Lonely Loneliness

Sadness

Question:

((((((((((((KELLY)))))))))))))))))))) I’m sorry you’re hurting.  Hang in there.  You’re not stupid. ~RJ * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

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 : ( Wordless and stupid.   Everything that is is holy.

Response:

    I know what you mean about conflict though.  I fear it too,  which is kind of funny since I am almost always in it at work or burying my feelings so I don’t make conflict.  At home,  if my husband is upset or seems to be on the verge of getting upset I tense in anticipation.  Not that he does anything horrible like physical abuse,  but I just can’t handle the anger, even when he denies that he is angry at me I still feel it and it panics me.  

I am the same way, and that is one of the reasons my husband and I are separated now – he has a rather volatile family and a lot of anger in himself that probably had nothing to do with me but absolutely terrified me.  I was an only child, so not used to a lot of noise and arguing – I have until recently been very fearful about confrontation.

Response:

- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Once in  a while I have a day or two when sadness seems like my primary  feeling. It’s partly a feeling of loneliness and partly a feeling of being left out or not being part of things. It seems like a feeling from my past, my childhood and early teens.   It’s like I am not capable of feeling like I belong to a family or a group. It’s very sad. All my life I’ve tried to find families or groups I can belong to. But I get scared when there is a lot of fighting between the people I care for. When I hear them fighting, I get afraid that they’ll turn on me or that the family will be unhapy and always mad at each other, and that it won’t be the loving family I though it it was. Oh, gee, now I’ve admitted to you that I get shook up at something that is natural in many families – conflict. Something scary to me that I haven’t been able to overcome. I end up afraid of being lonely, all alone with no one to talk to who understands. And I feel ashamed of myself that I am this way. I don’t know if this fits into ASD guidelines as an acceptable post, feeling sad for yourself. Maybe I just want to see how ASD people react or respond to someone who feels this way. Maybe I just want you to know I feel lonely, not quite a part of things. Hugs to you all.

Great post IMHO.  Don’t we all feel this way to some extent at some time??  Can you identify specific memories of having this feeling about your family of origin??  How was it revealed to you, how did others respond, how did you respond??  I am not a therapist (I only play one here on ASD), but I would wager that you are a good candidate for some kind of psychotherapy. Sincerely Stewart — The Metaphor Man

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