Lonely Loneliness

the Duck Pond

Question:

Hello everyone. I can’t tell you how good it feels to meet you all via this

support/share group.       I am forty years old and the father of three. I found out only two

weeks ago that I have ADD. Suddenly everything makes so much sense!       Yes, I have all the classic symptoms and all my life have felt

classified as a ’strange duck’. I cna’t concentrate, I lose things, forget things,       But to see you all discussing things like ‘reading a magazine

backwards’ and ‘being gifted’ takes away a lot of the loneliness which I have felt f       My theme song has been "Why am I such a misfit?" from the Rudolph

Christmas cartoon. ( sung by the elf who thought he was supposed to be a dentist       But tonight this duck has found a pond full of ducks much like

himself and he realizes that he’s not such a misfit after all. In fact, he finds th       Thanks, everybody. No, Jody!  Thank YOU!  Every post I read from someone like you reinforces Me a little bit.   Speaking of reading magazines backwards, I don’t recall ever doing that, but I used to work crossword puzzles upside down and backwards. Now is that weird or is that weird?  Did any of you ever indulge in this bit of weirdness?  Could this be a manifestation of my ADDness, or is it just plain old vanilla weird?

I’ve never read that it is a recognized symptom of ADD, but it could be a sign of right-brain thinking.  I’ve read that right-brainers, being more visual, often read backwards, upside-down, etc.  I know that I have.  I used to read books upside-down, do crossword puzzles upside-down, and write upside-down.   Primarily to add variety ( a definite ADD trait!).  

Response:

I feel exactly the same. No, that’s not a wisecrack; I DO. I’ve just been diagnosed with ADD at the age of 30; and it’s like _everything makes sense now._. Everything that I kicked myself over; the way I was obviously so bright and eloquent and enthusiastic but couldn’t sit still behind a desk or stop procrastinating or forgetting things and thus underperformed at jobs or on two occasions actually got fired; all the rest. Wow. And there are other people like me–I am not alone, as I always thought.

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Hello everyone. I can’t tell you how good it feels to meet you all via this support/share group.    I am forty years old and the father of three. I found out only two weeks ago that I have ADD. Suddenly everything makes so much sense!    Yes, I have all the classic symptoms and all my life have felt classified as a ’strange duck’. I cna’t concentrate, I lose things, forget things, am blunt at times, am artistic but have a hard time finishing projects. I have been through many jobs and the frustration built for myself AND my family. I didn’t know why. "What’s wrong with me?" I kept asking myself and God and anyone else that I trusted. No one had an answer. But now I know—and the knowing helps so much.    But to see you all discussing things like ‘reading a magazine backwards’ and ‘being gifted’ takes away a lot of the loneliness which I have felt for all these years.    My theme song has been "Why am I such a misfit?" from the Rudolph Christmas cartoon. ( sung by the elf who thought he was supposed to be a dentist, remember?)    But tonight this duck has found a pond full of ducks much like himself and he realizes that he’s not such a misfit after all. In fact, he finds that he may actually be one of a small group of people who are gifts, seasoning if you will, in a world which can be very bland and stark.    Thanks, everybody.

No, Jody!  Thank YOU!  Every post I read from someone like you reinforces Me a little bit.   Speaking of reading magazines backwards, I don’t recall ever doing that, but I used to work crossword puzzles upside down and backwards. Now is that weird or is that weird?  Did any of you ever indulge in this bit of weirdness?  Could this be a manifestation of my ADDness, or is it just plain old vanilla weird?

Response:

   My theme song has been "Why am I such a misfit?" from the Rudolph Christmas cartoon. ( sung by the elf who thought he was supposed to be a dentist, remember?)

Boy do I remember that one!  My mental image of what reality tries to do to me is one of someone trying to hammer a square peg into a round hole…oh, it *CAN* be done…but it whacks the crap out of the peg!    But tonight this duck has found a pond full of ducks much like himself and he realizes that he’s not such a misfit after all. In fact, he finds that he may actually be one of a small group of people who are gifts, seasoning if you will, in a world which can be very bland and stark.

Welcome to the land of Misfit Toys, Swan! You’re one of the lucky ones…many who are not diagnosed when a child go through life not understanding it at all…and die "alone" in their "weirdness".  Here you might learn how to cope with it better than merely in therapy…and learn what the side effects of the various meds are better than from the pharmacists’ literature…from folks who have "been there…done that…and have so many tee-shirts that they’ve opened a ‘tee shirt shop’". Hugs!!!! Cheryl

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Well..I’ll Wing it!  jo know why. "What’s wrong with me?" I kept asking myself and God and  jo anyone else that I trusted. No one had an answer. But now I know—and  jo the knowing helps so much.  it does doesent it?  It is good to find the answers to all of these questions isn’t it?  joBut to see you all discussing things like  jo ‘reading a magazine backwards’ and ‘being gifted’ takes away a lot of  jo the loneliness which I have felt for all these years.  At the very least it makes you feel like part of a group of people that  understands finally what you are talking about…  joBut tonight this duck has found a pond full of ducks much  jo like himself and he realizes that he’s not such a misfit after all. In  jo fact, he finds that he may actually be one of a small group of people  jo who are gifts, seasoning if you will, in a world which can be very  jo bland and stark.        Thanks, everybody.  Yup… welcome to the pond!  :)  Take care!                      The Constantly Innatentive Leonardo Cohen Quezada            La Conexion Mexicana, Tijuana, BCN, Mexico … Give me patience .  RIGHT NOW.

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        Yes, I have all the classic symptoms and all my life have felt

classified as a ’strange duck’.           My theme song has been "Why am I such a misfit?" from the

Rudolph Christmas cartoon. ( sung by the elf who thought he was supposed to be a dentist, remember?)         But tonight this duck has found a pond full of ducks much like

himself and he realizes that he’s not such a misfit after all. In fact, he finds that he may actually be one of a small group of people who are gifts, seasoning if you will, in a world which can be very bland and stark.         Thanks, everybody.                                 Jody

Tsk, tsk, Jody.  Look again.  Can’t you see that we aren’t "ugly duckings".  *WE* are beautiful swans.  Welcome to the pond. Gayle (another bird who just landed here:)

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