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It should be detected by all mayor virus scanners, but maybe more luck on the original name Finnpoly? What I found was: This is a Finnish polymorphic virus which infects COM and EXE files when they are executed or opened. Finnpoly activates in the year 1996 and after, when day equals month (eg. 1st of January, 2nd of February etc). At this time the virus displays defamation messages on Finnish antivirus companies and hangs the machine. Frans – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -eliza <l…@lizdan.demon.co.uk> wrote… > does anyone have info about a computer virus called Ebola? > I know it exists but can’t find a programme which detects it.

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Barbara wrote: > <chucking> > I havent seen anything on this one yet — > but did you know, you have a virus named after you? > <smiling>

didnt know about a virus called Eliza, but there’s an artificial intelligence programme! The Ebola thing, I didn’t want to be a scaremonger. I was going to email to you and Eddie privately, but remembered not to just in case it wiped off your chuckles and hard drive!   Earlier this evening I visited a photography website. The couple of photos I saw were good, and it seemed genuine enough. A cookie thing came up asking for my name so I made one up, not used to being asked that. Then another browser popped up saying click here to view profile (or portrait?) of your hard disk. Idiot me did that and the page said something like it hadn’t worked or wasn’t available. But at the bottom , I saw these words "installing ebola virus to disk3" I watched fascinated as the numbers advanced rapidly, felt like something dramatic or exciting might happen, then I got sensible and started pressing ’stop’ button, nothing happening of course. I pressed restart. When it came on again, there was no apparent startup problem so I searched for ebola  on altavista. i’d never heard of it, as a computer virus; in fact there IS one mentioned, though I saw no real info about it. I did a scan with a virus detector but everything according to that was germ free.

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Search Results "Ebola AND @FILE_TYPE virus" ————————————————————————— – —- Markus.5415 Markus.5415 is an encrypting, polymorphic, stealth, memory resident, multi-partite virus. It infects the hard disk Master Boot Record (MBR) and .EXE files. Virus Name Markus.5415 Date Added 9/15/96 Virus Characteristics Markus.5415 is an encrypting, polymorphic, stealth, memory resident, multi-partite virus. It infects the hard disk Master Boot Record (MBR) and .EXE files. Indications Of Infection Markus.5415 contains the following message: "Eeehhjj, Du genetischer Abfall !!! Na, haben wir denn gerade einen Fehler gemacht ? Vorab mochte ich mich kurz vorstellen: Mein Name ist Ebola, ich wohne auf Deiner FESTplatte, arbeite zur Zeit auf Deinem Rechner, ernahre mich von Deinem Datensalat, habe Angst meine Arbeit und meine Wohnung zu verlieren und ich weiss bescheid Dummerwiese will mich mein Vermieter loswerden, er hat wohl gerade irgent ein ‘Schadlingsbekampfungsmittel’ eingesetzt. Ich werde nun wohl besser verschwinden. Ach, ubrigens: Viel Spass bei der Renovierung meiner Wohnung ! the crazy program from MM" The translation of this message is: "Hey you genetic garbage Na, well we just made a mistake? In advance I would like to introduce myself. My name is Ebola, I live on your HardDrive. I work on your system I eat your data salad, I am afraid to lose my work and my house I know I think my landlord will get rid of me He just used ‘bug spray’ I just better disappear. PS. Have fun with the renovation of my house. the crazy program from MM" The virus is located at the end of infected files. Method Of Infection Multi-partite viruses have two main routes of infection; either as a Master Boot Record/Boot Sector Virus or as a File Infecting Virus. Most infections occur when a computer attempts to boot from an infected floppy diskette. The boot sector of the diskette has the code to determine if the diskette is bootable, and to display the "Non-system disk or disk error" message. It is this code that harbors the infection. By the time the non-system disk error message comes up, the infection has occurred. Once the virus is executed, it will infect the hard drive’s MBR and may become memory resident. With every subsequent boot, the virus will be loaded into memory and will attempt to infect floppy diskettes accessed by the machine. The second route of infection is by receiving an infected file through a multitude of sources including: floppy diskettes, downloads through an online service, network, modem connections, etc. Once the infected file is executed, the virus may activate. Virus Information   Discovery Date: 9/1/96   Origin: Germany   Length: 5,415 Bytes   Type: Multi-Partite   Prevalence: Rare Variants None Known Aliases None Known — ************ Barbara The colder the X-ray table, the moreof your body is required on it. eliza wrote in message <3817A92D.1…@lizdan.demon.co.uk>… :Barbara wrote:

:> :> <chucking> :> I havent seen anything on this one yet — :> but did you know, you have a virus named after you? :> :> <smiling> :didnt know about a virus called Eliza, but there’s an artificial :intelligence programme! : :The Ebola thing, I didn’t want to be a scaremonger. I was going to email :to you and Eddie privately, but remembered not to just in case it wiped ff your chuckles and hard drive! :Earlier this evening I visited a photography website. The couple of :photos I saw were good, and it seemed genuine enough. A cookie thing :came up asking for my name so I made one up, not used to being asked :that. Then another browser popped up saying click here to view profile or portrait?) of your hard disk. Idiot me did that and the page said :something like it hadn’t worked or wasn’t available. But at the bottom , :I saw these words :"installing ebola virus to disk3" :I watched fascinated as the numbers advanced rapidly, felt like :something dramatic or exciting might happen, then I got sensible and :started pressing ’stop’ button, nothing happening of course. I pressed :restart. :When it came on again, there was no apparent startup problem so I :searched for ebola  on altavista. i’d never heard of it, as a computer :virus; in fact there IS one mentioned, though I saw no real info about :it. I did a scan with a virus detector but everything according to that :was germ free. :

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many thanks for the advice,  Barbara and co. I’ve done more checks and it looks as though we have survived.

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Michael Maddogg wrote: >Very well said, Gina… and a very eloquent answer, to an >obviously clumsy attempt at ridiculing you..

<friendly snip> Dear Michael… {{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}} and thank you. People like you….the ones that are genuinely caring and honest….are the reason I want and need to be here. I don’t understand the animosity some have towards me and a few others….and I’m trying to learn to feel sorry for them, for their lives must indeed be empty and sad for them to be jealous of people they’ve never met.  Well…you know the ol’ saying about how people try to drag others down in the dirt with them….It somehow makes them feel better.  I’ve never understood that concept.  I feel better if I am able to lift someone in some way….not hurt anyone or put them down. Anyway…thanks again.  I’m very fortunate to have such a special friend as you. Hugs and Smiles, Gina "May you always know the truth, And see the lights surrounding you… May you always be courageous, Stand upright and be strong…"             —Bob Dylan

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In article <ut6qasBI$GA.267@cpmsnbbsa02>, Unicorn <unic…@internet-directory.net> wrote: > Nanny thanks for carrying.. > Hi J..  Welcome back to ASL.. > I read your post.. and I only had one thought.. > Do you.. love you..  for if you can’t like or love yourself.. > how can another.. you did not say that, and you sound down, but it was what > I wondered..

      Yes and no. I guess that really makes very little sense but I do not know what to say. I am not unhappy with where I am in life. I enjoy what I do. I am happy in that sense. Love myself? I don’t really know what that means, well no, I know what it means but I just do not know. I am not happy with my being alone all of my life so I guess that doesn’t help- I just do not know. > How is  your self confidence, outside of finding love and romance.. > and born of poor parenting of your parents..

               I think you really misunderstood. My parents are great. I think I am very, very lucky to have the parents that I do. What I was saying is that is does not help my self confidence to have only been loved by my parents. My parents love me, but no one else ever has- can you understand what I am saying? It’s like this— you go through life and your mother tells you all the time, " You are so handsome. You are so smart. You are so wonderful. You are so this. You are so that."   You see what I mean? If I was so handsome and smart and whatever else, don’t you think others would see that as well? Do you not think that someone in 28 years some female would tell me the same thing? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Pamela

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Very well said, Gina… and a very eloquent answer, to an obviously clumsy attempt at ridiculing you… just why is it that some people are so lacking in integrity, that they feel they can hide behind some phony alias, simply to use that *perceived* anonymity, to try to harm others?… how sad for them… Gina, I am glad you are here with us… I know you have a very full life, and that you fit in well in your professional life, and that your family life is very full, as well… I only wish my life were so full… (smile)… but I am glad you know you may come here anytime, for any reason, to pass the time with your friends, as you give of yourself to others, and help to make our lives, less lonely… thank you, dear Gina…                                 warm hugs,                                 Michael In article <19991026170129.21788.00000…@ng-ba1.aol.com>, gina…@aol.com – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -(Gina) wrote: >ourbrian wrote: >>good to see you still here Gina >>though I’m real sorry you’re so lonely >>guess it’s hard for folk like you to fit in anywhere >Oops….fooled again.   >Oh…please don’t feel sorry to see me still here.   I love ASL !!  It’s my >refuge, where I find care, kindness and support….and I am able to give some >care, kindness in return….and the best way to make yourself happy is to make >someone else happy.   That’s one good thing I can say about myself…I’m pretty >diverse, interested in many things…. and able to  fit in just about anywhere. > I’m here because I want to be here….and I need to be here because I want to >be here. >Smiles…. >Gina >"It’s not enough to rage against the lie… >You’ve got to replace it with the truth." >                    – Bono (U2) >Visit the Official ASL FAQ at: >http://members.aol.co

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That is funny in a way…A post from was it Eliza or Barb, was saying how the virus was originally German…. Here, it says Finnish… I wonder how many other countries are said in various websites and so on to be the originator, then…. Maybe if it got to a Canadian site they’d call it "Frog sent"?;-) Best to you __  "Frans" – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -(bow…@club.tip.nl) writes: > It should be detected by all mayor virus scanners, but maybe more luck on > the original name Finnpoly? > What I found was: This is a Finnish polymorphic virus which infects COM and > EXE files when they are executed or opened. Finnpoly activates in the year > 1996 and after, when day equals month (eg. 1st of January, 2nd of February > etc). At this time the virus displays defamation messages on Finnish > antivirus companies and hangs the machine. > Frans > eliza <l…@lizdan.demon.co.uk> wrote… >> does anyone have info about a computer virus called Ebola? >> I know it exists but can’t find a programme which detects it.

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does anyone have info about a computer virus called Ebola? I know it exists but can’t find a programme which detects it.

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I don’t but would be curious if you do find someone with it, the program that is.  Be well Hugs Eddie (Chief) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -eliza wrote: > does anyone have info about a computer virus called Ebola? > I know it exists but can’t find a programme which detects it.

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Good Job Barbara, You impressed me in your research abilities… 1996 .. Norton has to have this one on the list.. Pamela Barbara <bgr…@intouch.bc.ca> wrote in message

news:XhNR3.11$Gi7.217921@news1.van.metronet.ca… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Search Results > "Ebola AND @FILE_TYPE virus" > ————————————————————————– — > —- > Markus.5415 > Markus.5415 is an encrypting, polymorphic, stealth, memory resident, > multi-partite virus. It infects the hard disk Master Boot Record (MBR) and > .EXE files. > Virus Name > Markus.5415 > Date Added > 9/15/96 > Virus Characteristics > Markus.5415 is an encrypting, polymorphic, stealth, memory resident, > multi-partite virus. It infects the hard disk Master Boot Record (MBR) and > .EXE files. > Indications Of Infection > Markus.5415 contains the following message: > "Eeehhjj, Du genetischer Abfall !!! > Na, haben wir denn gerade einen Fehler gemacht ? > Vorab mochte ich mich kurz vorstellen: > Mein Name ist Ebola, > ich wohne auf Deiner FESTplatte, arbeite zur Zeit auf Deinem > Rechner, ernahre mich von Deinem Datensalat, habe Angst meine > Arbeit und meine Wohnung zu verlieren > und ich weiss bescheid > Dummerwiese will mich mein Vermieter loswerden, er hat wohl > gerade irgent ein ‘Schadlingsbekampfungsmittel’ eingesetzt. > Ich werde nun wohl besser verschwinden. > Ach, ubrigens: Viel Spass bei der Renovierung meiner Wohnung ! > the > crazy program from > MM" > The translation of this message is: > "Hey you genetic garbage > Na, well we just made a mistake? > In advance I would like to introduce myself. > My name is Ebola, > I live on your HardDrive. I work on your system > I eat your data salad, I am afraid to lose my work and my house > I know > I think my landlord will get rid of me > He just used ‘bug spray’ > I just better disappear. > PS. Have fun with the renovation of my house. > the crazy program > from > MM" > The virus is located at the end of infected files. > Method Of Infection > Multi-partite viruses have two main routes of infection; either as a Master > Boot Record/Boot Sector Virus or as a File Infecting Virus. > Most infections occur when a computer attempts to boot from an infected > floppy diskette. The boot sector of the diskette has the code to determine > if the diskette is bootable, and to display the "Non-system disk or disk > error" message. It is this code that harbors the infection. By the time the > non-system disk error message comes up, the infection has occurred. > Once the virus is executed, it will infect the hard drive’s MBR and may > become memory resident. With every subsequent boot, the virus will be loaded > into memory and will attempt to infect floppy diskettes accessed by the > machine. > The second route of infection is by receiving an infected file through a > multitude of sources including: floppy diskettes, downloads through an > online service, network, modem connections, etc. Once the infected file is > executed, the virus may activate. > Virus Information >   Discovery Date: 9/1/96 >   Origin: Germany >   Length: 5,415 Bytes >   Type: Multi-Partite >   Prevalence: Rare > Variants > None Known > Aliases > None Known > — > ************ > Barbara > The colder the X-ray table, the moreof your body is required on it. > eliza wrote in message <3817A92D.1…@lizdan.demon.co.uk>… > :Barbara wrote: > :> > :> <chucking> > :> I havent seen anything on this one yet — > :> but did you know, you have a virus named after you? > :> > :> <smiling> > :didnt know about a virus called Eliza, but there’s an artificial > :intelligence programme! > : > :The Ebola thing, I didn’t want to be a scaremonger. I was going to email > :to you and Eddie privately, but remembered not to just in case it wiped > ff your chuckles and hard drive! > :Earlier this evening I visited a photography website. The couple of > :photos I saw were good, and it seemed genuine enough. A cookie thing > :came up asking for my name so I made one up, not used to being asked > :that. Then another browser popped up saying click here to view profile > or portrait?) of your hard disk. Idiot me did that and the page said > :something like it hadn’t worked or wasn’t available. But at the bottom , > :I saw these words > :"installing ebola virus to disk3" > :I watched fascinated as the numbers advanced rapidly, felt like > :something dramatic or exciting might happen, then I got sensible and > :started pressing ’stop’ button, nothing happening of course. I pressed > :restart. > :When it came on again, there was no apparent startup problem so I > :searched for ebola  on altavista. i’d never heard of it, as a computer > :virus; in fact there IS one mentioned, though I saw no real info about > :it. I did a scan with a virus detector but everything according to that > :was germ free. > :

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Hi J, I don’t know if this is any help but let’s see. When I was younger I would try to get a girl’s attention by appealing to her need for friendship. This worked very well up to a point. I was in a spot in that I had lots of girls who were friends but if I wanted to push it, I would probably not only lose their friendship but also be looked on as (at best) not being the most genuine guy around. Although it does’nt always come easy, Do you make it plain quite early on that you do find the girl attractive etc.? That way you both know where you stand. You have not wasted the lady’s time or your own and both of you can move on. If I have missed the mark tell me. Regards Ken – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -J wrote: > Hello I’m J. > I have not been here in years but have been feeling down and frustrated > lately. There are a LOT of people in here now. > My story: I am 28 years old and single. I have been single all of my > life. Never been on a date, never had sex, never been kissed, never > enev held hands with a girl. Lately I have been thinking about this a > whole lot. I used to be bitter and angry and then I changed that and > thought things would get better and I would eventually meet someone. I > used to frequent this group a lot and I no longer see any names I know. > Lately I have been thinking that if I have lived this long without > having the experience of relationships that I might never. I have come > to the point in life where all of my friends are getting married/having > kids/engaged etc. etc. I just cannot even see it in my hopes and dreams > of the future anymore. Is there anyone who understands this?? > Just thought I would throw this out and see what people think. It is > really started to bother me again after a few years of trying. I just > do not understand it. I have great people skills. I have a lot of great > friends ( mostly men ) and I meet friends very easily. But when it > comes to women and romance – nothing. I do not know what to do. I am > very, very tired of being lonely. When I say lonely I mean in the sense > of loved. > It really hurts the ego to have only been loved by your parents and not > romantically.

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Nanny thanks for carrying.. Hi J..  Welcome back to ASL.. I read your post.. and I only had one thought.. Do you.. love you..  for if you can’t like or love yourself.. how can another.. you did not say that, and you sound down, but it was what I wondered.. How is  your self confidence, outside of finding love and romance.. and born of poor parenting of your parents.. Pamela Nanny <nan…@4catscd-online.nl> wrote in message

news:7v207d$n7i$2@news.worldonline.nl… <respectful snip good stuff> – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> J wrote in message <241019992039448280%jsharbe…@earthlink.net>… > >Hello I’m J. > >I have not been here in years but have been feeling down and frustrated > >lately. There are a LOT of people in here now. > >My story: I am 28 years old and single. I have been single all of my > >life. Never been on a date, never had sex, never been kissed, never > >enev held hands with a girl. Lately I have been thinking about this a > >whole lot. I used to be bitter and angry and then I changed that and > >thought things would get better and I would eventually meet someone. I > >used to frequent this group a lot and I no longer see any names I know. > >Lately I have been thinking that if I have lived this long without > >having the experience of relationships that I might never. I have come > >to the point in life where all of my friends are getting married/having > >kids/engaged etc. etc. I just cannot even see it in my hopes and dreams > >of the future anymore. Is there anyone who understands this?? > >Just thought I would throw this out and see what people think. It is > >really started to bother me again after a few years of trying. I just > >do not understand it. I have great people skills. I have a lot of great > >friends ( mostly men ) and I meet friends very easily. But when it > >comes to women and romance – nothing. I do not know what to do. I am > >very, very tired of being lonely. When I say lonely I mean in the sense > >of loved. > >It really hurts the ego to have only been loved by your parents and not > >romantically.

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In article <19991025215418.26177.00001…@ng-bj1.aol.com>, Gina <gina…@aol.com> wrote:

……….>  I can only tell you > that 28 is still young….so there is still time, as long as you maintain some > hope.  If you give up hope…then you’ve lost.

      I really have not given up hope it really isn’t all that simple.           I have just allways had dreams as we all have. In my thoughts of the future I could always see that one day I would be like others- wife, kids, etc. and now I just do not see it happening. I have many other things that are going very good for me in life and dreams that are coming true because I am making them come true. I guess that I do no know how to take the initiative and make the effort to make this other dream come true and now it just doesn’t even seem realistic. > I was wondering though….why have you never been on a date ?   Have you ever > asked a girl out ?  If not…then why ?  That’s your first step, J —- and > you > need to take it one step at a time.  Soooo…the first thing you have to do is > ask someone out. > Do you have trouble doing that ?  I hope I’m not getting too personal….but > we > have to start at the beginning, ya know.

      Well yes, I have asked a few girls out in the past but it has been a very long time. The problem is is that when I meet a girl and become her friend I always end up as the big brother/little brother, funny guy, just a friend, etc. It happens every time. > Smiles for my new friend…

   ….and smiles to you, thanks – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Gina > "It’s not enough to rage against the lie… > You’ve got to replace it with the truth." >                     — Bono (U2) > Visit the Official ASL FAQ at: > http://members.aol.co

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Hi J…..Wow !!!   I’ve been here a while, and it’s kinda intriguing to be able to communicate with one of the pioneers…so to speak.  :-)  I am, however, sorry that after all this time, you feel the tug of loneliness — but glad that you know where to come to find understanding. I’ve been racking my brains trying to come up with some magnificent advice for you….but to be honest with you…..I don’t have a clue.  I can only tell you that 28 is still young….so there is still time, as long as you maintain some hope.  If you give up hope…then you’ve lost.   I was wondering though….why have you never been on a date ?   Have you ever asked a girl out ?  If not…then why ?  That’s your first step, J —- and you need to take it one step at a time.  Soooo…the first thing you have to do is ask someone out. Do you have trouble doing that ?  I hope I’m not getting too personal….but we have to start at the beginning, ya know.   Smiles for my new friend… Gina "It’s not enough to rage against the lie… You’ve got to replace it with the truth."                     — Bono (U2) Visit the Official ASL FAQ at: http://members.aol.co

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Hey Frank….Most excellent advice and observations. Smiles, Gina "It’s not enough to rage against the lie… You’ve got to replace it with the truth."                     — Bono (U2) Visit the Official ASL FAQ at: http://members.aol.co

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good to see you still here Gina though I’m real sorry you’re so lonely guess it’s hard for folk like you to fit in anywhere On 26 Oct 1999 01:57:05 GMT gina…@aol.com (Gina) wrote: > Hey Frank….Most excellent advice and observations. > Smiles, > Gina

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ourbrian wrote: >good to see you still here Gina >though I’m real sorry you’re so lonely >guess it’s hard for folk like you to fit in anywhere

Oops….fooled again.   Oh…please don’t feel sorry to see me still here.   I love ASL !!  It’s my refuge, where I find care, kindness and support….and I am able to give some care, kindness in return….and the best way to make yourself happy is to make someone else happy.   That’s one good thing I can say about myself…I’m pretty diverse, interested in many things…. and able to  fit in just about anywhere.  I’m here because I want to be here….and I need to be here because I want to be here. Smiles…. Gina "It’s not enough to rage against the lie… You’ve got to replace it with the truth."                     — Bono (U2) Visit the Official ASL FAQ at: http://members.aol.co

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Hi J Welcome back ! You say you make friends very easily, couldn’t you make friends with girls the same way you do with men, and not focus too much on the love part at first ? Nanny — Don’t be reckless with other peoples hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours. To reply by email remove 4cats. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -J wrote in message <241019992039448280%jsharbe…@earthlink.net>… >Hello I’m J. >I have not been here in years but have been feeling down and frustrated >lately. There are a LOT of people in here now. >My story: I am 28 years old and single. I have been single all of my >life. Never been on a date, never had sex, never been kissed, never >enev held hands with a girl. Lately I have been thinking about this a >whole lot. I used to be bitter and angry and then I changed that and >thought things would get better and I would eventually meet someone. I >used to frequent this group a lot and I no longer see any names I know. >Lately I have been thinking that if I have lived this long without >having the experience of relationships that I might never. I have come >to the point in life where all of my friends are getting married/having >kids/engaged etc. etc. I just cannot even see it in my hopes and dreams >of the future anymore. Is there anyone who understands this?? >Just thought I would throw this out and see what people think. It is >really started to bother me again after a few years of trying. I just >do not understand it. I have great people skills. I have a lot of great >friends ( mostly men ) and I meet friends very easily. But when it >comes to women and romance – nothing. I do not know what to do. I am >very, very tired of being lonely. When I say lonely I mean in the sense >of loved. >It really hurts the ego to have only been loved by your parents and not >romantically.

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J Wrote: >hello, hello, hello > I have not been here in about two years or so. I see there are a whole >lot of faces. There used to be only about 20 or so people posting.WOW!

The inverse snowball effect does miracles. Believe me, I’m just as amazed as you are. >Well i guess I will say the reason I am here. I am 28 and single. I >have always been single. I am tired of being single. I am seriously >beginning to think that I always will be single and I really do not >prefer to live like that. I used to vent to this group and I was very >angry and bitter with life. I used to stare hatefully when seeing >couple walking down the street. I was angry but that has changed. I am >not really angry anymore. I try to enjoy life the best I can but now >all my

No one wants to be lonely, humans are social creatures. Some ppl will always be more fortunate than others, that’s part of the lottery of life but to fell angry at them for being the lucky ones doesn’t help. >friends are getting married and having kids and I have never been on a >date, never held hands, never kissed a woman, etc. etc. >Lately I have been thinking that I might never. I mean 28 years is a >real long time. A real long time. Not just the sexual frustration, but >also the mental frustration- it’s pretty hard on one’s ego to have >never been loved except by one’s parents.

Never never never look at what others do. Comparing ourselves to other ppl is a bad idea– we are all *different*. Being successful is not easy, it’s combination of three things: work, effort and luck. Some ppl seem to have it easy. But envying them is just about the worse thing we can do. More often than not, ppl show us only one side of their life. That’s part of a successful image making effort. So in effect they provide us with the impression that all is okay whereas it’s not always so. Sometimes you have to show ppl a smile, even if you don’t fell like smiling, it’s one of those social conventions that sucks at times– ppl don’t like ppl who are down. That’s the spiral effect, no-one talks to you and you are down, because you are down nobody talk to you. Breaking the cycle takes a change in attitude. Try to show some sunshine, use your best smile and you will see some changes. When we look happy, ppl are invariably more open toward us. To fell positive about ourselves makes all the difference. <metaphor> The neighbor’s lawn always looks better than ours. There’s no secret to it, he sprays water on it everyday. If you would do the same, yours would be just as green. Try it. </metaphor> Regards, Frank B. * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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Hello I’m J. I have not been here in years but have been feeling down and frustrated lately. There are a LOT of people in here now. My story: I am 28 years old and single. I have been single all of my life. Never been on a date, never had sex, never been kissed, never enev held hands with a girl. Lately I have been thinking about this a whole lot. I used to be bitter and angry and then I changed that and thought things would get better and I would eventually meet someone. I used to frequent this group a lot and I no longer see any names I know. Lately I have been thinking that if I have lived this long without having the experience of relationships that I might never. I have come to the point in life where all of my friends are getting married/having kids/engaged etc. etc. I just cannot even see it in my hopes and dreams of the future anymore. Is there anyone who understands this?? Just thought I would throw this out and see what people think. It is really started to bother me again after a few years of trying. I just do not understand it. I have great people skills. I have a lot of great friends ( mostly men ) and I meet friends very easily. But when it comes to women and romance – nothing. I do not know what to do. I am very, very tired of being lonely. When I say lonely I mean in the sense of loved. It really hurts the ego to have only been loved by your parents and not romantically.

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Hi J, please feel welcome here. Don’t know if I’m able to give helpful advise, but I do know the harder you pull, the likelier ‘they’ want to break away. Just put the good things within you on display as much as you are able to and try to get more good things, others might notice… Fishing can look boring and a near endless time of waiting… But when the float moves… Frans – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -J <jsharbe…@earthlink.net> wrote… > Hello I’m J. > I have not been here in years but have been feeling down and frustrated > lately. There are a LOT of people in here now. > My story: I am 28 years old and single. I have been single all of my > life. Never been on a date, never had sex, never been kissed, never > enev held hands with a girl. Lately I have been thinking about this a > whole lot. I used to be bitter and angry and then I changed that and > thought things would get better and I would eventually meet someone. I > used to frequent this group a lot and I no longer see any names I know. > Lately I have been thinking that if I have lived this long without > having the experience of relationships that I might never. I have come > to the point in life where all of my friends are getting married/having > kids/engaged etc. etc. I just cannot even see it in my hopes and dreams > of the future anymore. Is there anyone who understands this?? > Just thought I would throw this out and see what people think. It is > really started to bother me again after a few years of trying. I just > do not understand it. I have great people skills. I have a lot of great > friends ( mostly men ) and I meet friends very easily. But when it > comes to women and romance – nothing. I do not know what to do. I am > very, very tired of being lonely. When I say lonely I mean in the sense > of loved. > It really hurts the ego to have only been loved by your parents and not > romantically.

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