Going to the Gym
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Dmitry wrote in message <8d3vd7$35…@slb0.atl.mindspring.net>… >"Davide" wrote: >> I am really sick of doing everything alone, because nobody >> enjoyes staying with me. >Davide, i’m almost obliged to make it clear for you that it’s OK >to do everything alone. >First of all, you’re not alone, there’re other singles around. >Secondly, being and doing whatever activity ALONE is >much better and appropriate in society than doing it with >the same sex sexual partner (gays/lesbians). Just imagine >if you were with a gay partner hanging out and kissing >each other, etc….most bystanders and strangers would >most likely giggle and laugh at you, but if you’re ALONE >it is OK and noone will worry. So now we’re clear that >you’re NOT in the WORST condition when being alone. >Just think of gays as losers and outcasts who couldn’t >handle loneliness… gave up and turned to nasty sex >satisfaction. Thus, you’re above that scum, you’re OK. >Cheers and sympathy, >Dmitry
Let’s see, Dmitry, oh yeah, you’re the one who’s going to go through life without having any children…. GOOD!
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Hi Davide I haven’t gone to the gym, but for 2 years I’ve gone to karate. I think karate is good for SP’s. There is a good supportive atmosphere there. Actually it’s considered a good attitude to help, those who have difficulties with the exercises (and that goes for other stuff too, I think). It’s not a competitive and it’s not violent either, as some people maybe think. I like it very much, I get exercise and I also think it’s good for my self confidence .. so if you can do it, I will really recommend it … and going to the gym off course is fine too. I don’t think, it’s a problem, that you don’t know anybody there .. I didn’t, and most of the other didn’t either. But slowly I’ve began to get to know a few of them. One works at a nearby gas station and now I always talk with him, when I come there to shop. Another works at the super marked, where I usually shop, and I’ve talked with her a few times too. I’ve also met two of them at a disco and then came to know them a little better. I think it’s a good way to get some friends … well I haven’t even after 2 years, but at least I’ve got some aquaintentes .. I don’t seek friends that much, but it is a way to get a social life .. and if you can talk to some of them, you might also get some friends .. If not when going there, then perhaps at the parties (if they have parties .. we do, at least at christmas) … and you might even meet a girl., they go to karate too. Henrik "Davide" <dado…@hotmail.com> skrev i en meddelelse news:38f2441e.1208959@news.nettuno.it… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Well Paul, > I understand you. > Anyway my problem is that I am tired of making things alone. > I could go to the gym, or the swimming pool, after I have win the > initial fear I could go. > But everybody go there has a friend there or knows somebody there, but > not me. > I am really sick of doing everything alone, because nobody enjoyes > staying with me. > Davide
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It’s a weighlifting thing. I did some before I got old and beatup. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Dan C wrote in message <8d3am7$ju…@slb2.atl.mindspring.net>… >>>Gives new meaning to the "clean and jerk" doesn’t it? >Thankfully, I have no clue what you are talking about <g> >-Dan
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Actually, I have found the mirrors useful for checking form on the machines (mine, not someone else’s…though I do like to watch women work the yes/no machine!) They are also useful to check whether the front of my shorts have "rolled" over, which they almost always do. What I need are suspenders for my gym shorts. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Iris wrote in message <00a20564.7ced1…@usw-ex0102-015.remarq.com>… >The people in gyms are pleasant, overall. Each individual is so >preoccupied with their own activities this leaves very little >time to notice anyone else. An occasional glance is exchanged, >split second. >What always gets me is the mirrors that are strategically placed >everywhere to allow those who enjoy admiring themselves added >pleasure. I cannot help for the life of me not make faces at >myself when i look into the mirrors. Eventually I begin to >resemble a horrible pantomime, Jerry Lewis on LSD… and I pray >no one notices after a while. >I just can’t take it serious I guess. >D. >* Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * >The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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"Davide" wrote: > I am really sick of doing everything alone, because nobody > enjoyes staying with me.
Davide, i’m almost obliged to make it clear for you that it’s OK to do everything alone. First of all, you’re not alone, there’re other singles around. Secondly, being and doing whatever activity ALONE is much better and appropriate in society than doing it with the same sex sexual partner (gays/lesbians). Just imagine if you were with a gay partner hanging out and kissing each other, etc….most bystanders and strangers would most likely giggle and laugh at you, but if you’re ALONE it is OK and noone will worry. So now we’re clear that you’re NOT in the WORST condition when being alone. Just think of gays as losers and outcasts who couldn’t handle loneliness… gave up and turned to nasty sex satisfaction. Thus, you’re above that scum, you’re OK. Cheers and sympathy, Dmitry
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Monytaur wrote: > What are those head muscles for anyway?
umm…. certainly not mental gymnastics. — ___ / /:: /:/: /:/ /:: /:/_/:/:__ :/:/ /__/ ::/__/ffinity… : :__ /__/
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>>Gives new meaning to the "clean and jerk" doesn’t it?
Thankfully, I have no clue what you are talking about <g> -Dan
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The people in gyms are pleasant, overall. Each individual is so preoccupied with their own activities this leaves very little time to notice anyone else. An occasional glance is exchanged, split second. What always gets me is the mirrors that are strategically placed everywhere to allow those who enjoy admiring themselves added pleasure. I cannot help for the life of me not make faces at myself when i look into the mirrors. Eventually I begin to resemble a horrible pantomime, Jerry Lewis on LSD… and I pray no one notices after a while. I just can’t take it serious I guess. D. * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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Paul wrote in message <38f34c0a.10384…@nnrp.news.uk.psi.net>… >I would really like to go to the Gym here in London, my Hospital >provides a gym, but I can’t even go there for the fear that people >will laugh at me etc. I know that going to the gym would really >benefit me and my self-esteem and confidence. The thought of going to >a Gay Gym or Gay enviroments scares me more than the straight gym >probably because it’s my society as such. >Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? >and does anyone have any idea’s how I can overcome these fears. >Paul (littleskin)
I go to the gym every now and again during the week, although I don’t feel the anxiety of thinking people think lowly of me anymore. Admittantly the first time I went there I was quite self-concious of myself (I believe this story has been done enough already) but luckily for me I had a mate who wanted to do the workouts to get into training for Rugby. He asked if I wanted to go at the time, I debated it for a while and finally I took a reality check. "Fuck it, I’m not doing anything else." So I went. All I can say really is to go there with someone else you know and you feel comfortable with, it does make a big difference considering you’re there next to people with head muscles as big as my legs… =] What are those head muscles for anyway? The Monytaur
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>From: littles…@hotmail.com (Paul) >I would really like to go to the Gym here in London, my Hospital >provides a gym, but I can’t even go there for the fear that people >will laugh at me etc. I know that going to the gym would really >benefit me and my self-esteem and confidence. The thought of going to >a Gay Gym or Gay enviroments scares me more than the straight gym >probably because it’s my society as such. >Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? >and does anyone have any idea’s how I can overcome these fears. >Paul (littleskin)
That is one of my big fears, too. So I’m afraid I’m of no help to you. But I’ll be interested in the responses too. Pam
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I exercise at home, but I would like to join a gym just to gain access to some of the equipment that I can’t afford–like a Lifestep machine or some of the weightlifting stuff. Brian In article <38f34c0a.10384…@nnrp.news.uk.psi.net>, littles…@hotmail.com wrote: > I would really like to go to the Gym here in London, my Hospital > provides a gym, but I can’t even go there for the fear that people > will laugh at me etc. I know that going to the gym would really > benefit me and my self-esteem and confidence. The thought of going to > a Gay Gym or Gay enviroments scares me more than the straight gym > probably because it’s my society as such. > Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? > and does anyone have any idea’s how I can overcome these fears. > Paul (littleskin)
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Paul, I agree with Mike. Everyone in the gym has had to start out at some point and they know what its like. The people that I respect the most are the ones who are out of shape and putting forth a great deal of effort. Its obviously harder for them then the others. The most intiminating guys are the ones who have muscles growing out of their heads. Believe me, the only thing they care about is themselves and how they look. They couldnt care less about what you’re doing. Most of the gyms have bikes or aerobic equipment that you can just sit on an watch TV. I think doing that is much less stressful than hitting the free weights. Once you feel more comfortable in the gym you could move on to other equipment. Chris. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -On Tue, 11 Apr 2000 16:02:57 GMT, littles…@hotmail.com (Paul) wrote: >I would really like to go to the Gym here in London, my Hospital >provides a gym, but I can’t even go there for the fear that people >will laugh at me etc. I know that going to the gym would really >benefit me and my self-esteem and confidence. The thought of going to >a Gay Gym or Gay enviroments scares me more than the straight gym >probably because it’s my society as such. >Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? >and does anyone have any idea’s how I can overcome these fears. >Paul (littleskin)
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> Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym?
What scares me is the fact that they have strictly ‘gay gyms’. (no offense – it’s just too weird for me to comprehend) In any case, what _I_ did was buy a home gym and work out with that, and some free weights. It’s nice to be able to do it in your own place – no monthly charge, no long trips in the car. But then, you don’t get your own personal instructor. I’ve done my own research through men’s fitness magazines and online resources to figure out what routine works best for me. And you’d be surprised what you can do without those machines, with a little ingenuity. I’m not saying that you can use free weights to do EVERY exercise that you can on machines, but most, yes. It does help to have a training partner, if just to start you off. (and perhaps for the occassional ’spotting’). That’s how I got started – a good friend decided to workout with me. He moved on after the first few months, but I was motivated enough to keep on with it. A good place to start preparing for the harder stuff is doing pushups, pullups, stomach exercises (not necessarily sit-ups), and some aerobics, every day. Even those 20-30 minutes can work wonders for your energy, confidence, and stamina. -Dan
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Gives new meaning to the "clean and jerk" doesn’t it? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Dan C wrote in message <8d2pkc$f7…@slb1.atl.mindspring.net>… >> Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? >What scares me is the fact that they have strictly ‘gay gyms’. (no >offense – it’s just too weird for me to comprehend) >In any case, what _I_ did was buy a home gym and work out with that, and >some free weights. It’s nice to be able to do it in your own place – no >monthly charge, no long trips in the car. But then, you don’t get your own >personal instructor. >I’ve done my own research through men’s fitness magazines and online >resources to figure out what routine works best for me. And you’d be >surprised what you can do without those machines, with a little ingenuity. >I’m not saying that you can use free weights to do EVERY exercise that you >can on machines, but most, yes. >It does help to have a training partner, if just to start you off. (and >perhaps for the occassional ’spotting’). That’s how I got started – a good >friend decided to workout with me. He moved on after the first few months, >but I was motivated enough to keep on with it. >A good place to start preparing for the harder stuff is doing pushups, >pullups, stomach exercises (not necessarily sit-ups), and some aerobics, >every day. Even those 20-30 minutes can work wonders for your energy, >confidence, and stamina. >-Dan
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Well Paul, I understand you. Anyway my problem is that I am tired of making things alone. I could go to the gym, or the swimming pool, after I have win the initial fear I could go. But everybody go there has a friend there or knows somebody there, but not me. I am really sick of doing everything alone, because nobody enjoyes staying with me. Davide
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I would really like to go to the Gym here in London, my Hospital provides a gym, but I can’t even go there for the fear that people will laugh at me etc. I know that going to the gym would really benefit me and my self-esteem and confidence. The thought of going to a Gay Gym or Gay enviroments scares me more than the straight gym probably because it’s my society as such. Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? and does anyone have any idea’s how I can overcome these fears. Paul (littleskin)
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It’s not likely that anyone will laugh at you. The gyms that I’ve worked out at never had that attitude (and I’ve worked out at a couple of hard core gyms, not the average types). The general attitude that people have at a gym is: "You gotta start somewhere, we’ve all been there." I’ve never once heard anyone laugh at or criticize someone else in all the years I’ve trained. If people are going to judge you on anything, it’s going to be the effort you put into lifting, not how much you lift (if that’s what you’re concerned about). Mike – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -On Tue, 11 Apr 2000 16:02:57 GMT, littles…@hotmail.com (Paul) wrote: >I would really like to go to the Gym here in London, my Hospital >provides a gym, but I can’t even go there for the fear that people >will laugh at me etc. I know that going to the gym would really >benefit me and my self-esteem and confidence. The thought of going to >a Gay Gym or Gay enviroments scares me more than the straight gym >probably because it’s my society as such. >Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? >and does anyone have any idea’s how I can overcome these fears. >Paul (littleskin)
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Paul <littles…@hotmail.com> wrote:
: Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? I avoid gyms like I would Ebola wards. — CAUTION: Email Spam Killer in use. Leave this line in your reply! 152680 First Law of Economics: You can’t sell product to people without money. 4968238 bytes of spam mail deleted. http://www.wwa.com/~nospam/
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———- In article <38f34c0a.10384…@nnrp.news.uk.psi.net>, – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -littles…@hotmail.com (Paul) wrote: >I would really like to go to the Gym here in London, my >Hospital >provides a gym, but I can’t even go there for the fear that >people >will laugh at me etc. I know that going to the gym would >really >benefit me and my self-esteem and confidence. The thought of >going to >a Gay Gym or Gay enviroments scares me more than the straight >gym >probably because it’s my society as such. >Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? >and does anyone have any idea’s how I can overcome these >fears. >Paul (littleskin)
I totally understand. My husband and I really need to lose weight and we talk about going to a gym all the time but.. I’m SP and he’s incredibly shy. What a great pair we make! Kelly
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Paul <littles…@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:38f34c0a.10384729@nnrp.news.uk.psi.net… > I would really like to go to the Gym here in London, my Hospital > provides a gym, but I can’t even go there for the fear that people > will laugh at me etc. I know that going to the gym would really > benefit me and my self-esteem and confidence. The thought of going to > a Gay Gym or Gay enviroments scares me more than the straight gym > probably because it’s my society as such. > Does anyone else have this problem. going to the gym? > and does anyone have any idea’s how I can overcome these fears. > Paul (littleskin)
If you feel that visiting the gym would improve your confidence then it sounds like an excellent suggestion. I had difficulty going to gym’s when I was younger due to me having a very bad body image. I was extremely thin and was *very* self conscious about it. I thought that all the hard core gym junkies and body beautiful types would make fun of me, even though they never did. I eventually found a ’softer’ gym that catered to people who were not necessarily wanting to turn themselves into the Incredible Hulk and most of their clients were people with more normal body shapes. This made me feel much more confident working out there, though I didn’t stay for long. I got bored with just lifting weights and took up jogging instead. The feeling of well being I got from jogging helped with my general anxiety levels too. The pumped up runners high that I got for a couple of hours after running was sometimes strong enough to put a temporary dent in my SP too. Perhaps try and set going to the gym as a goal for yourself and try to figure out some strategies for doing it. If the anxiety that you have is caused by a bad body image maybe you could try working out with free weights at home until you got more confidence in your body, then maybe work up to going to one of those soft gyms a lot of overweight or older people go to. Hopefully you’ll feel less self conscious in that environment. Over time as your confidence increases you could build up to a hard core gym and start hanging out with the big blokes. Good luck, Baxbr
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