So Lonely Even Though I Have A B.F.
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stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in news:1a66b8fe.0410120957.67dd807d@posting.google.com: > "soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in message > <news:574230afebc2d2e8b3e83f41b8e740b4@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com>. > .. >> Well its a little too late to do anything about this baby. I’m due >> in 3 months. Beleive me, I ask myself that every day! > Have you considered adoption?
It’s a definite possibility, if she feels she is not up to raising a child financially/emotionally, etc. > Maybe the two of you can go to counseling. Maybe he just does not know > how to act with a baby on the way. Maybe you dont need him period. > I hope things get better for you.
– "My name is Mike. I take care of the place while The Master is away." –The shocking conclusion of "Manos"
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Hey Darkfalz…. that’s kind of harsh and mean. I am really hurt over all this. I came here for what I thought was a support group. I’m sorry if you feel this isn’t worthy of support. But, what the hell are you on here for anyways? To make the people who are already down and blue feel even more like shit?? Well, give yourself a pat on the back, bc it’s working!
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On Wed, 13 Oct 2004 09:21:00 +1300, the world was enlightented by Your Name Here=Harvey, unto whom the words are attributed: > Romantic love is the hardest thing to find and hold onto in this > world – if it was there at all, it only seems to last a very short time, > when you don’t know each other, and when you do start to get to know > each other – you start drifting apart? Usually because you’re not so > compatible as you first thought you were. > I guess that is the nature of relationships – and that only if you were > really compatible, can you endure the ups and downs of a relationship, > and of life itself. > True love, or real friendship — lasts and lasts — but that is so very > hard to find, especially with a boyfriend or girlfriend (of opposite sex) > for that special relationship of a lifetime… > Harvey
I second that! Mosnter — I am the sexiest man in the UuuuKaaaayy All the girls love me And I will never grow Ooollldd I am the sexiest man in the UuuKaaaay! http://www.the-monstruum.co.uk
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>>>>> In bed he’s all the way over on his side no where near me. Every morning >>>>> I wish so bad he would just roll over and come to my side and hold me. >>>>> When this doesn’t happen, my lonliness kicks in asap. 
>>>> Why don’t you hold him? >>> Why the fuck are EITHER of you here? You have no fucking idea what >>> loneliness is. >> Perhaps that’s why we’re here. > Bullshit. You are like some whores who had a guy flick his tongue at from a > distance hanging around in a support group for rape survivors. Your presence > cheapens and insults the rest of us.
You ought to killifile me Darkfalz if I upset you like this. Then you won’t have to read anything I write… why do you bother to reply?
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I don’t know… why does anyone do the things they do. At that time we were very close. The baby has seperated us from each other. Why are you on here? Are you lonely?
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Well, I can see exactly what your saying and it all makes sense. If I were to guess, I would say he wants out of the relationship but now feels he has to hold on for the baby. Even though he doesn’t want the baby. I’m young, hes not. I’m 25 hes 35. I guess the main reason I’m so lonely is bc we don’t ever talk anymore. He used to call me at work and send me emails. That’s all gone now. I’ve tried talking to him and all he says is… your rude or mean to me. Which is not true. He uses this same excuse everytime. Why can’t he just be a man and tell me he doesn’t want me? Then I could move on and I wouldn’t be so lonley around here. 
Thank you for your advice, it all made sense. It’s hard to spend time w/ friends right now, I keep thinking of my b.f. and want to be here in case he decides to spend time w/ me back. God, as I’m writing this I hear how insane this sounds! I see why I’m young. So you like this site? Why did you first come on here?? –
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"Darkfalz" <darkfalz.use…@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:2t04pnF1p70ilU1@uni-berlin.de… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in message > news:520dd86f2bdc9c3d7b4c1de1e3f148a7@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com… > > I’m so Lonely! I can’t take it anymore. I’m so sad and down in the dumps > > today because of it. I’m 6 months pregnant living w/ my boyfriend, and > > yet I’m still lonely. This pregnancy is obviously something we both dont > > want and it’s caused nothing but problems. Were nice to each other, but > > we hardly talk to each other at home. In bed he’s all the way over on his > > side no where near me. Every morning I wish so bad he would just roll > > over and come to my side and hold me. When this doesn’t happen, my > > lonliness kicks in asap. Anyone else going through this?????? > Don’t you just feel awful for her?
I hope he loses his job and she has quadruplets. /Pinot Grigio + Usenet = not a smart combination
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"soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in message <news:bd9aff00ead2b5fae45045834646309f@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com>… > I don’t know… why does anyone do the things they do. At that time we > were very close.
You deserve all the misery you get, then. Forget about your own selfish whining for a second and consider the fact that you are bringing a child into a very unhappy environment. Your lack of foresight will potentially ruin the life of someone who didn’t ask to be born. People like you should actually take that into consideration before deciding to procreate. You need a license to drive, fish, hunt, etc., but any idiot, such as the OP, can bring a child in to the world. Amazing.
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"soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in message <news:2d91a4951bf448b5bf66d197897388d0@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com>… > Well, I can see exactly what your saying and it all makes sense. If I were > to guess, I would say he wants out of the relationship but now feels he > has to hold on for the baby. Even though he doesn’t want the baby. I’m > young, hes not. I’m 25 hes 35.
Yeah, that’s a real tricky situation. Wow. Just trying to imagine the situation and put myself into your shoes makes me depressed! And scared…literally shaking (just a bit, though)…wow. I hope you will at least have family support, or some such support network to count on?? > I guess the main reason I’m so lonely is > bc we don’t ever talk anymore. He used to call me at work and send me > emails. That’s all gone now. I’ve tried talking to him and all he says > is… your rude or mean to me. Which is not true. He uses this same > excuse everytime.
Yeah, it’s so depressing when that happens, when someone who constantly called you up once no lnoger does so at all anymore…something really depressing about that, that such enthusiasm can be so absolutely gone. Something depressing about not having one damned thing to count on in life except death and taxes. > Why can’t he just be a man and tell me he doesn’t want > me? Then I could move on and I wouldn’t be so lonley around here.
I ask the same of my ex. The simple answer is that they don’t want to, they think it would be messy and not worth the effort. Or they may even be doing that "reverse psychology/passive-agressive" routine, where they almost "force" the other party to get nuts and behave badly as a result so that they preserve their sense of diginity. > Thank you for your advice, it all made sense. It’s hard to spend time w/ > friends right now, I keep thinking of my b.f. and want to be here in case > he decides to spend time w/ me back. God, as I’m writing this I hear how > insane this sounds! I see why I’m young. So you like this site? Why did > you first come on here?? –
I think all human beings are existentially lonely. Me, my recent breakup, and the horrible way it happened, got me face-to-face with that pain again.
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"Eerie Cabinets of Dr. Rodent" <a…@at.org> wrote in message news:Xns957F88961CD44fkjdlkvjcxoiuarepoij@68.6.19.6… > "soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in > news:520dd86f2bdc9c3d7b4c1de1e3f148a7@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com: >> This pregnancy is obviously something we both dont >> want and it’s caused nothing but problems. > Why are you still pregant?
The question should be: "Why did you have unprotected sex then?"
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On Mon, 11 Oct 2004 14:50:23 -0400, the world was enlightented by soblue, unto whom the words are attributed: > I’m so Lonely! I can’t take it anymore. I’m so sad and down in the dumps > today because of it. I’m 6 months pregnant living w/ my boyfriend, and > yet I’m still lonely. This pregnancy is obviously something we both dont > want and it’s caused nothing but problems. Were nice to each other, but > we hardly talk to each other at home. In bed he’s all the way over on his > side no where near me. Every morning I wish so bad he would just roll > over and come to my side and hold me. When this doesn’t happen, my > lonliness kicks in asap. Anyone else going through this??????
Have you tried talking to him about it? Found out why he doesn’t want to hold you? Maybe he finds you being pregnant to be frightening (men are weird, I should know, I am one) Sorry you are feeling so desperately lonely – you have my sympathy. If it helps, well the bunch here are pretty friendly, if a little crazy at times. Consider yourself fortunate you are still on good terms – I once lived with someone I wished would roll over and disappear forever. Us men are simple creatures, though we find it hard sometimes to talk about our feelings, we are pretty simple to figure out. Everything pretty much boils down to food and sex with us… If your b/f is young (you sound young), likely he’s scared of the committment that a child means – keeping his distance from you physically is a way of communicating his desire to keep a distance emotionally, which he might be maintaining because he’s privately scared, or something like that, rather than because he’s fallen out of love with you (obviously I’m wildly speculating here). Or maybe he wants (I’m really sorry to say this, but it is speculation) to get out of the relationship, but doesn’t want to hurt you by saying so, feels he has to be there for the baby, etc. As to what you can do about it… Well, talk to your b/f – that is, talk with, not at. If he thinks for 1/2 a second you’re nagging, he’ll clam up. That means asking indirect questions, and listening, and showing that you are listening. Sooner or later he’ll start talking. Then you can get onto the direct questions… When was the last time you did something like going on a date together? Maybe you should venture something there. Maybe he just needs to take a little break from you, and a chance to talk to someone else (like his mum) about things, if he feels like doing so. Obviously I don’t know anything about your general situation than what you’ve said, but these things just occur to me. As to lifting your mood, have you tried treating yourself lately? Socialising with friends/family? In a few months you are going to have nearly no time at all to enjoy things purely for yourself – I suggest you pull up the corners of your mouth as best you can, and get out and try to have as much fun as you can while you can! Without consuming lots of booze of course There’s plenty of ways to enjoy yourself without that… Well, this might help, or you might think it’s total crap, but it is based on my own experience. Good luck! Monster — I am the sexiest man in the UuuuKaaaayy All the girls love me And I will never grow Ooollldd I am the sexiest man in the UuuKaaaay! http://www.the-monstruum.co.uk
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"Dead Guy" <kittner12…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:43d8a4e9.0410112328.39c7e04a@posting.google.com… > "soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in message > <news:bd9aff00ead2b5fae45045834646309f@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com>… >> I don’t know… why does anyone do the things they do. At that time we >> were very close. > You deserve all the misery you get, then. Forget about your own > selfish whining for a second and consider the fact that you are > bringing a child into a very unhappy environment. Your lack of > foresight will potentially ruin the life of someone who didn’t ask to > be born. People like you should actually take that into consideration > before deciding to procreate. You need a license to drive, fish, hunt, > etc., but any idiot, such as the OP, can bring a child in to the > world. Amazing.
Well said. "Parents" like this should be locked up and their children forcibly put up for adoption.
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"Sklenge" <skle…@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
news:BD909D57.25368%sklenge@yahoo.co.uk… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Darkfalz’s post: >> "Sklenge" <skle…@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message >> news:BD909C01.25361%sklenge@yahoo.co.uk… >>> soblue’s post: >>>> In bed he’s all the way over on his >>>> side no where near me. Every morning I wish so bad he would just roll >>>> over and come to my side and hold me. When this doesn’t happen, my >>>> lonliness kicks in asap. >>> Why don’t you hold him? >> Why the fuck are EITHER of you here? >> You have no fucking idea what loneliness is. > Perhaps that’s why we’re here.
Bullshit. You are like some whores who had a guy flick his tongue at from a distance hanging around in a support group for rape survivors. Your presence cheapens and insults the rest of us.
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kittner12…@yahoo.com (Dead Guy) wrote in message <news:43d8a4e9.0410112328.39c7e04a@posting.google.com>… > "soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in message <news:bd9aff00ead2b5fae45045834646309f@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com>… > > I don’t know… why does anyone do the things they do. At that time we > > were very close. > You deserve all the misery you get, then. Forget about your own > selfish whining for a second and consider the fact that you are > bringing a child into a very unhappy environment. Your lack of > foresight will potentially ruin the life of someone who didn’t ask to > be born. People like you should actually take that into consideration > before deciding to procreate. You need a license to drive, fish, hunt, > etc., but any idiot, such as the OP, can bring a child in to the > world. Amazing.
Or he/she could grow up to be president/ own their own company/ etc. I know several people who were "unwanted" children and grew up to make something of themselves.
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This is a newsgroup? What exactly is that? Hmm… Maybe I’m in the wrong place and maybe that’s why some responses to me have been rude and certainly not helpful. Your response is nice. Well, I have to say though, I’m moving on from him. I’ll have this baby and take care of it. It’s not the babies fault this is happening. This will be a wanted child, by me. Last night, I found out my b.f. is trying to locate an ex lover. I wigged out. Today I’m moving in w/ my mom for awhile. I def. need to get away from him. I don’t feel so lonely now that I know it wasn’t all my fault. You know? Thank you for being so kind to me.
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"soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in message <news:574230afebc2d2e8b3e83f41b8e740b4@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com>… > Well its a little too late to do anything about this baby. I’m due in 3 > months. Beleive me, I ask myself that every day!
Have you considered adoption? Maybe the two of you can go to counseling. Maybe he just does not know how to act with a baby on the way. Maybe you dont need him period. I hope things get better for you.
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"soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in news:520dd86f2bdc9c3d7b4c1de1e3f148a7@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com: > This pregnancy is obviously something we both dont > want and it’s caused nothing but problems.
Why are you still pregant? — "My name is Mike. I take care of the place while The Master is away." –The shocking conclusion of "Manos"
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I do hold him. But after awhile, it gets old holding onto something thats not holding you back.
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Well its a little too late to do anything about this baby. I’m due in 3 months. Beleive me, I ask myself that every day!
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Why are YOU here? I don’t see you talking about your lonliness! Just putting others down for what makes them lonely. What makes you lonely??? Whats your idea of lonliness?
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I’m so Lonely! I can’t take it anymore. I’m so sad and down in the dumps today because of it. I’m 6 months pregnant living w/ my boyfriend, and yet I’m still lonely. This pregnancy is obviously something we both dont want and it’s caused nothing but problems. Were nice to each other, but we hardly talk to each other at home. In bed he’s all the way over on his side no where near me. Every morning I wish so bad he would just roll over and come to my side and hold me. When this doesn’t happen, my lonliness kicks in asap. Anyone else going through this??????
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"soblue" <cad2…@cs.com> wrote in message
news:520dd86f2bdc9c3d7b4c1de1e3f148a7@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com… > I’m so Lonely! I can’t take it anymore. I’m so sad and down in the dumps > today because of it. I’m 6 months pregnant living w/ my boyfriend, and > yet I’m still lonely. This pregnancy is obviously something we both dont > want and it’s caused nothing but problems. Were nice to each other, but > we hardly talk to each other at home. In bed he’s all the way over on his > side no where near me. Every morning I wish so bad he would just roll > over and come to my side and hold me. When this doesn’t happen, my > lonliness kicks in asap. Anyone else going through this??????
Don’t you just feel awful for her?
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soblue’s post: > In bed he’s all the way over on his > side no where near me. Every morning I wish so bad he would just roll > over and come to my side and hold me. When this doesn’t happen, my > lonliness kicks in asap.
Why don’t you hold him?
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"Sklenge" <skle…@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
news:BD909C01.25361%sklenge@yahoo.co.uk… > soblue’s post: >> In bed he’s all the way over on his >> side no where near me. Every morning I wish so bad he would just roll >> over and come to my side and hold me. When this doesn’t happen, my >> lonliness kicks in asap. > Why don’t you hold him?
Why the fuck are EITHER of you here? You have no fucking idea what loneliness is.
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Darkfalz’s post: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Sklenge" <skle…@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message > news:BD909C01.25361%sklenge@yahoo.co.uk… >> soblue’s post: >>> In bed he’s all the way over on his >>> side no where near me. Every morning I wish so bad he would just roll >>> over and come to my side and hold me. When this doesn’t happen, my >>> lonliness kicks in asap. >> Why don’t you hold him? > Why the fuck are EITHER of you here? > You have no fucking idea what loneliness is.
Perhaps that’s why we’re here.
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