New job
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I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme doubts about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. I’m getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who has twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to catch up but it’s not going well. Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not uncommon). On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, loneliness, and so forth.
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Antares wrote: > I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme > doubts about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. > I’m getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who > has twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > catch up but it’s not going well. > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > uncommon). > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > loneliness, and so forth.
I know it’s not going to help to say "stop stressing" but I’m gonna say it anyway. I”ll bet that within the month (if not within a day) you’re back here posting about how you don’t know what you were so anxious about (or you never even mention it again). ‘grats on the job an’ all. Some people might not have had the balls to carry it off like you apparently did. Do you ever stop to appreciate what you are capable of? – Michaela
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Antares wrote: > I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme > doubts about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. > I’m getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who > has twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > catch up but it’s not going well. > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > uncommon). > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > loneliness, and so forth.
congratulations on your new job. I’m sure you will do well once you get settled in. —
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Antares wrote: > I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme doubts > about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. I’m > getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who has > twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > catch up but it’s not going well. > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > uncommon). > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > loneliness, and so forth.
Congratulations on the job.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Michaela wrote: > Antares wrote: > > I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > > experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme > > doubts about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. > > I’m getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who > > has twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > > might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > > catch up but it’s not going well. > > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > > uncommon). > > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > > loneliness, and so forth. > I know it’s not going to help to say "stop stressing" but I’m gonna > say it anyway.
Yeah, I’m trying. It’s a pretty stressful situation, though. I’m going to have to work weekends for the foreseeable future. > I”ll bet that within the month (if not within a day) you’re back > here posting about how you don’t know what you were so anxious > about (or you never even mention it again).
Hopefully. Thanks for the vote of confidence. > ‘grats on the job an’ all. Some people might not have had the balls > to carry it off like you apparently did. > Do you ever stop to appreciate what you are capable of?
Getting a job seems pretty basic to me. It’s something like the minimum requirement for self-esteem (for a single person, anyway). As such, I don’t really see it as an extraordinary achievement.
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Visi Caulk Mah Pnats wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Antares wrote: > > I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > > experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme > > doubts about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. > > I’m getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who > > has twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > > might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > > catch up but it’s not going well. > > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > > uncommon). > > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > > loneliness, and so forth. > congratulations on your new job. > I’m sure you will do well once you get settled in.
Thanks.
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"Antares" <antaresonwhe…@gmail.com> wrote in news:1129973024.916821.11300 @g49g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: > I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme doubts > about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. I’m > getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who has > twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > catch up but it’s not going well. > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > uncommon). > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > loneliness, and so forth.
The first few weeks in any new position of responsibility feel that way to me. Best advice I can give is to check your ego at the door and don’t be afraid to ask lots of "stupid questions" and be caught making mistakes.
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Antares wrote: > Michaela wrote: >> Do you ever stop to appreciate what you are capable of? > Getting a job seems pretty basic to me. It’s something like the > minimum requirement for self-esteem (for a single person, anyway).
I dunno. Mebbe even for a married person. As > such, I don’t really see it as an extraordinary achievement.
You truly don’t realise that there are millions and millions of people out there who’d be drooling at the opportunities and skills you’ve got? You’ve never considered that another person with great dating skills might take those skills for granted but never have the courage to do what you’ve just done? You seem to have taken this new job thing so easily. For some it’d be a traumatic change. – Michaela
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Michaela wrote: > Antares wrote: > > Michaela wrote: > >> Do you ever stop to appreciate what you are capable of? > > Getting a job seems pretty basic to me. It’s something like the > > minimum requirement for self-esteem (for a single person, anyway).
[snip] > You truly don’t realise that there are millions and millions of > people out there who’d be drooling at the opportunities and > skills you’ve got?
Sure, I realize it. It’s just that I’m not a big happiness relativist. Many of the people who drool over my job are probably happier than I am. As the Mambo Master pointed out a while ago, our brains are built in such a way that we become accustomed to virtually every situation after a while. > You’ve never considered that another person with great dating > skills might take those skills for granted but never have the > courage to do what you’ve just done?
It’s not really courage. I was raised in a middle class family, went to college, went to grad school, got a job. A relatively painless route. If I’d had to work my way up from being a McDonald’s cashier, say, that would have entailed genuine courage. That’s why I admire people who are self-made: they’ve had to work their way up from nothing. > You seem to have taken this new job thing so easily. For some > it’d be a traumatic change.
To some extent, it was. It’s no picnic having to move. But that trauma has been overshadowed by the stress of not knowing whether I’d be able to get through the first 1-2 months without being fired. Anyway, in response to your overall point – yes, I could probably stand to be more appreciative of my situation, and I probably will, when (or rather if) my stress levels diminish. Then I’ll be back on a.s.s whining about not having a girlfriend. 
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Antares wrote: > Michaela wrote: > > Antares wrote: > > > Michaela wrote: > > >> Do you ever stop to appreciate what you are capable of? > > > Getting a job seems pretty basic to me. It’s something like the > > > minimum requirement for self-esteem (for a single person, anyway). > [snip] > > You truly don’t realise that there are millions and millions of > > people out there who’d be drooling at the opportunities and > > skills you’ve got? > Sure, I realize it. It’s just that I’m not a big happiness > relativist. Many of the people who drool over my job are probably > happier than I am. As the Mambo Master pointed out a while ago, our > brains are built in such a way that we become accustomed to virtually > every situation after a while.
yeah I wonder about that too. I am accustomed to the line of work I do but people remind me that it really is a dream for a lot of people that I am living. > > You’ve never considered that another person with great dating > > skills might take those skills for granted but never have the > > courage to do what you’ve just done? > It’s not really courage. I was raised in a middle class family, went > to college, went to grad school, got a job. A relatively painless > route. If I’d had to work my way up from being a McDonald’s cashier, > say, that would have entailed genuine courage. That’s why I admire > people who are self-made: they’ve had to work their way up from > nothing.
you didn’t have to work for your education? > > You seem to have taken this new job thing so easily. For some > > it’d be a traumatic change. > To some extent, it was. It’s no picnic having to move. But that > trauma has been overshadowed by the stress of not knowing whether I’d > be able to get through the first 1-2 months without being fired.
yes, I feel like that too on every job! > Anyway, in response to your overall point – yes, I could probably > stand to be more appreciative of my situation, and I probably will, > when (or rather if) my stress levels diminish. Then I’ll be back on > a.s.s whining about not having a girlfriend.
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"Antares" <antaresonwhe…@gmail.com> wrote in news:1130100586.273909.204840@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: > That’s why I admire > people who are self-made: they’ve had to work their way up from > nothing.
In a way I’ve come to admire people like Eisenhower, who although not really very interesting people, are able to ‘get things done’. — As for the pastor, after four days of listening to science experts dismantling the case for intelligent design, he was unimpressed. "They’re babblers," said the pastor, the Rev. Jim Grove, who leads a 40-member independent Baptist church outside of Dover. "The more Ph.D.’s you get, it seems like the further away from God you get." (NY Times, 10-2-05)
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Mad Mambo Master of Macedonia wrote: > "Antares" <antaresonwhe…@gmail.com> wrote in > news:1130100586.273909.204840@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com: > > That’s why I admire > > people who are self-made: they’ve had to work their way up from > > nothing. > In a way I’ve come to admire people like Eisenhower, who although not > really very interesting people, are able to ‘get things done’.
I imagine that’d be a plus after being in an environment full of incompetent assholes who do nothing but talk all day. Not that that’s necessarily where you’re coming from.
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Antares wrote: > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > uncommon). > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > loneliness, and so forth.
I’d say throw yourself into the job. And by this, I mean, engulf your free time with nothing but work related material. It sounds like you are in a pivotal point in your life where you are short on hobbies, and long on needs to fill voids in your life. I don’t know what line of work you are in and you are working crazy hours, but do as much as you can outside of work to catch up with the others. Wind down every night with 2 to 3 hours of reflection on what transpired during the day or use that time to get an edge on material that will be covered the next day. And while comparing yourself to others as some kind of litmus test is inevitable in this situation, try not to dwell on it too much. Don’t just strive to be average or to simply avoid being looked upon as the slowest. Concentrate on what you need to know to get your job done and accept that your learn at a different pace than others.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Antares wrote: > I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme doubts > about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. I’m > getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who has > twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > catch up but it’s not going well. > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > uncommon). > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > loneliness, and so forth.
Wooo! That sounds awesome. — Operated by a naked and petrified Natalie Portman with hot grits stuffed down her panties. (-August Pamplona, 2005) —— http://sinmonkey.com/assgallery/
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Dolores wrote: > Antares wrote: > > I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > > experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme doubts > > about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. I’m > > getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who has > > twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > > might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > > catch up but it’s not going well. > > Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > > uncommon). > > On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > > little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > > loneliness, and so forth. > Wooo! That sounds awesome.
Yup. Desensitization due to slavery really rocks.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Antares wrote: > Dolores wrote: >>Antares wrote: >>>I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful >>>experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme doubts >>>about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. I’m >>>getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who has >>>twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I >>>might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to >>>catch up but it’s not going well. >>>Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not >>>uncommon). >>>On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very >>>little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, >>>loneliness, and so forth. >>Wooo! That sounds awesome. > Yup. Desensitization due to slavery really rocks.
Stressful experiences make you stronger (or insane), and having a job that pushes you to improve yourself also makes you stronger, and having a job at all is a Good Thing. — why? Morals is about having the right to do everything you’re strong enough to do, or not. – Frank, french philosophy student
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Dolores wrote: > Antares wrote: > > Dolores wrote: > >>Antares wrote: > >>>I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful > >>>experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme doubts > >>>about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. I’m > >>>getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who has > >>>twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I > >>>might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to > >>>catch up but it’s not going well. > >>>Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not > >>>uncommon). > >>>On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very > >>>little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, > >>>loneliness, and so forth. > >>Wooo! That sounds awesome. > > Yup. Desensitization due to slavery really rocks. > Stressful experiences make you stronger (or insane) and having a job > that pushes you to improve yourself also makes you stronger, and having > a job at all is a Good Thing.
"Gosh, you’re an upbeat lady!" –Bill Murray, Groundhog Day
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Antares wrote: > Dolores wrote: >>Antares wrote: >>>Dolores wrote: >>>>Antares wrote: >>>>>I started my new job this week. Overall, it’s been a stressful >>>>>experience. There’s a ton of stuff to learn, and I have extreme doubts >>>>>about my ability to catch up in a reasonable amount of time. I’m >>>>>getting the impression that the job was intended for someone who has >>>>>twice as much experience as I do; perhaps they overestimate me? I >>>>>might have oversold myself on the job interview. I’m scrambling to >>>>>catch up but it’s not going well. >>>>>Also, it’s a start-up, so they work insane hours (9am-9pm is not >>>>>uncommon). >>>>>On the plus side, the work stuff is so stressful that I have very >>>>>little time for depressing thoughts about shyness, love-shyness, >>>>>loneliness, and so forth. >>>>Wooo! That sounds awesome. >>>Yup. Desensitization due to slavery really rocks. >>Stressful experiences make you stronger (or insane) and having a job >>that pushes you to improve yourself also makes you stronger, and having >>a job at all is a Good Thing. > "Gosh, you’re an upbeat lady!" > –Bill Murray, Groundhog Day
hahahaha! Or else insane. — why? Morals is about having the right to do everything you’re strong enough to do, or not. – Frank, french philosophy student
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