Lonely Loneliness

Stories from the Desert

Question:

"ric" (can…@writeme.com) writes: > Chloe, as long as I am around (and I am around occasionally   … you > will never laugh alone > welc… naaaaaaa, later… to Nick too

LOL:):):) As long as Nick let’s us know before he leaves for somewhere else, so we do not accumulate the strectched welc…Ooops. The "thing" ya know?:) Else he would not know which welc… is for what return anymore!;-):) Chloe  >  > honest love, ric > – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Eloi Beaudoin wrote in message <6unop2$…@freenet-news.carleton.ca>… >>Hi there Nick!! >>Sorry to not have been there to wish you a nice welcome back >>earlier!:) >>But just the same….the wait can make it feel nicer they >>say…. >>So here it is: "welc…… ….?…. >>Ermm…Wait a minute here!:) >>…hm…Think I will wait some more….So it feels even >>nicer when I say the welcome words….:):) >>Then I’ll just say for now "Hi Nick! Can’t wait til you are >>back from the desert….L:) >>(someone intern me, I laugh alone here:)) >>Chloe >> Nicholas Temple (ntem…@bluegrass.net) writes: >>> In article <19980927202652.06996.00002…@ng111.aol.com>, > regrid…@aol.com >>> says… >>>>Dear Nick…. >>>>It sounds like a beautiful and remarkable experience.  No wonder you > sound >>> so >>>>much better !!  It is good to be around people that you know love > you, isn’t >>> it >>>>?  That is very hard to find these days. >>>>Okay….more !!! >>>>Hugs and Smiles, >>>>Gina >>> Thanks, Gina. >>> Unfortunately the negative effect is the time change. It’s 2 hours > earlier in >>> Tucson than here in Louisville. For the first 4 days there, I was > awakening >>> each morning at 4:00 a.m. >>> Now I’m back in Louisville. It’s 1:30 a.m. here, and I can’t sleep! >>> Oh, well, I shall adjust in a few days. Until then I shall play the > nightman! >>> (Absurd TV show I just watched for the 1st time). >>> Many hugs to all, especially those as awake as I at this moment! >>> Nick >>–

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Hi there Nick!! Sorry to not have been there to wish you a nice welcome back earlier!:) But just the same….the wait can make it feel nicer they say…. So here it is: "welc…… ….?…. Ermm…Wait a minute here!:) …hm…Think I will wait some more….So it feels even nicer when I say the welcome words….:):) Then I’ll just say for now "Hi Nick! Can’t wait til you are back from the desert….L:) (someone intern me, I laugh alone here:)) Chloe  Nicholas Temple (ntem…@bluegrass.net) writes: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> In article <19980927202652.06996.00002…@ng111.aol.com>, regrid…@aol.com > says… >>Dear Nick…. >>It sounds like a beautiful and remarkable experience.  No wonder you sound > so >>much better !!  It is good to be around people that you know love you, isn’t > it >>?  That is very hard to find these days.   >>Okay….more !!! >>Hugs and Smiles, >>Gina > Thanks, Gina. > Unfortunately the negative effect is the time change. It’s 2 hours earlier in > Tucson than here in Louisville. For the first 4 days there, I was awakening > each morning at 4:00 a.m. > Now I’m back in Louisville. It’s 1:30 a.m. here, and I can’t sleep! > Oh, well, I shall adjust in a few days. Until then I shall play the nightman! > (Absurd TV show I just watched for the 1st time). > Many hugs to all, especially those as awake as I at this moment! > Nick

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Chloe, as long as I am around (and I am around occasionally   … you will never laugh alone welc… naaaaaaa, later… to Nick too honest love, ric – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Eloi Beaudoin wrote in message <6unop2$…@freenet-news.carleton.ca>… >Hi there Nick!! >Sorry to not have been there to wish you a nice welcome back >earlier!:) >But just the same….the wait can make it feel nicer they >say…. >So here it is: "welc…… ….?…. >Ermm…Wait a minute here!:) >…hm…Think I will wait some more….So it feels even >nicer when I say the welcome words….:):) >Then I’ll just say for now "Hi Nick! Can’t wait til you are >back from the desert….L:) >(someone intern me, I laugh alone here:)) >Chloe > Nicholas Temple (ntem…@bluegrass.net) writes: >> In article <19980927202652.06996.00002…@ng111.aol.com>,

regrid…@aol.com – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->> says… >>>Dear Nick…. >>>It sounds like a beautiful and remarkable experience.  No wonder you sound >> so >>>much better !!  It is good to be around people that you know love you, isn’t >> it >>>?  That is very hard to find these days. >>>Okay….more !!! >>>Hugs and Smiles, >>>Gina >> Thanks, Gina. >> Unfortunately the negative effect is the time change. It’s 2 hours earlier in >> Tucson than here in Louisville. For the first 4 days there, I was awakening >> each morning at 4:00 a.m. >> Now I’m back in Louisville. It’s 1:30 a.m. here, and I can’t sleep! >> Oh, well, I shall adjust in a few days. Until then I shall play the nightman! >> (Absurd TV show I just watched for the 1st time). >> Many hugs to all, especially those as awake as I at this moment! >> Nick >–

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->My friends, >The week in Tucson was rejuvenating. I met and re-met many remarkable people, >the majority of whom were also hurting in some way. I also became >re-aquatinted with solitude as opposed to loneliness. And I learned a great >deal, not only about interim ministry, but also about myself. >Here’s one example that I’ll share now. There are others, which I shall pass >on as I process them. >We had a morning Bible study in which we would read a text and then share the >word or phrase that "struck" us. Then we would read the same text from a >different translation and share the word or phrase that touched out lives at >that moment. Finally, we would read the text from a third translation and >share what we felt God was calling us to understand/do/etc. We would then >pray, specifically centering on a pray for the person to our right. The time >ended with us holding hands and praying the Lord’s Prayer in unison. >It took me until Thursday to feel open enough to share my pain regarding my >wife and out 2+ year separation. The response was unb >elievable, not only >during the study, but afterwards. On the way to the next session, Drucilla, >an Episcopal priest, spoke with me the entire 30 minute break time. I can’t >remember her specific words, but I do remember my tears and her hug. >Later, Len, a Christian Reformed Church pastor, strolled with me in the >desert. At first he simply said I needed to drop my wife and wipe the memory >of her from my mind. Later, as he understood the story of our 29 years >together and of my wife’s attempts to heal from the incest of her childhood >and family of origin, he changed the tune he was singing. He said he >understood my grief, my commitment, my devotion to my wife. He said he also >suspected her love for me. Len then affirmed that I am a loving person in a >Christ-like manner. He did more: he said that he would pray daily for God’s >intervention in my wife’s life for her healing — and in mine, for >regeneration and joy. >There were other occasions and people who touched me, not the least of whom >was the young man who served me at a Waffle House on the morning I returned >to Louisville. I’ll share that, and other stories, as I can, and if there is >an interest on your part. > Shalom and many blessings and hugs, >Nick

============================= Dear Nick…. It sounds like a beautiful and remarkable experience.  No wonder you sound so much better !!  It is good to be around people that you know love you, isn’t it ?  That is very hard to find these days.   Okay….more !!! Hugs and Smiles, Gina "Don’t be afraid to care Leave, but don’t leave me Look around and choose your own ground For long you live and high you fly And smiles you’ll give and tears you’ll cry And all you touch and all you see Is all your life will ever be.  – Pink Floyd

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In article <19980927202652.06996.00002…@ng111.aol.com>, regrid…@aol.com says… >Dear Nick…. >It sounds like a beautiful and remarkable experience.  No wonder you sound so >much better !!  It is good to be around people that you know love you, isn’t it >?  That is very hard to find these days.   >Okay….more !!! >Hugs and Smiles, >Gina

Thanks, Gina. Unfortunately the negative effect is the time change. It’s 2 hours earlier in Tucson than here in Louisville. For the first 4 days there, I was awakening each morning at 4:00 a.m. Now I’m back in Louisville. It’s 1:30 a.m. here, and I can’t sleep! Oh, well, I shall adjust in a few days. Until then I shall play the nightman! (Absurd TV show I just watched for the 1st time). Many hugs to all, especially those as awake as I at this moment! Nick

Response:

My friends, The week in Tucson was rejuvenating. I met and re-met many remarkable people, the majority of whom were also hurting in some way. I also became re-aquatinted with solitude as opposed to loneliness. And I learned a great deal, not only about interim ministry, but also about myself. Here’s one example that I’ll share now. There are others, which I shall pass on as I process them. We had a morning Bible study in which we would read a text and then share the word or phrase that "struck" us. Then we would read the same text from a different translation and share the word or phrase that touched out lives at that moment. Finally, we would read the text from a third translation and share what we felt God was calling us to understand/do/etc. We would then pray, specifically centering on a pray for the person to our right. The time ended with us holding hands and praying the Lord’s Prayer in unison. It took me until Thursday to feel open enough to share my pain regarding my wife and out 2+ year separation. The response was unbelievable, not only during the study, but afterwards. On the way to the next session, Drucilla, an Episcopal priest, spoke with me the entire 30 minute break time. I can’t remember her specific words, but I do remember my tears and her hug. Later, Len, a Christian Reformed Church pastor, strolled with me in the desert. At first he simply said I needed to drop my wife and wipe the memory of her from my mind. Later, as he understood the story of our 29 years together and of my wife’s attempts to heal from the incest of her childhood and family of origin, he changed the tune he was singing. He said he understood my grief, my commitment, my devotion to my wife. He said he also suspected her love for me. Len then affirmed that I am a loving person in a Christ-like manner. He did more: he said that he would pray daily for God’s intervention in my wife’s life for her healing — and in mine, for regeneration and joy. There were other occasions and people who touched me, not the least of whom was the young man who served me at a Waffle House on the morning I returned to Louisville. I’ll share that, and other stories, as I can, and if there is an interest on your part.  Shalom and many blessings and hugs, Nick

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