope for your sake, you realize that and get some help. Wishing you the best, Terri D~
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Do you really want this person in your future? — Gentleman Jim A Country Boy and Southern Gentleman God created me in His image and gave His son that my sins would be forgiven. Please don’t think that you can create a better me than God did, or that you should be any less forgiving. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of divorce, I will feel no loneliness: for I am with me. I love her so much, and I love my children so much, that nothing can change
my mind about wanting her back Is this weird ? If it is, I feel good about being weird
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Hello divorcers, Guess what : Someone else is involved, since 4 months !!! I’ve asked her in 45 different ways to be honest with me, she kept lying with a straight pokerface. How did I find out ? She was working late (wich was true), but stayed away a bi too long. I phoned her on her cellular phone and got no reply, bu she must have pushed her bag, just for the reply button to be pushed. I heard a male voice, and afterwards some moaning like, more , ah , ah , more. How did that feel ? Worse than a knife through my heart… but I remained calm, went to her new house to be, and saw them just coming out of the front door. I asked her who he was, she didn’t even want to answer. With a smile she said, come into the house , I’ll explain. She quickly pulled a story out of her sleeve, and denied everything. I told her about the phone and finally she admitted. I have already forgiven her … but can not just forget it in a few days. Much of m hope about her coming back vanished. Now I’m somewhat more relaxed, because again she is very sweet to me, and I try to pu my hopes up again that she might come back. When I think about the guy I saw, my hopes become higher : he’s not good looking, he’s married and he has a kid of his own. Life is beautifull, no ? Some supporting comments would be very much appreciated now.
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