Lonely Loneliness

Uncertain of the group

Question:

Dear SidheEtain…. It makes me want to cry when I read that someone has come here for comfort and then feels they have to question whether or not this is a support group. First….it is indeed a support group, and you are most certainly welcome here.  This group has some very kind, caring, and supportive people…and you have some very good friends here waiting to be met.  Please do come back and tell us about yourself and let us become friends.   On the flip side … Sadly, we do have problems occasionally with trolls and with people that seem to derive some kind of pleasure from disrupting the group and making certain people angry….and sadly, I’m usually one of the first to fall into their trap and get angry.  This group has a "past" ….. and sometimes old wounds are sprinkled with salt.  If you would….please take a look at the messages from about a month ago, and you’ll see what this group is really about….and you’ll see the calm, caring, serene atomosphere that we usually have.   So…please do not be discouraged, and again, I urge you to come on in and join us….and know that you are most welcome here.  I know you will find encouragement and caring….and wisdom….and perhaps your experiences will help someone, too.  Also, please feel free to e-mail me if you would rather talk privately.  I love to make new friends. I’m hoping that this day is a much better day for you….and finds you smiling…. Smiles and Good Thoughts….. Gina Don’t be afraid to care Leave, but don’t leave me Look around and choose your own ground For long you live and high you fly And smiles you’ll give and tears you’ll cry And all you touch and all you see is all your life will ever be.    –  Pink Floyd

Response:

SidheEt…@webtv.net wrote: > I decided to visit this message board ecause I had a really crappy day > and just needed someone to talk to as it is late and all my friends are > asleep now.  Having read several of the posts, however, I have become > rather skeptical.  It appears that a lot of the messages here are of a > definitely non-supportive nature.  I am just curious if I have > misunderstood the heading of this group.  Please enlighten me. > Sidhe

It’s possible that the "alt." means an alternative to support. But I don’t really see it this way. I think the main explanation for you having a mixed reaction is that the group is mainly  frequented by human beings, with the occasional visit from a Celestial Representative. Moreover even when someone means well, it’s possible for another to genuinely misunderstand. Another factor which often strikes me is that the impression someone gives online may be completely unlike their real life character, therefore a quiet retiring person (sort of like Eliza) may be seen as being what I was told she’s seen as. We may sometimes appear to be a faulty bunch of bananas , but I think most of us would agree that we DO try!

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Dear Sidhe,   It stresses me when I hear this sort of fear and yet I can understand it. Please be advised that above all things one thing that is true about this group is the caring.  This is a diverse group of people from all around the world that can be extremely caring and supportive.  Unfortunately, as in any family, occasionally battles break out but rest assured you are more than welcome and will find caring as I said earlier from all around the world. With so many different personalities and reasons of loneliness there is bound to be disagreements.  Don’t be afraid to post, or even just listen (lurk) for a little while if that will make you more comfortable and you will see what I mean.  Welcome. Chief – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Gina R12 wrote in message <19990117094329.07044.00002…@ng-fr1.aol.com>… >Dear SidheEtain…. >It makes me want to cry when I read that someone has come here for comfort and >then feels they have to question whether or not this is a support group. >First….it is indeed a support group, and you are most certainly welcome here. > This group has some very kind, caring, and supportive people…and you have >some very good friends here waiting to be met.  Please do come back and tell us >about yourself and let us become friends. >On the flip side … Sadly, we do have problems occasionally with trolls and >with people that seem to derive some kind of pleasure from disrupting the group >and making certain people angry….and sadly, I’m usually one of the first to >fall into their trap and get angry.  This group has a "past" ….. and >sometimes old wounds are sprinkled with salt.  If you would….please take a >look at the messages from about a month ago, and you’ll see what this group is >really about….and you’ll see the calm, caring, serene atomosphere that we >usually have. >So…please do not be discouraged, and again, I urge you to come on in and join >us….and know that you are most welcome here.  I know you will find >encouragement and caring….and wisdom….and perhaps your experiences will >help someone, too.  Also, please feel free to e-mail me if you would rather >talk privately.  I love to make new friends. >I’m hoping that this day is a much better day for you….and finds you >smiling…. >Smiles and Good Thoughts….. >Gina >Don’t be afraid to care >Leave, but don’t leave me >Look around and choose your own ground >For long you live and high you fly >And smiles you’ll give and tears you’ll cry >And all you touch and all you see is all your life will ever be. >   —  Pink Floyd

Response:

Dear Gina and raffaele,    Thanks for the responses to my post.  I really appreciate your kindness.  I have not had a very easy life emotionally and find it extremely difficult to open up to anyone.  I am certain that others must feel the same way too, and I thank you both for your kind words of encouragement. I do not wish to bore anyone with the tragedies of my life  because I tend to get too wordy and make things longer than they need to be.  but I did just want to say I will visit here again.    Peaceful Dreaming Sidhe

Response:

Hi Sidhe, As many postings do not turn up on my screen, I sometimes react a little later. But than, what’s one week within many years of loneliness You know, it’s very difficult to bore us. I am in favour of "the writing therapy" , which means: If you need to get something off your chest, write about it. A kind of praying, but than with a bit more consciousness. So write as long a letter as you like. Than edit it. If you post this or not, doesn’t make much a different to yourself. But to us it does. Feel at home and welcome to babble on. Frans SidheEt…@webtv.net heeft geschreven in bericht <5391-36A586FD-…@newsd-241.iap.bryant.webtv.net>… Dear Gina and raffaele,    Thanks for the responses to my post.  I really appreciate your kindness.  I have not had a very easy life emotionally and find it extremely difficult to open up to anyone.  I am certain that others must feel the same way too, and I thank you both for your kind words of encouragement. I do not wish to bore anyone with the tragedies of my life  because I tend to get too wordy and make things longer than they need to be.  but I did just want to say I will visit here again.    Peaceful Dreaming Sidhe

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I decided to visit this message board ecause I had a really crappy day and just needed someone to talk to as it is late and all my friends are asleep now.  Having read several of the posts, however, I have become rather skeptical.  It appears that a lot of the messages here are of a definitely non-supportive nature.  I am just curious if I have misunderstood the heading of this group.  Please enlighten me. Sidhe

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Hi, Sidhe It is true that there are sometimes non-supportive messages posted here, but they are invariably part of some long-running and often quite obscure arguments between people who have been here for some time. I don’t think you will ever find a new poster being treated less than courteously. Whatever side of whatever trivial argument the old-timers happen to be on in a given moment, everyone here wants to be helpful and supportive to new people who post here. You can relax – you have come to the right place! I am reading all my messages delayed at present, so I expect you have already received a warm welcome from several people here. I’ll just add my welcome to the list, and say that if you need someone to talk to most people here will be happy to chat, either in posts or by email, whichever you prefer. Best wishes OB In article <5349-36A1B2AD-…@newsd-243.iap.bryant.webtv.net>,   SidheEt…@webtv.net wrote: > I decided to visit this message board ecause I had a really crappy day > and just needed someone to talk to as it is late and all my friends are > asleep now.  Having read several of the posts, however, I have become > rather skeptical.  It appears that a lot of the messages here are of a > definitely non-supportive nature.  I am just curious if I have > misunderstood the heading of this group.  Please enlighten me. > Sidhe

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Hi Sidhe! Welcome to ASL! To answer your question. You came in a bad moment. We are only human, you know, and sometimes there is a bit of anger here and there. Now it seems that the fuss is going to cool down. Actually, we have had a long period of peace from Christmas holydays to recently. Flames are usual in Usenet (the root cause of flames are the newsgroups), I guess that you’ll not find easily an unmoderated NG totally flame-free. But this one is much more peaceful and supportive than average. Besides, there is a lot of people here around, and coming from different countries. Some misunderstandings and personal dislikes are quite common. They usually involve the regulars rather than the newbies. Let me recommend you to stay for awhile, you’ll not regret it. You may wish pay a visit to the ASL WebSite (if is not down): <http://homepages.infoseek.com/~aslhome/aslhome.html> or to my unofficial ASL page (ditto): <http://www.angelfire.com/mi/raffaele55/asl.html>. Just as a hint about what to post here, our views about on-topics are broad: any subject you like. We have no official charter, but if it were there it would not be much different than that. The idea is to help with loneliness in any way, not only to focus specific issues. Best wishes Raffaele In article <5349-36A1B2AD-…@newsd-243.iap.bryant.webtv.net>,   SidheEt…@webtv.net wrote: > I decided to visit this message board ecause I had a really crappy day > and just needed someone to talk to as it is late and all my friends are > asleep now.  Having read several of the posts, however, I have become > rather skeptical.  It appears that a lot of the messages here are of a > definitely non-supportive nature.  I am just curious if I have > misunderstood the heading of this group.  Please enlighten me. > Sidhe

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