Lonely Loneliness

I feel horrible

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I am trying to hang on. This is the lowest I have been. My father died 18 months ago, now I have no one. I am a male living alone, age 44, no marriage, no kids, no relatives, friends have rejected me too. Today was the last straw. Tom, who I thought would understand me, just uses me for money. I wanted to make a real good friend with him but he went off and got married too. I have no one now and even my job sucks and the people there cause me problems. What do I do? Please I really feel awful. Anyone who wants to call Tom, and tell him that his friend Glenn is in trouble next door can. It would be appreciated he may be able to talk me out of this. I will give you his number if you write back and tell me you are sincere and want to help. Glenn

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I am a male living alone, age 44, no marriage, no kids,

If you would have gotten married when you were young you wouldn’t have this problem right now, sport.

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Hello,  I can see you are hurting and need some support. I don’t really know what to say except that I’ll be praying for you. Oh, yea, I remember what else now. Ignore Vali, he’s a creep. Love, Bobbie < < < < < < < < < < < < < < < < <

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Vali, If your mom would have aborted that sick, twisted piece of unfeeling flesh that turned out to be you when she was young, we wouldn’t be having this problem right now, sport. : I am a male living alone, age 44, no : marriage, no kids, : : If you would have gotten married when you were young you wouldn’t have : this problem right now, sport. — Friends help you move.  Real friends help you move bodies. "Great pate, but I really gotta motor if I want to catch this funeral" __Heathers__

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I am a male living alone, age 44, no marriage, no kids, If you would have gotten married when you were young you wouldn’t have this problem right now, sport.

Hmmmmm….voice of experience talking?  Oh, no, wait…that would imply that you learned from experience… kimmer

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I am a male living alone, age 44, no marriage, no kids, If you would have gotten married when you were young you wouldn’t have this problem right now, sport.

Vali…you the the prize for being the dumbest most insensitive asshole., I’ve ever had the displeasure of reading.  Many people who got married when they were younger still have that problem, slick!!  You are one bombastic buffoon!! Randi-Lee

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If you would have gotten married when you were young you wouldn’t have this problem right now, sport.

Still failing the humanity lessons I see Sport… orcan  You’re damn right I got the blues,  From my head down to my shoes                     Buddy Guy

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Hi Glenn, And welcome to ASD, if you haven’t heard that a hundred times already!  I am sorry to hear you are feeling so low and alone.  I am also sorry you lost your father and feel alienated by your friend Tom. My first post to ASD came from my loneliness.  I live with my Mom and stepdad but feel alone most of the time too.  My husband divorced me 2 years ago and I am still getting over it. hope you’re feeling better. ((((((((((((Glenn)))))))))))) Holly

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Vali, If your mom would have aborted that sick, twisted piece of unfeeling flesh that turned out to be you when she was young, we wouldn’t be having this problem right now, sport. umm. I may be a little hypersensitive here, but.. this is the second or third post i’ve read in the past week or so along the "your mother should have aborted you" line… this bothers me as much as Vali’s posts do.. while i also think he’s sick and twisted, and that his posts are abusive and cruel.. this kind of open hostility and hatred REALLY gets to me. maybe i’m overreacting.. i just don’t think that ANYONE deserves to be told that they should have been aborted. anyway..

And you are welcome to your opinion….as are the rest of us. Frankly…I stand by my perception of him. stay strong and take care of you orcan  You’re damn right I got the blues,  From my head down to my shoes                     Buddy Guy

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cruel ways…… I also know and have seen his replies to others and it touches nerves in that we are doing what normal people do…….we are not holding back our emotions but letting go and trying to protect those he hurts…..showing am just as accountable for that as anyone—–just makes for more bad some point I really think he has given up that right to be treated like a functioning adult. Sometimes he posts silly things and I have to laugh…….but everytime I read one of his nasty posts…….well I want to know more about him is more of a therapuetic thing for people….and a way or showing their I cringe too everytime I see a response to his that is twice a Hugs to all Becky

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I agree too…….in NO defense of Vali and his repeatedly cruel BUT once again you are entitled to unload your anger anyway that Becky

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Ditto. All these people who complain about Vali’s "heartless" posts should take a quick re-read before they hit the "post" button. I’m constanly stunned at the anger exhibited by certain people in this group. I thought this was "alt.SUPPORTdepression." (??) You really do get back what you put out into the ether, folks… "Act by example." Jennifer (who realizes that one day –who knows?–she just might feel as bad as some of the "trolls"…strange how mental illness works, eh? best bet is to spread love, not anger…)

: If your mom would have aborted that sick, twisted piece of unfeeling flesh : that turned out to be you when she was young, we wouldn’t be having this : problem right now, sport. : umm. I may be a little hypersensitive here, but.. : this is the second or third post i’ve read in the : past week or so along the "your mother should have : aborted you" line… : this bothers me as much as Vali’s posts do.. : while i also think he’s sick and twisted, and that : his posts are abusive and cruel.. : this kind of open hostility and hatred REALLY : gets to me. : maybe i’m overreacting.. i just don’t think that : ANYONE deserves to be told that they should have : been aborted. : anyway.. : take care of yourselves : amylou  :) :   ***  ***             Rule for Happiness: :     ****                           Something to hope for. :      **                                           – Immanuel Kant

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= umm. I may be a little hypersensitive here, but.. = this is the second or third post i’ve read in the = past week or so along the "your mother should have = aborted you" line… = this bothers me as much as Vali’s posts do.. = while i also think he’s sick and twisted, and that = his posts are abusive and cruel.. = this kind of open hostility and hatred REALLY = gets to me. = maybe i’m overreacting.. i just don’t think that = ANYONE deserves to be told that they should have = been aborted. = anyway.. = take care of yourselves = = amylou  :) = = =fwiw, i agree with amylou. = =melissa Me too.  that just sort of crosses the line…I like to think I skirt it… kimmer

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: : uh oh… got your flamewear undies on?  ;-) : Yep.  Always.  And I don’t take back what I said! Vali’s been plagueing this newsgroup for a year or so with his hateful, insensitive, plain-out-shitty remarks. The stuff he’s posted has been unpardoneable and unbelievably cruel.  What’s left in the archives should show that…. People who have empathy for him haven’t been around long enough to see his damage.  I’m sorry, but that is one cruel motherfucker who doesn’t deserve hugs, second (hundred?) chances, or attempts at understanding. He’s had plenty of chances, he’s blown em all. People who show pity for him will change their tune soon enough when their their pet or relative dies and they become the victim of one of Sport’s loathesome, sick accusations. Sorry, y’all, but I stand but what I said.   cindi Postnatal Abortion For Sporto, Now! : : : said: : : Vali, : : If your mom would have aborted that sick, twisted piece of unfeeling flesh : that turned out to be you when she was young, we wouldn’t be having this : problem right now, sport. : : umm. I may be a little hypersensitive here, but.. : this is the second or third post i’ve read in the : past week or so along the "your mother should have : aborted you" line… : this bothers me as much as Vali’s posts do.. : while i also think he’s sick and twisted, and that : his posts are abusive and cruel.. : this kind of open hostility and hatred REALLY : gets to me. : maybe i’m overreacting.. i just don’t think that : ANYONE deserves to be told that they should have : been aborted. : anyway.. : take care of yourselves : : amylou  :) : : :  ***  ***             Rule for Happiness: :    ****                           Something to hope for. :     **                                           – Immanuel Kant : : : : "I would rather be loved by only me, :      than create a facade and be loved by no one" — wombn : : "I am erratic by nature. Don’t depend on me for much" — wombn : : "I AM SIGNIFICANT! screamed the dust speck", Calvin & Hobbes : : abusive email sent to me will be posted in the newsgroup(s) at my discretion. — Friends help you move.  Real friends help you move bodies. "Great pate, but I really gotta motor if I want to catch this funeral" __Heathers__

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