Heart Broken!
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Man, do I know this one. My family is pretty small. But at least they are supportive. My wife has a large family, and they took 10 years just to really accept me at all. Now after 26 years of marriage, when I finally make the big move to get the divorce, her family is going to go super hostile. Especially one of her sisters. She hates men. (NOT lesbian) but just like my wife she was sexually abused by a family member for years. She ended up with some brain dead idiot husband (used to lots of drugs in the past, clean for a long time now, but can’t spell his middle initial without looking at his drivers license) and rules him with an iron fist. Her way of getting even with our gender I think. They deserve each other. One of her brothers is going to flame me pretty bad but he won’t be angry. We used to get along GREAT, till I found out he was the one that sexually abused my wife. I don’t think he ever has made any attempt to appologize or anything. My mother in law screamed at me for not being at work the morning after our first child was born. Whats that tell you about her? My father in law thinks that if your not a dirt scratchin farmer, your a lazy worthless bum. And even farmers who use tractors with airconditioners are woosies. Another sister in law married an alcoholic who had been arrested for fighting with his alcoholic father. She is emotionally and physically abused but won’t leave him. But you know what. I can deal with the family. Its my own kids that worry me the most. Both grown, but more attached to their mother. I was the only one that really made a serious attempt at setting limits for them. They both grew up to be pretty decent people, but I’m still the old ogre who said "NO" when they wanted to cross the line. Losing weight? Lord I wish I would! I’m a nervous eater. This is a very challenging time to NOT eat when I get depressed! Good luck Sorin. Hang in there. Make some friends. Create your own family support system here. Ken – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I don’t remember if I mentioned to you guys that I don’t have much of family here. Everyone was her family. My family is back in Romania. I left there 25 years ago and never went back. Her family WAS my family and all of them told me that "we are still here for you, will ALWAYS be part of our family". Well that was a bunch of bull. We were actually working some things out, slowly but we were making progress. Last THU. her brother and his wife come down from CT to "help" us. Her sister in law was the one that finally busted everything wide open for us. "Family" like that , whom needs enemy? Sorin Once again thank you for the kind words. Just dropped few more lbs. I really need to got a hold of myself but I’m so hurt and confused. I come home and just walk around the house all evening crying and holding the little dog in my arms. You are much better off without her. Although i know that it does no tseem like it, time will heal all these wounds and you will perserve. Do not lose faith and do not lose hope. Talk to your friends and family and let them help you through these tough times…and it will be tough…dont get me wrong….but the Lord does not gives us more than we can handle…pray and have faith Is has been a long time coming (3 months). My wife of 16 years finally left yesterday. She had an affair with someone she met through the phone at work, They have carried a cyber affair for 4 months before she had flown form Fla. to San Francisco to have this affair. He is 53 she is 39. He is married and has 2 children. I’ve contacted his wife but she doesn’t care. After the affair she meet one of his friends and now she is having this cyber affair with this guy. Through all this I have been begging her to rethink it and told her that I will forgive her. We are not having any children and she decided that she in not asking for anything due to the guilt factor. Why is it that when everyone is saying that today is my lucky day because I got the house, furniture, all the money and the stocks, I’m feeling dead inside of me? I really feel like just blowing my brains out? Not only that I just lost my wife, I’ve lost my best friend of 17 years. I’ve been faithful to her all this years and I know that she has been also until this affair. I’ve been crying for 2 days now and I can’t seem to stop. I’m at the end of my wits here and need someone to talk to or exchange some e-mail to get me through this for the next couple days. I really don’t know if I can make it……Please help me with any advise that you my have. I can’t go and see a counselor because I just started a new job and I wouldn’t be in the plan for the next 90 days and she just took me of her plan. I’m also a diabetic and have been taking any of my medication for the past 3 days. I didn’t eat since Monday afternoon and I’m getting really sick but I have no willing to fight or take care of my self. I only wish that I could lay here and die. Thank you for your time to read this. My God bless you all and help you through what ever problems you might have. Sorin
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Hello Sorin, I ready your message and my situation is about the same…the same feelings of despair and desperation. I was married 15 years to who I thought was my best friend, only to be deceived and cheated on. I have 2 children 3 and 11 and that is extra hard for me. I can’t offer advice because I need some of my own. Just thought I know it helps me not to feel like I am alone and that there….God Bless us both * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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I can’t figure this whole thing out. It feels so cold and cheap. Why are there so many people that walk around with out hearts? My wifebest friend decided to leave me,our dogbaby, house, furniture,money for someone that she has never seen in person in her whole life. She has decided to blow it all on a cyber affair and go see this person . She didn’t even think that this person could be a psycho. Just thinking with her ass (or other parts of her anatomy). I keep hearing how men are pigs and all other things. Well, this is NOT a man or woman thing anymore. It has become a I don’t care, I want this, I deserve this,that is how I FEEL. This is a sad statement for us as human beings. Sorin
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hello Sorin, I ready your message and my situation is about the same…the same feelings of despair and desperation. I was married 15 years to who I thought was my best friend, only to be deceived and cheated on. I have 2 children 3 and 11 and that is extra hard for me. I can’t offer advice because I need some of my own. Just thought I know it helps me not to feel like I am alone and that there….God Bless us both * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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Mary Lou, I don’t agree with the previous post but I can assure you that I have loved my wife and she got all and more than she needed as far as support (financially and professionally). I supported her in all the decisions that shad made before this. There wasn’t anything in the world that I didn’t or will do for her even after all this. Please don’t make excuses for infidelity. Infidelity is wrong , cheating on your spouse is wrong no matter whom is doing it. It would be a lot easier if people were honest and decided to go tell their spouses that things don’t work out, we need to go our separate lives and when the divorce is over then that person can do what ever heshe wants to.
I never meant to imply that ANYONE should "cheat"… by "seeking affection elsewhere" i was referring to exactly as you said, being honest with the spouse and going elsewhere when the marriage is over… That’s what i had to do when i just couldn’t endure the loneliness anymore… I’m sorry that you are being put thru all this pain… It will get better, as others have also told you… If you did all that you could, then you have no reason to feel guilt. Take care of yourself..
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I don’t remember if I mentioned to you guys that I don’t have much of family here. Everyone was her family. My family is back in Romania. I left there 25 years ago and never went back. Her family WAS my family and all of them told me that "we are still here for you, will ALWAYS be part of our family". Well that was a bunch of bull. We were actually working some things out, slowly but we were making progress. Last THU. her brother and his wife come down from CT to "help" us. Her sister in law was the one that finally busted everything wide open for us. "Family" like that , whom needs enemy? Sorin Once again thank you for the kind words. Just dropped few more lbs. I really need to got a hold of myself but I’m so hurt and confused. I come home and just walk around the house all evening crying and holding the little dog in my arms.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – You are much better off without her. Although i know that it does no tseem like it, time will heal all these wounds and you will perserve. Do not lose faith and do not lose hope. Talk to your friends and family and let them help you through these tough times…and it will be tough…dont get me wrong….but the Lord does not gives us more than we can handle…pray and have faith Is has been a long time coming (3 months). My wife of 16 years finally left yesterday. She had an affair with someone she met through the phone at work, They have carried a cyber affair for 4 months before she had flown form Fla. to San Francisco to have this affair. He is 53 she is 39. He is married and has 2 children. I’ve contacted his wife but she doesn’t care. After the affair she meet one of his friends and now she is having this cyber affair with this guy. Through all this I have been begging her to rethink it and told her that I will forgive her. We are not having any children and she decided that she in not asking for anything due to the guilt factor. Why is it that when everyone is saying that today is my lucky day because I got the house, furniture, all the money and the stocks, I’m feeling dead inside of me? I really feel like just blowing my brains out? Not only that I just lost my wife, I’ve lost my best friend of 17 years. I’ve been faithful to her all this years and I know that she has been also until this affair. I’ve been crying for 2 days now and I can’t seem to stop. I’m at the end of my wits here and need someone to talk to or exchange some e-mail to get me through this for the next couple days. I really don’t know if I can make it……Please help me with any advise that you my have. I can’t go and see a counselor because I just started a new job and I wouldn’t be in the plan for the next 90 days and she just took me of her plan. I’m also a diabetic and have been taking any of my medication for the past 3 days. I didn’t eat since Monday afternoon and I’m getting really sick but I have no willing to fight or take care of my self. I only wish that I could lay here and die. Thank you for your time to read this. My God bless you all and help you through what ever problems you might have. Sorin
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Yet another example of the ten to fifteen year cycle of women’s comittement. I bet she used to swear undying love and how you would always be together and what would she do with out you, how you would grow old together, things you would do as you grew together, few years down the line and she’s running off with some voice on the phone or someone she met on the net. Sorry dude they are all the same. Like the rest of us, you just got your wake up call to reality. Some it happens later is all. They wonder why in the end men only want to fuck em and won’t commit. Well they made us *laughs* – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Is has been a long time coming (3 months). My wife of 16 years finally left yesterday. She had an affair with someone she met through the phone at work, They have carried a cyber affair for 4 months before she had flown form Fla. to San Francisco to have this affair. He is 53 she is 39. He is married and has 2 children. I’ve contacted his wife but she doesn’t care. After the affair she meet one of his friends and now she is having this cyber affair with this guy. Through all this I have been begging her to rethink it and told her that I will forgive her. We are not having any children and she decided that she in not asking for anything due to the guilt factor. Why is it that when everyone is saying that today is my lucky day because I got the house, furniture, all the money and the stocks, I’m feeling dead inside of me? I really feel like just blowing my brains out? Not only that I just lost my wife, I’ve lost my best friend of 17 years. I’ve been faithful to her all this years and I know that she has been also until this affair. I’ve been crying for 2 days now and I can’t seem to stop. I’m at the end of my wits here and need someone to talk to or exchange some e-mail to get me through this for the next couple days. I really don’t know if I can make it……Please help me with any advise that you my have. I can’t go and see a counselor because I just started a new job and I wouldn’t be in the plan for the next 90 days and she just took me of her plan. I’m also a diabetic and have been taking any of my medication for the past 3 days. I didn’t eat since Monday afternoon and I’m getting really sick but I have no willing to fight or take care of my self. I only wish that I could lay here and die. Thank you for your time to read this. My God bless you all and help you through what ever problems you might have. Sorin
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Yet another example of the ten to fifteen year cycle of women’s comittement. I bet she used to swear undying love and how you would always be together and what would she do with out you, how you would grow old together, things you would do as you grew together, few years down the line and she’s running off with some voice on the phone or someone she met on the net. Sorry dude they are all the same.
I wouldn’t say "all"… Just maybe if a man didn’t ignore a woman’s attempts at romance with HIM, and didn’t ignore her needs and what she has to say; maybe if he would give her the emotional support she needs, and ALLOW her to give HIM what he needs emotionally, sexually (tell her rather than expect her to know or guess?), then just maybe a woman wouldn’t be tempted to seek affection and acceptance elsewhere. It’s a two-way street… Same goes with the genders reversed…
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… I wouldn’t say "all"… Just maybe if a man didn’t ignore a woman’s attempts at romance with HIM, and didn’t ignore her needs and what she has to say; maybe if he would give her the emotional support she needs, and ALLOW her to give HIM what he needs emotionally, sexually (tell her rather than expect her to know or guess?), then just maybe a woman wouldn’t be tempted to seek affection and acceptance elsewhere. It’s a two-way street… Same goes with the genders reversed…
Your last sentence is an awfully small footnote to what amounts to saying that it’s always the man who’s not meeting the woman’s needs. As long as you truly mean it’s a two-way street, it should be clearer that the language be much more gender neutral. JW
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – …. I wouldn’t say "all"… Just maybe if a man didn’t ignore a woman’s attempts at romance with HIM, and didn’t ignore her needs and what she has to say; maybe if he would give her the emotional support she needs, and ALLOW her to give HIM what he needs emotionally, sexually (tell her rather than expect her to know or guess?), then just maybe a woman wouldn’t be tempted to seek affection and acceptance elsewhere. It’s a two-way street… Same goes with the genders reversed… Your last sentence is an awfully small footnote to what amounts to saying that it’s always the man who’s not meeting the woman’s needs. As long as you truly mean it’s a two-way street, it should be clearer that the language be much more gender neutral.
I DO mean it as a gender-neutral, two-way street!! I was merely responding with somewhat of a "defense" to the gender-biased post which i will re-post below, if that makes it more clear to you: Yet another example of the ten to fifteen year cycle of women’s comittement. I bet she used to swear undying love and how you would always be together and what would she do with out you, how you would grow old together, things you would do as you grew together, few years down the line and she’s running off with some voice on the phone or someone she met on the net. Sorry dude they are all the same.
I was also posting based on my OWN personal experience with my ex-husband. I CAN’T post from a man’s point-of-view becuz i have not EXPERIENCED life as a man… I am a woman, not a hermaphrodite, so i can only post what it feels like to be a woman… :-) I was offended when i read the post to which i responded… I meant no offense to anyone in my response….. in a relationship, EVERY person needs to make an effort to meet their partner’s needs… that’s the only point i was trying to make.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I DO mean it as a gender-neutral, two-way street!! I was merely responding with somewhat of a "defense" to the gender-biased post which i will re-post below, if that makes it more clear to you: Yet another example of the ten to fifteen year cycle of women’s comittement. I bet she used to swear undying love and how you would always be together and what would she do with out you, how you would grow old together, things you would do as you grew together, few years down the line and she’s running off with some voice on the phone or someone she met on the net. Sorry dude they are all the same. I was also posting based on my OWN personal experience with my ex-husband. I CAN’T post from a man’s point-of-view becuz i have not EXPERIENCED life as a man… I am a woman, not a hermaphrodite, so i can only post what it feels like to be a woman… :-) I was offended when i read the post to which i responded… I meant no offense to anyone in my response….. in a relationship, EVERY person needs to make an effort to meet their partner’s needs… that’s the only point i was trying to make.
Couldn’t agree more. I was pretty sure of your intentions, but a lot (and I don’t mean you) of people on this NG spend far too much time gender-bashing and not dealing with people/relationships as individuals. Now, where’s that men’s rights manifesto …. JW
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You are much better off without her. Although i know that it does no tseem like it, time will heal all these wounds and you will perserve. Do not lose faith and do not lose hope. Talk to your friends and family and let them help you through these tough times…and it will be tough…dont get me wrong….but the Lord does not gives us more than we can handle…pray and have faith
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Is has been a long time coming (3 months). My wife of 16 years finally left yesterday. She had an affair with someone she met through the phone at work, They have carried a cyber affair for 4 months before she had flown form Fla. to San Francisco to have this affair. He is 53 she is 39. He is married and has 2 children. I’ve contacted his wife but she doesn’t care. After the affair she meet one of his friends and now she is having this cyber affair with this guy. Through all this I have been begging her to rethink it and told her that I will forgive her. We are not having any children and she decided that she in not asking for anything due to the guilt factor. Why is it that when everyone is saying that today is my lucky day because I got the house, furniture, all the money and the stocks, I’m feeling dead inside of me? I really feel like just blowing my brains out? Not only that I just lost my wife, I’ve lost my best friend of 17 years. I’ve been faithful to her all this years and I know that she has been also until this affair. I’ve been crying for 2 days now and I can’t seem to stop. I’m at the end of my wits here and need someone to talk to or exchange some e-mail to get me through this for the next couple days. I really don’t know if I can make it……Please help me with any advise that you my have. I can’t go and see a counselor because I just started a new job and I wouldn’t be in the plan for the next 90 days and she just took me of her plan. I’m also a diabetic and have been taking any of my medication for the past 3 days. I didn’t eat since Monday afternoon and I’m getting really sick but I have no willing to fight or take care of my self. I only wish that I could lay here and die. Thank you for your time to read this. My God bless you all and help you through what ever problems you might have. Sorin
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Yet another example of the ten to fifteen year cycle of women’s comittement. I bet she used to swear undying love and how you would always be together and what would she do with out you, how you would grow old together, things you would do as you grew together, few years down the line and she’s running off with some voice on the phone or someone she met on the net. Sorry dude they are all the same. I wouldn’t say "all"…
Neither would I, for both examples… Just maybe if a man didn’t ignore a woman’s attempts at romance with HIM, and didn’t ignore her needs and what she has to say; maybe if he would give her the emotional support she needs, and ALLOW her to give HIM what he needs emotionally, sexually (tell her rather than expect her to know or guess?), then just maybe a woman wouldn’t be tempted to seek affection and acceptance elsewhere.
Nothing can stop someone from being *tempted*, other than themselves. Anyone who is going to choose to cheat will do so, no matter what their spouse does/doesn’t do. There is *never* an excuse for that. It’s a two-way street… Same goes with the genders reversed…
Indeed. Andre — " The noblest achievement of the imagination is to make time run some other way, and terminate in beauty and forgivness " David Gelernter, " 1939 "
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Yet another example of the ten to fifteen year cycle of women’s comittement. I bet she used to swear undying love and how you would always be together and what would she do with out you, how you would grow old together, things you would do as you grew together, few years down the line and she’s running off with some voice on the phone or someone she met on the net. Sorry dude they are all the same. I wouldn’t say "all"… Neither would I, for both examples… Just maybe if a man didn’t ignore a woman’s attempts at romance with HIM, and didn’t ignore her needs and what she has to say; maybe if he would give her the emotional support she needs, and ALLOW her to give HIM what he needs emotionally, sexually (tell her rather than expect her to know or guess?), then just maybe a woman wouldn’t be tempted to seek affection and acceptance elsewhere. Nothing can stop someone from being *tempted*, other than themselves. Anyone who is going to choose to cheat will do so, no matter what their spouse does/doesn’t do. There is *never* an excuse for that.
Yep, i have to agree to that… We make a conscious decision, at some point, as to whether or not we are going to cheat… I chose, even tho there was no affection in my marriage for many years, NOT to cheat… There WERE temptations, and i was so very lonely, but i don’t believe in cheating.. (unless you count a vibrator!!).. I wanted so very badly to be held, but it wouldn’t be right until i left the marriage…. I can’t imagine the guilt one must feel when they cheat on their spouse…. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – It’s a two-way street… Same goes with the genders reversed… Indeed. Andre
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Uh sorry "dr" but we are NOT all the same. Some of us gave up our commitment to marriage because we were miserable and tired of being HURT. Some of us tried to "fix" things for a lot longer than 15 years. AND some of us DIDN’T run into the arms of another man…before or AFTER the divorce. It’s been two and a half years for me, and I yearn to have a relationship with someone…intimate and otherwise. But to put it bluntly…NO ONE is going to simply "fuck" me, committed or not. And YOU just may want to go see a "real" doctor and get some help for that anger of yours. Being pissed at an entire gender is a sad (and unrealistic) way to live. JA
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Mary Lou, I don’t agree with the previous post but I can assure you that I have loved my wife and she got all and more than she needed as far as support (financially and professionally). I supported her in all the decisions that shad made before this. There wasn’t anything in the world that I didn’t or will do for her even after all this. Please don’t make excuses for infidelity. Infidelity is wrong , cheating on your spouse is wrong no matter whom is doing it. It would be a lot easier if people were honest and decided to go tell their spouses that things don’t work out, we need to go our separate lives and when the divorce is over then that person can do what ever heshe wants to. Sorin PS: Thank you all for all the wonderful e-mails that you sent me.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Yet another example of the ten to fifteen year cycle of women’s comittement. I bet she used to swear undying love and how you would always be together and what would she do with out you, how you would grow old together, things you would do as you grew together, few years down the line and she’s running off with some voice on the phone or someone she met on the net. Sorry dude they are all the same. I wouldn’t say "all"… Just maybe if a man didn’t ignore a woman’s attempts at romance with HIM, and didn’t ignore her needs and what she has to say; maybe if he would give her the emotional support she needs, and ALLOW her to give HIM what he needs emotionally, sexually (tell her rather than expect her to know or guess?), then just maybe a woman wouldn’t be tempted to seek affection and acceptance elsewhere. It’s a two-way street… Same goes with the genders reversed…
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Promise to not kill yourself. Think about admission to the hospital. Under COBRA law, your old plan should still cover you, or you can be covered under several programs for people with limited means or insurance, or medical emergencies. Call the health plan and ask if they cover new emergency problems – because you are in need. It’s just money, and 40 a week (many therapists will drop their 80-100 dollar an hour fee to half that for those with limited means) is a bargain for survival. Remember – though this very important person in your life seems to have stopped loving you, that may not be the case. There are a thousand reasons for her doing this- many pains and hurts that might be driving her behavior. But even if she doesn’t love you at all – you are still lovable. Your worth as a human is not determined by the valuation of you by one person. There are many people who care about you, and your interconnectedness to *those* people is what will help you survive this. Email is fine with me – feel free to write back here of personally. But don’t forget to take care of yourself first. Tim posted and emailed
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Daisy, I’ve already found that out. For all the e-mails that I received, THANK YOU. I don’t know what I could of done tonight with out them tonight. I was almost ready to do something really stupid. Thanks to you guys, I now have a different look at life. Also one of my friends here in Clearwater FL is a dentist and he is listing me as a employee to get mo on the insurance plan. Thanks again for all the wonderful support, Sorin
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Sorin, I don’t have any answers sweetie but I can say you will find alot of companionship and love here in this newsgroup. I’m sorry you’re in so much pain right now. ((hugs)) Daisy Is has been a long time coming (3 months). My wife of 16 years finally left yesterday. She had an affair with someone she met through the phone at work, They have carried a cyber affair for 4 months before she had flown form Fla. to San Francisco to have this affair. He is 53 she is 39. He is married and has 2 children. I’ve contacted his wife but she doesn’t care. After the affair she meet one of his friends and now she is having this cyber affair with this guy. Through all this I have been begging her to rethink it and told her that I will forgive her. We are not having any children and she decided that she in not asking for anything due to the guilt factor. Why is it that when everyone is saying that today is my lucky day because I got the house, furniture, all the money and the stocks, I’m feeling dead inside of me? I really feel like just blowing my brains out? Not only that I just lost my wife, I’ve lost my best friend of 17 years. I’ve been faithful to her all this years and I know that she has been also until this affair. I’ve been crying for 2 days now and I can’t seem to stop. I’m at the end of my wits here and need someone to talk to or exchange some e-mail to get me through this for the next couple days. I really don’t know if I can make it……Please help me with any advise that you my have. I can’t go and see a counselor because I just started a new job and I wouldn’t be in the plan for the next 90 days and she just took me of her plan. I’m also a diabetic and have been taking any of my medication for the past 3 days. I didn’t eat since Monday afternoon and I’m getting really sick but I have no willing to fight or take care of my self. I only wish that I could lay here and die. Thank you for your time to read this. My God bless you all and help you through what ever problems you might have. Sorin
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Hi Sorin, First of all, let me just tell you that you came to exactly the right place. None of us can take your pain away, but definitely know that you’re not alone in this pain, and that we’ve all experienced it in one way or another. By reading various posts in this newsgroup, you can see how others have dealt with their divorce, and perhaps gain some insight through the experiences of others. I can tell you this… when my wife first left, I too was absolutely desperate. I too almost did some very stupid things. I got through it, and I can definitely tell you that time really does heal. I still miss my wife, and I definitely miss being part of a family… but I’m surviving, and I’m really starting my life over. You, my friend, will feel this way eventually. It’s a long, hard road, but it really does get easier. My advice… keep reading this newsgroup. Post messages.. help others. You’ll find that as you respond to others, you’ll begin to realize answers for yourself. Look into depression medication. I got on Paxil shortly after she left, and it really helped me. I’m off it now, but it made all the difference back then. Of course, consult a doctor, as I don’t know if there are implications regarding your medical condition. Some will tell you "don’t do medication… be strong enough to handle it yourself." But I can tell you from personal experience that for a short period of time, the medication really got me through it. I’d be happy to talk more about this privately if you have questions. Look into other resources on the Internet. Here are a couple: http://www.divorcesource.com – There is a 24 hour chat room that has some really great people in there to talk to. Great for handling those anxiety attacks. http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/altsupportdivorce – This is a sub-group of this newsgroup – we get together for chats, and share pictures, etc. Great group of people on there. If you have or get Yahoo Messenger, please feel free to contact me, my You aren’t alone, and you’ll find a plethora of help and support on the net, you’d be surprised how many people can relate. Good luck to you. Michael Before you buy.
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Is has been a long time coming (3 months). My wife of 16 years finally left yesterday. She had an affair with someone she met through the phone at work, They have carried a cyber affair for 4 months before she had flown form Fla. to San Francisco to have this affair. He is 53 she is 39. He is married and has 2 children. I’ve contacted his wife but she doesn’t care. After the affair she meet one of his friends and now she is having this cyber affair with this guy. Through all this I have been begging her to rethink it and told her that I will forgive her. We are not having any children and she decided that she in not asking for anything due to the guilt factor. Why is it that when everyone is saying that today is my lucky day because I got the house, furniture, all the money and the stocks, I’m feeling dead inside of me? I really feel like just blowing my brains out? Not only that I just lost my wife, I’ve lost my best friend of 17 years. I’ve been faithful to her all this years and I know that she has been also until this affair. I’ve been crying for 2 days now and I can’t seem to stop. I’m at the end of my wits here and need someone to talk to or exchange some e-mail to get me through this for the next couple days. I really don’t know if I can make it……Please help me with any advise that you my have. I can’t go and see a counselor because I just started a new job and I wouldn’t be in the plan for the next 90 days and she just took me of her plan. I’m also a diabetic and have been taking any of my medication for the past 3 days. I didn’t eat since Monday afternoon and I’m getting really sick but I have no willing to fight or take care of my self. I only wish that I could lay here and die. Thank you for your time to read this. My God bless you all and help you through what ever problems you might have. Sorin
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Sorin, I don’t have any answers sweetie but I can say you will find alot of companionship and love here in this newsgroup. I’m sorry you’re in so much pain right now. ((hugs)) Daisy
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Is has been a long time coming (3 months). My wife of 16 years finally left yesterday. She had an affair with someone she met through the phone at work, They have carried a cyber affair for 4 months before she had flown form Fla. to San Francisco to have this affair. He is 53 she is 39. He is married and has 2 children. I’ve contacted his wife but she doesn’t care. After the affair she meet one of his friends and now she is having this cyber affair with this guy. Through all this I have been begging her to rethink it and told her that I will forgive her. We are not having any children and she decided that she in not asking for anything due to the guilt factor. Why is it that when everyone is saying that today is my lucky day because I got the house, furniture, all the money and the stocks, I’m feeling dead inside of me? I really feel like just blowing my brains out? Not only that I just lost my wife, I’ve lost my best friend of 17 years. I’ve been faithful to her all this years and I know that she has been also until this affair. I’ve been crying for 2 days now and I can’t seem to stop. I’m at the end of my wits here and need someone to talk to or exchange some e-mail to get me through this for the next couple days. I really don’t know if I can make it……Please help me with any advise that you my have. I can’t go and see a counselor because I just started a new job and I wouldn’t be in the plan for the next 90 days and she just took me of her plan. I’m also a diabetic and have been taking any of my medication for the past 3 days. I didn’t eat since Monday afternoon and I’m getting really sick but I have no willing to fight or take care of my self. I only wish that I could lay here and die. Thank you for your time to read this. My God bless you all and help you through what ever problems you might have. Sorin
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