Friends – Who needs them?
Question:
Ok I’m not quite ready for bed yet – so another thought – blimey that’s two thoughts in one night – what on earth can be going on? So, You have a really good friend. He lets you come around and play with his kids – he lets you do that little bit of plumbing he lets you go to the pub with him, he promises to go to the gym with you, then backs out at the last minute. That’s what having good friends is all about isn’t it? Well no I’m not really that gullible – I can see I have been used – but no more. So how important is he as a friend to me? Well I sit here at home and save money by not going to the pub – that’s good isn’t it? I don’t drive the twenty miles over to his house – saves even more money… Well I do miss him but I know that friendship is more than one sided. I know that if he was a half decient human he’d be around here helping me with my plumbing. So do I need him? We’ll see. I grew up a loner – is that something you grow out of? or can I revert to my loner status? My dad has an old saying "There’s none so strange as folk" And if you want to know what that means you’ll have to ask me.
Response:
psss.. you don’t have kids.. He’s a father and a husband I take it? Are you a friend to him.. not a hit.. just read my words spun from my head and being married myself from young age and seemingly to long and forever that it changed me somehow differently from other’s who are single longer than I ever was.. His life should not be pubs.. it’s is wife.. it’s his children.. Does he not always have a beer ready for you.. and a ready ear.. don’t trash his friendship because you don’t have the same.. his feelings for you have not changed.. however his life has.. oh my goodness.. so very much it has from your own… one question.. if you had a wife and children.. and your friend was married too.. would you not all do things together.. double couples.. Sunday games.. meals and cookouts? other question.. how would you feel if someone you believed was a friend.. mind you.. your married.. sometimes it’s major stress dealing with the spouse and all the responsibilities shared jointly.. and ya have little people.. and you really, really.. really, want to be a good father, you want to be there for them.. and you have this friend who has been there for years.. he’s single.. but.. he’s wanting you.. to not be a father who talks to your own flesh and blood kids.. and your wife want’s your time and your words for you both work and tis time that is shared and fun between them that binds them.. she works.. she cares for your children.. she loves you.. she craves your time and may sometimes become angry when she comes home full of plans or even desire and your buddy is calling to say.. hey.. meet me at the pub.. or hey.. I wanna lift weights.. what choice will you make? A friend is through thick and thin.. and one who strives to understand the other.. even when life is different I’m sorry if I’m brutal however.. my X’s friends were always welcome.. allways.. as well as my single friends.. however.. our life was family cause we made it.. it was our chosen life to have children and be there for them .. and that’s what we were when we were married.. the vows are of value and so is the lives born from them.. I guess.. I just know.. born of the past how the pressure born of your own loneliness can become your own self isolation.. if your his friend.. understand his life is not the same as yours and be his friend in return.. Kay Pamela pss.. Pamela who is divorced.. all friends are married.. and received a similar lecture from all of them.. but the fact that my marriage ended and I became single.. should not tear the friendships asunder.. I was lonelier born of endings and wishing for my own partner in a sense to be with the pack again.. however.. the pack never left me.. I separated from them.. Kay "Simon Jones" <sim…@cwcom.net> wrote in message
news:B5ED9F61.6480%simonj@cwcom.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Ok I’m not quite ready for bed yet – so another thought – blimey that’s two > thoughts in one night – what on earth can be going on? > So, You have a really good friend. He lets you come around and play with his > kids – he lets you do that little bit of plumbing he lets you go to the pub > with him, he promises to go to the gym with you, then backs out at the last > minute. That’s what having good friends is all about isn’t it? Well no I’m > not really that gullible – I can see I have been used – but no more. > So how important is he as a friend to me? Well I sit here at home and save > money by not going to the pub – that’s good isn’t it? I don’t drive the > twenty miles over to his house – saves even more money… Well I do miss him > but I know that friendship is more than one sided. I know that if he was a > half decient human he’d be around here helping me with my plumbing. So do I > need him? We’ll see. I grew up a loner – is that something you grow out of? > or can I revert to my loner status? > My dad has an old saying > "There’s none so strange as folk" > And if you want to know what that means you’ll have to ask me.
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