Finally…..I can move on now!!!!!!
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How lucky you are! My divorce was final in July and I’m still not over it yet. Alot has happened since then. I did the same thing with my marriage as you did yours. I fought like hell to get my husband to make our marriage work to no avail. He just simply didn’t want to stay married to me or anyone. I wonder if he ever did. We have a 3 year old girl that I have custody of, but it breaks my heart that she can’t have mom and dad together. My ex is a great dad, so I am lucky there. I can’t wait until I get to the point where I feel good again. I have my good days, but I miss him terribly. He’s 40 yrs old dating a 25 yr old girl and I have to admit I am a little jealous. Oh well, I will get over it eventually. Good luck to you and I’m glad you are doing well! ME * Sent from AltaVista http://www.altavista.com Where you can also find related Web Pages, Images, Audios, Videos, News, and Shopping. Smart is Beautiful
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Sweetheart you have no reason to be jealous, you obviously tried your hardest, and that’s something to be commended. Hang in there sweetie, things will begin to settle down in your life before too long. Daisy
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – How lucky you are! My divorce was final in July and I’m still not over it yet. Alot has happened since then. I did the same thing with my marriage as you did yours. I fought like hell to get my husband to make our marriage work to no avail. He just simply didn’t want to stay married to me or anyone. I wonder if he ever did. We have a 3 year old girl that I have custody of, but it breaks my heart that she can’t have mom and dad together. My ex is a great dad, so I am lucky there. I can’t wait until I get to the point where I feel good again. I have my good days, but I miss him terribly. He’s 40 yrs old dating a 25 yr old girl and I have to admit I am a little jealous. Oh well, I will get over it eventually. Good luck to you and I’m glad you are doing well! ME * Sent from AltaVista http://www.altavista.com Where you can also find
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Thank you Daisy. I know that in time things will become better. I just wish I could stop loving that man. * Sent from AltaVista http://www.altavista.com Where you can also find related Web Pages, Images, Audios, Videos, News, and Shopping. Smart is Beautiful
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It took me about a year post-divorce to finally feel like I was out of the pit and on the upswing; 1-1/2 years to recognize how deeply happy I was in my new life — a fluorishing career, wonderful friends, and no strong need to have a companion again (although I recognized that the right person could be a wonderful addition to my life — the key word being addition – a complement, not a necessity to complete myself). Barb
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – How long has it been since the break-up? I always wonder how long it takes people to get to the "I’m going to be OK" point. Maybe I’ll get a dog. What an irony that would be. She always wanted a dog, but I didn’t want one. Now I think that it might help with the loneliness. PK
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Yes, but in a different situation – my mother’s death. About six weeks after her funeral, while waiting for a red light, I realized, "She’s gone. She’s really, really gone." A feeling of calm and acceptence came over me. John Today something incredible happened to me…… After dropping off my son today, I realized that I was going to be okay. It was as if a weight was lifted off my heart. I finally knew inside that I would be okay and my relationship with my son, while different, would still be strong and close. It was an incredible feeling…..to feel good again!!!!! It was as if a flood gate opened and I just knew that I will be okay. I know I still have the divorce to go through, but I am the calmest and strongest I have felt in years. I guess I really cant describe the feeling, but was just curious if anyone else has ever had something similar happen???
– If You Always Do the Things You’ve Done, You’ll Always Have the Things You Got.
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Congratulations, you`ve just past the test. Yeah, I still miss my ex sometimes. I envy you, because the weight is still crushing me even if I won everything a father could want in court. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have never really posted before, so here goes. My s2bx and I have been separated for a while now. We have been separated before and I fought like hell to try to get the marriage to work. I accepted all blame and did everything I could to try to make her happy. We would get back together and things would be okay for about 8 months and then she would tell me that she was not happy and she was not sure she was in love with me anymore. I was really hurt at first. I really felt like I tried to be the person she really wanted me to be. Today something incredible happened to me…… After dropping off my son today, I realized that I was going to be okay. It was as if a weight was lifted off my heart. I finally knew inside that I would be okay and my relationship with my son, while different, would still be strong and close. It was an incredible feeling…..to feel good again!!!!! It was as if a flood gate opened and I just knew that I will be okay. I know I still have the divorce to go through, but I am the calmest and strongest I have felt in years. I guess I really cant describe the feeling, but was just curious if anyone else has ever had something similar happen???
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yep—that feeling of "I’m going to be ok" was probably one of the emotional ones that i had. I was out walking the dog (actually chasing him while he was chasing a cat) and i slipped in a ditch with mud. Of course my dog then returns and has to splash in the mud…..after starting to laugh…it hit me. I was going to be ok; I was going to laugh; I would probably fall again, but i would get up! On the bad days—they are fewer—i do my damnest to rememeber that feeling. That feeling doesn’t make bad days go away—but it sure does make them go away quicker!! amo
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yep—that feeling of "I’m going to be ok" was probably one of the emotional ones that i had. I was out walking the dog (actually chasing him while he was chasing a cat) and i slipped in a ditch with mud. Of course my dog then returns and has to splash in the mud…..after starting to laugh…it hit me. I was going to be ok; I was going to laugh; I would probably fall again, but i would get up! On the bad days—they are fewer—i do my damnest to rememeber that feeling. That feeling doesn’t make bad days go away—but it sure does make them go away quicker!! amo
How long has it been since the break-up? I always wonder how long it takes people to get to the "I’m going to be OK" point. Maybe I’ll get a dog. What an irony that would be. She always wanted a dog, but I didn’t want one. Now I think that it might help with the loneliness. PK
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Can I borrow your dog (we had to get rid of ours in this divorce mess) and go through a run in the mud for awhile? Maybe it’ll help!
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yep—that feeling of "I’m going to be ok" was probably one of the emotional ones that i had. I was out walking the dog (actually chasing him while he was chasing a cat) and i slipped in a ditch with mud. Of course my dog then returns and has to splash in the mud…..after starting to laugh…it hit me. I was going to be ok; I was going to laugh; I would probably fall again, but i would get up! On the bad days—they are fewer—i do my damnest to rememeber that feeling. That feeling doesn’t make bad days go away—but it sure does make them go away quicker!! amo
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I have never really posted before, so here goes. My s2bx and I have been separated for a while now. We have been separated before and I fought like hell to try to get the marriage to work. I accepted all blame and did everything I could to try to make her happy. We would get back together and things would be okay for about 8 months and then she would tell me that she was not happy and she was not sure she was in love with me anymore. I was really hurt at first. I really felt like I tried to be the person she really wanted me to be. Today something incredible happened to me…… After dropping off my son today, I realized that I was going to be okay. It was as if a weight was lifted off my heart. I finally knew inside that I would be okay and my relationship with my son, while different, would still be strong and close. It was an incredible feeling…..to feel good again!!!!! It was as if a flood gate opened and I just knew that I will be okay. I know I still have the divorce to go through, but I am the calmest and strongest I have felt in years. I guess I really cant describe the feeling, but was just curious if anyone else has ever had something similar happen???
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Great story! Good for you. I hope that I can experience that same feeling soon myself. This is the worst I’ve ever felt in my life. J
I too am waiting for that feeling. It’ll come, I know. But everything is too raw right now. This is certainly the worst I’ve ever felt in my life. I keep thinking that it’s a nightmare from which I will wake up. But I never will. PK
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Great story! Good for you. I hope that I can experience that same feeling soon myself. This is the worst I’ve ever felt in my life. J I too am waiting for that feeling. It’ll come, I know. But everything is too raw right now. This is certainly the worst I’ve ever felt in my life. I keep thinking that it’s a nightmare from which I will wake up. But I never will.
Yup, the divorce process *can* make us feel worse then we ever felt in our lives. Gosh, it can be just awful. But, like many posters here know – you *will* get through it. And, slowly but surely – Things Will Get Better! In the meantime – make sure you take care of yourself. Eat, get rest when you can, excercise …. do what ever you have to do to take care of *you*! Best & Kindest – Fido PK
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Great story! Good for you. I hope that I can experience that same feeling soon myself. This is the worst I’ve ever felt in my life. J – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have never really posted before, so here goes. My s2bx and I have been separated for a while now. We have been separated before and I fought like hell to try to get the marriage to work. I accepted all blame and did everything I could to try to make her happy. We would get back together and things would be okay for about 8 months and then she would tell me that she was not happy and she was not sure she was in love with me anymore. I was really hurt at first. I really felt like I tried to be the person she really wanted me to be. Today something incredible happened to me…… After dropping off my son today, I realized that I was going to be okay. It was as if a weight was lifted off my heart. I finally knew inside that I would be okay and my relationship with my son, while different, would still be strong and close. It was an incredible feeling…..to feel good again!!!!! It was as if a flood gate opened and I just knew that I will be okay. I know I still have the divorce to go through, but I am the calmest and strongest I have felt in years. I guess I really cant describe the feeling, but was just curious if anyone else has ever had something similar happen???
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